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KARYN PARSONS:IT’S HARD BEING BIRACIAL IN AMERICA/RAISING BIRACIAL KIDS

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Karyn Parsons,who played Hillary Banks on syndicated television show the Fresh Prince of Bel Air, says that it is hard being biracial in America. In addition,the actress turned producer/writer says that it is harder raising bi-racial kids. Karyn says that her daughter Lana,4, came out looking like the “whitest white child with blonde hair and blue eyes” and her son Nico,11 months, came out looking “browner than [she is]“. Read Karyn’s interview with Essence.com below:

Essence.com: Your mother is Black and your father White. What’s been your biggest challenge being biracial in America?

K.P.: Well, it’s hard. When I saw Barack’s speech on race, I cried and I felt like, there’s the speech I’ve been wanting to write. I’ve been thinking about writing about race for a long time. It’s very interesting how we feel about each other in terms of race. When I’m around Black or White people, I’m always in the middle. Especially when I am around Black people; they will really tell how they feel about White people regardless of the fact that I’m also White and have White relatives. It’s very interesting and can be really hard.

Essence.com: It’s definitely an issue our society still faces.

K.P.: Exactly. And I’m married to a White man, and then my daughter came out looking like the whitest White child with blonde hair and blue eyes. And I’m like, Omigosh, now what am I going to do? She has my mom’s features and is lighter than my husband. And my boy is browner than I am. Brown eyes and really tan. The race thing is something we continue to deal with and just have to learn to love ourselves and others.

In 2005,Karyn and her husband wanted to “instill a sense of culture and heritage to their daughter” and so they started an award-winning collection of African-American children’s DVD’s.

Essence.com: Congrats to you on the success of your award-winning collection of African-American children’s DVDs, which aired on HBO. How did you get into writing for children?

Karyn Parsons: While I was on Fresh Prince, my mother, who was head of book resources at a college library, told me the incredible story of Henry ‘Box’ Brown, a slave who mailed himself in a small box from Virginia to Pennsylvania to find freedom. Talk about determination! That was such an obvious story to tell kids and it stayed with me. A few years later, I talked to my husband about it. He was really fascinated with it as well and pushed me to just do it, and bring the story to life.

Essence.com: Well, we are glad you did. That is an eye-opening story that people need to know.

K.P.: And they really have been receptive. I started my company Sweet Blackberry in 2004 and The Journey of Henry ‘Box’ Brown was our first DVD. It was an easy way to introduce slavery to young kids. It can be difficult for parents and teachers to explain that part of our history. It was an interesting experience and kept me thinking, Is that too much? Does the whip crack in this scene? We all love to hear a good story, and Alfre Woodard was amazing as the narrator. It aired on HBO in February for Black History Month. Our second story was Garret’s Gift, about a teenage Garret A. Morgan, who invented the traffic light, and Queen Latifah narrated for us, which was great.

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  1. Prejudice and bigotry originate from personal experiences. Since everyone has them, everyone is prejudiced and bigoted. The key is what you do and the approach you take to compensating or dealing with them. So many reinforce hurtful stereotypes and prejudices that it may appear that there is no hope. But the lessons we can take from our past are that there are many reasons to hope. Perseverance and effort are the keys. When I meet someone who is not making any attempt to address there hurtful prejudices, I walk away. Time is too short.

  2. Her kids will have less of a problem than those born into broken families or poor ones. She need not worry all too much. My own has two daughters from there mothers 1st marriage. My wife divorced him and eventually moved quite a way from him. He was, unfortunately, ghetto. He was chronically unfaithful. The oldest never dated a black boy or man. The youngest accused her of being a race traitor and went to the worst end of “being authentically black” as a nightmare could construct. Their Mom tried raising them without regard to race and without mentioning their Dad and things didn’t quite go very well. I am of German and Irish descent. Being raised in a ‘white’ home with your birth mother, who has a ‘white’ husband, didn’t erase any problems for them growing up. I love them as much as I can and always will. Their children are my grandchildren. I’m the only Dad they’ve ever known and ever will.

    Openness and honesty make a big difference.

  3. Definitely an interesting and inspirational interview. I wish that the older folks would just stop instilling hatred and racism into their children and grandchildren, so that the new generation will become free of prejudice and stereotypes. A comment as simple and seemingly innocent as “that’s how the Mexicans are” does leave a mark in our children’s minds and can later on develop into a form of racism.

    I have a rule. Never judge a person by his/her color or nationality. This includes never asking a person where he/she is from or where his/her parents originally come from. Once you hear the answer,a million things might go on in your head leading to conclusions, judgements and misconceptions. It’s better to get to know a person and look beyond color, race and gender.

  4. Karen Parson is a great actress, and this world is a mess, they will never be satisfied, look at people in their own race, all races don’t get along 100%. Just be happy who you are, God knew who you were going to be, before your parents even thought about you. He made us all, and what God has made, he made very good and he’s proud of us. He loves all of us, i would like to see Karen Parson in some more movies, she is so pretty, and don’t cut you hair. If they want it short, wear a wig, or weave. She is a natural beauty. I would like to she her play a wife and mother. Or a Lawyer, Doctor, come on their is so many roles she can play. Like in the Family Reunion, that Tyler Perry made,she could have easily played one of the sisters, cousins, give me a break. It seems like once you do a sitcom, they don’t give these actress,many other roles in Hollywood. Hope to see you see in the big screen again. I like the movie Major Payne.

  5. I find it to be hard to be white in america. Where I live in south texas I here a lot of mexicans say white people are so racist. White people look at me. I feel like as a white person how can you be comfortable and chill with people when if you do something or say. Something wrong, people automatically assume you are racist just because you have white skin. I feel like you can say whatever you want about white people but you better not say anything about anyone else, or prepare to get ur ass kicked or chewed out. I married outside my race and my husband is not like most people I come across who always want to tell me how they have it harder or how white people are. He loves me for me and he is definitly special. I don’t care what the rest of america thinks about our interacial marriage. Love has no color.

  6. Hillary was my favorite character next to Will Smith on the show. Karyn ( Hillary) looked just like my best friends mother, they could have been twins, both are light skin, it`s their face that is similar. Wow!, I knew Karyn was mixed, but for one, I didn`t know that she married a white man or didn`t know that she felt that way about her race. I am black, mixed with white and indian, and I am proud of what I am, and can`t wait to tell my future children someday of where they camed from.. Both of my parents are black, I have white and indian ancestors on both sides, which I think is pretty cool, Karyn, just look at it like this God made you bi-racial for a reason and HE made you and your children beautiful and with Love.

  7. I’m Biracial.
    After reading most of this.
    I have concluded I hate humanity, humans, and everything about it.
    Most of you here are sick individuals.

    Most of you have no idea what it feels like to be mixed, and not be able to fit in with both cultures that you are apart of. It leaves a deep empty feeling in you.

    Most of my life my mother, and others have shoved “You’re black” and all this Black heritage down my throat to the point to where I wanted to throw up.
    In fact, I resent being half black very much.
    I have white-olive skin “very tan in summer” with black curly hair and other mixed features
    When people ask me what I am, I tell them I’m Cuban “Since I look Hispanic and can pass for that”.
    I don’t want to be affiliated with anything to do with myself.
    And so now I’m learning spanish.
    Solo sabe a poco espanol.
    But anyways yeah.
    I say Cuban because suddenly people suddenly say, “Oh, yeah I thought so”. Even that makes me sick to my stomach. That statement basically tells me they wanted to put me in a category. I don’t want to be a damn label. I want to just be a normal person.

    I’m offended by a lot of what I have read.
    And I am strongly against interracial mixing as a result of what I have been through.

    No, I don’t want be be looked at as “Black”.
    I didn’t deny it at first UNTIL people ONLY looked at me as just “Black” or just “light skinned”.
    If you were to say I was Black-White I would have no problem, but no, people want to lump me in and “put” me somewhere where THEY want me.
    I am my own person and I have the right to be what I want to be.
    But apparently most people don’t recognize that.

    Well, those are my thoughts I think I’m done ranting.

    • I’m sorry your experience with humanity has been so painful. I do want to say Im white and was raised in the Midwest. I have had biracial and black children in my care and have experienced prejudice which hurt me deeply and shocked me greatly that there was so much cold ignorance in society. I also want to tell you no matter what race we are, we all experience a lonely cold world from time to time. I have often felt like I did not belong here on earth due to the hate that lives here. I often remind myself that I create my own reality and I try to give my world love. I now have a beautiful granddaughter from my son and she has a black mother. I love them all so much. I pray and hope that my grandbaby will find love and happiness in this world. I hope that instead of denying your heritage you’ll someday choose to educate others just by showing them nothing more than self acceptance. Be proud of who you are. Your thoughts create your reality. Your reality should be that you love yourself and love your heritage on both sides because they make you…YOU.

    • I totally understand you. I’m an ambiguous phenotype mulatto and I have been in a liminal state my whole life and somewhat of a loner because of that. I’ve passed as white, cuban and used to be pro black. I could write a book from my experiences. I’ve even gone as far as labeling myself a tragic mulatto. I’ve had a hard time finding love, for myself and for others. We are a lost people no matter how much we try to convince ourselves otherwise. Even President Obama went through personal turmoil in his life b/c of being mulatto. I use the term mulatto b/c this word defines me exactly, black and white. Biracial and multiracial is too broad of a term. I believe hapas biracials (Asian + white) have a much different experience than do us mulatto biracials, etc.

    • Dude,

      Your racial background is NOT your problem. Your problem is that you care too dang much what people think. If you consider yourself black-white then when someone asks your racial background you just say “black-white” or “biracial.” What is so dang hard about that. I look like a total whitey, but my dad was supposedly part white, Italian, and Indian. There weren’t a lot of Italians in Appalachia in the 19th century and my dad looked kind of like James Earl Jones. They were just trying to hide their black blood. Just call yourself whatever you want. I look white, so I call myself white, but at least I can approach race with the reality that I am “something else.” Calm done and embrace your diversity

    • I agree, and that is the way my hubby and I raised our children to accept both identities, without apologies, justifications or explinations. They are equally both of us. – so far it has worked out well for my 2 now grown children.

  8. Obama lover.. I am biracial.. and i can testify that biracial people do not look just like black people as you said.. Biracial people are a mix of two races.. and we get characteristics from both sides of the family.. Some biracial people look more like one race than the other… But we are not solely black and we do not look just like the black race… some of us have wavy hair and white features, others have kinkier hair and black features.. there are infinite possibilities of how we look… so by saying we look just like the black race shows some ignorance on your part.. I am one of the biracial people with predominantly white features.. I do not look just like the black race and neither does my sister Kady, although she resembles our black father more than our white mother. And biracial children have less kinky hair which helps to distinguish us from the black race although some of us may have kinky hair and some blacks may have hair like us (if they are mixed from a far or are some kind of genetic throw back or something).. and also we are not just white with black family members.. thats the same as calling us white with black family members… We are black and white or whatever other mixture a biracial person can be.. We don’t need to show preference for either race that we are mixed with.. so in conclusion we are both black and white so therefore we arent to be considered as black just because we are mixed with black, and we do not look just like the black race.

  9. This is by far the dumbest thing ever. Children at such a young age do not fully grasp the complexity and concept of race. This has been shown in numerous studies and it has also been shown that the more you influence children to cross identify their personality with their race the more race conscious they are when they get older. This is why Bi-Racial people often fill ostracized from society. Karyn is doing a disservice to the mental health of her children by shoving down their throats what she calls “heritage” and not only that, but “black heritage”. I didn’t see any mention of her letting them watch videos of “white heritage”. Does she assume that because she has children that look white they will automatically claim that identity? If anything, feeding them Black History Month will only accomplish the fact that they’ll most likely choose to refer to themselves as one race: black. Children are not aware of racial differences at that age, they recognize colors and they normally associate them with a metonymy such as chocolate or vanilla, not black or white. If she wants to teach them about their diverse background she’s doing a horrible job at it. It just sounds as if Karyn has a hard time feeling accepted herself when “acceptance” should not be at the top of her priorities. Obviously her parents brought up race way to often their household when she was a child. Instilling race relations in her children before their brains have even developed fully enough to comprehend such a topic will only do more damage than good. When they’re old enough (around 9-12) she should really focus on teaching them about both sides of their ethnic backgrounds and not about the color of their skin.
    Race is only a social concept, ethnicity is a heritage and that they are one of two racial backgrounds, not one or the other. She should also teach them that race does not define who they are, but the content of their character does to insure that these two children are not consumed with “racial identity”

    I recommend “I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla” written by a Psychologist by the name of Margaret Wright. She goes into further detail about this.

  10. You sound stupid with that not a lot of white people owned slaves crap. Thats just as stupid as saying black people wanted to be brought here. Read a book honey. A real book without the pictures in it.

  11. Her daughter is a mulatto. Karyn is in denial about her daughter; she thinks her white skin is due to white in her heritage. No way! It’s quite obvious from the picture. The eyes and the hair color are dead giveaways. Karyn should take her daughter to be tested. Mulattoes need medical care because their eyes and skin are sensitive to sunlight. I surprised the folks didn’t pick up on this instead of sniping at each other.

    • to Know It All

      Are you serious? I’m practically rolling on the floor laughing.
      “Mulattoes need medical care because their eyes and skin are sensitive to sunlight.” Mwuhahahahahahahahahahaha

      Is it possible you are referring to albinism, an anomoly known to occur in humans and animals which results in the lack of skin pigmentation?

      I don’t believe for 5 seconds that Karyn’s daughter is an albino, nor that her skin color is an anomoly. She has plenty of white blood in her to come out just as she is, ESPECIALLY if the white blood on both sides is very fair.

      I would highly suggest that you observe the world with an open mind and abandon stereotypes concerning mixed-raced people and their offspring.

      “Mulattoes need medical care because their eyes and skin are sensitive to sunlight.” Mwuhahahahahahahahahahaha (Thanks for the laugh!)

  12. Well I personally think that I can’t really idenitfy with either race black or white . Most people question what i am because i have big blue eyes with black hair and light carmel skin. Whenever i come in contact with white people im the exotic looking mixed girl with blue eyes and considered white because i don’t look black. With black people im the mixed girl not black girl with pretty eyes.
    I always tell people im mixed white and black but some don’t believe me mostly 70% of the black people i come in contact with. I think it’s crazy and then people look at my brother and call him truly black because he is tanner than me even though his eyes are grey. So what if i want to be mixed do i really have to pick i have the best of both genes.

  13. We do have it harder, for we don’t know where we fall. We don’t know what “group” we belong, so we are forced to accept ourselves for who we are ( which we all should do) We have it harder. I agree completely with her :)

  14. I love Karyn Parsons! Alot of people tell me I resemble her…..Her kids are beatiful.I’m happy to see her with a healthy family. I can however relate on what she is saying. I’ve always have had those same fears. Its sad we have to worry about things like this, but its real, its reality. :( I’ve also been writing on racism for the longest time. I’d love to have a book published! Karyn, you are doing the right thing as a parent. I admire you for that, you go girl!

  15. well,I think both races can be mean and being black my kids tell me many stories about what white kids say to them the looks and bad words.I know the lord and have peace and I leave it up to him to work out people issues and nasty comments and about how it is raising mixed kids we,re all mixed just read your bible and you,ll feel better about things.We are all from the other side of the world so if you want to marry someone that you,ve fallen in love with and your spouse isn,t your race just know that their are people that won,t like it.Hey they won,t like if you marry within your race,so live to please the Lord and love everyone.I know my kids will marry the person of their dreams because thats what I pray for and he answers prayers.The Lord will choose them and my grandchildren are all mixed up, but not confused, when they ask me with what? I can,t say we,re just blacks, they stopped going for that, so I needed help. I started reading and found out we,re all mixed and thats how the Lord wanted it and labeling youselves as one race or another is up to you,it does,t matter my son checks whatever and he,s very well ajusted. I thank the master.He knows the answers for everything and thats a good thing.God does,t make mistakes.I use him always for everything, don,t blame me,blame God and see what happens.We must love no matter what.

  16. You’re Ignorant. That what hurts when it comes to being bi-racial. People are not sensitive to the fact “NO WE ARE NOT BLACK”, “NO WE ARE NOT WHITE” we are biracial and would like for both sides of ourself to be recognised. It makes us uncomfortable for you to call us anything we are not. Would you call grey black? Would you call grey white? No you call it grey. We don’t call it a donkey or a horse its called a MULE. Its recognized for being both. Either abolish all shallow ideas of race or just accept us as whole individuals. Stop calling us one or the other because we are not. We are both and our beauty and being only represent the love and comming together of cultures, respect that we are people too and it is not fair or reasonable of you to ask us to shut off a part of ourselfs because you don’t know how to deal or understand the fact that we are one. We will not adapt one part of ourself you your convienence we will continue to be beautifully BIRACIAL and as a creature of reason you should be able to understand or grasp the subject in a minor way. Love n Affection to all

  17. I am a mixed male 18, I am Irish, filipino and black. I have white features in with my eyes and nose, and i have full lips (I guess a black feature). I don’t have the typical mixed tight curls but they are big. Not too many people know what it is like to be multi-racial. Both sides of my family didn’t really accept me. I was shunned on my white side because I wasn’t white enough, and talked about on my black side because of my hair and my skin color. My sisters suffered more than I did when it came to family. I went to a predominately black school and was tormented daily because I was different. It doesn’t matter if your black or white, if you are a black women who loves white men then so be it, they will raise biracial children and hopefully they will teach them the beauty of themselves just like my white mother did. I love how SOME black people say we are the real victims of race, that is not TRUE! I experienced 80% of my racism from people who were supposedly victims of racism. Doesn’t that sound a little insane??? They would try to start fights with me and talk about my hair and some jealous girls would have the nerve to pull on it. Not too many people know how difficult it is when you are multi/biracial. I live my life in as one, and I don’t let it get to me but sometimes its like damn, race truly matters that much??? I am judge on both sides of my heritage. I don’t feel trully accepted unless I am among other mixed people.

    • I cannot agree with all you are saying. I am a black women, and I both parents are black also. Of ourse there is a little mixing going through my family line. My father’s mom was American Indian, from the North Carolinas, here is where she met my African American grandfather. My mothers father and mother both were black, but my grandfather was a stern dark skinned 6feet plus male, and my grandmother was very lite skinned with red hair, green eyes, and freckles. The combination in our family made lite skinned, long straight hair, shor curly hair, thick long and short hair. Some eyes are green, some are light brown and hazel and one of my brothers eyes are blue. I myself, am a light brown even though most of my friends say you are light skinned girl, my eyes are a light brown, and my hair although now relaxed was a cross between thick and long at one time with some fine areas. My mom is light brown and has brown eyes, my father also a litle darker brown with very pretty light brown eyes. I would guess I would have to identify with my fathers American Indian side more than my mothers side of light skinned, red hair and green eyes. I would say this because seeing pictures only of my fathers mother she was short just like myself, and she had dark full hair, and brown eyes. The only dfference the complexion. I was just giving a little background, and trying to make a point als. Even though om not sure what race mixed with my mothers family, I’m sure it is some kind of white background. So people although they do not aknowlegde it or look like it may clearlyu be mixed in some kind of way. I have many different races in my family genes, but I might like look like i do, and neither did some of my friends. My sister also look like me and appeared to be black, but because she had longer hair she got her hair pulled. Her friend a white girl got her hair pulled everyday too, and they became best friends until this day. So just makin a point just because you got your hair pulled isn’t because your hair was very nice. Some kids are just mean. And people of all races and colors get their hair pulled. Good luck on your road to discovering life, and dont be so quick to judge another race, as we are all somehow one race.

  18. where do you ppl see noticeably black features? i dont see any seriously the nose isn’t black the lips arent black…the hair isnt black what’s black???

  19. Well, all I have to say is that everyone has their own experiences, trials & tribulations. I can’t judge her or her personal views because I have not lived her life. I think everyone should be sensitive to her struggles because even though we may not carry her burden, we should empathize. The thing is, in America, we have become so numb to the discrimination and hardships. Don’t just dismiss her struggles, they are real and she is not the only one who is subjected to unfair treatment. It’s a shame that we treat people in such a way that they feel uncomfortable in their own skin. I’m biracial and growing up in an African-American community was quite difficult. Some people like myself were treated as though we don’t belong. I was constantly reminded of my differences in school…from my peers to adults to even some of my own family members. So I can relate and understand. I just pray that with the coming years, people are more comfortable with what makes us alike than what is different and see different as beautiful too!

  20. if its hard being biracial then why have kids by a white man. I understand your biracial but at first glance your are viewed as a black woman. do you relate more to the white side, so how do you teach your daughter to be aproud black woman, i guess not since you said shes the whitest white child. I dont care if people date outside their race but dont get upset if people dont accept it. im a proud black woman and i love black men. to me it really is mind boggling. Watch LAKEVIEW TERRACE.

    • LoL Lakewview Terrace, are you serious? Watch Guess Who, Something New, Crash, the Bodyguard, Save the Last Dance, Avatar even…come on people, lets advance please.

  21. I’ll have to totally co-sign with oceanwave. 1. The girl looks albino. 2. Karen didn’t have any trouble identifying with Black folks when she the played the daughter of an Black mother & father on an all Black sitcom. She would have never made the cast of the daughter/sister on shows like Family Ties, Growing Pains,Home Improvement etc. Why? Because when I as well as everybody else in America see as Black. She had to tell me in this article because she looks like just another Black chick to me.I sure it’s not easy for a biracal person to have to choose sides when they love both parents , but she seems to want Black people to identify her with her white side. Um, okay but that won’t be real easy being that she looks so much like us. She needs to ge over herself. That’s why she hasn’t had a role since Fresh Prince. She’s annoying

  22. I am terribly confused by this article. She says her son is ‘browner’ than she is, yet that is not true. Her daughter ‘looks’ like an African American albino actually. I agree with many of the statements made on here. If Karyn would stop trying to force acceptance, and simply accept herself and her children for their black heritage as well, then things may be better for her. She seems overly concerned with her white heritage. If she truly identifies as mixed, then she has to embrace both sides equally, though I understand that may be challenging at times. She seems to have some identity issues that are self imposed.

  23. Yea she is! I am pregnant though and she is already proving to be an amazing big sister. Thanks for your advice. I really needed to get a different perspective.

  24. I am so sorry, I guess with the situation that you stated above they only thing can really do is tell her it’s not that her dad doesn’t want to be with her, he just wasn’t in a good place to be able to take care of her so he signed his rights over because he thought (whatever your husband’s name is) would be able to take better care of you and her. He wanted to do the best thing for her because he loved her.

    Don’t say anything negative about her dad to or around her. If you want her to see her black side in a positive light that’s the only way you will be able to get your child to be able to accept all of her. She is still young so don’t make a big issue out of her color. Just make sure that she is around people that accept with open arms. She will be okay. You care enough to seek help for your baby and that alone tells me she is loved. Is she you only child?

  25. Unfortunately, I have lost contact with his family. When my daughter was four he threatened to take her. Since then, legally there can be no contact anyways. He has no legal rights whatsoever. She is six now. It’s a tough situation.

  26. I say talk to her dad’s family and let them know your concerns, from their reaction you would know if getting her more involved with them would be better or worse for her. Once you do this then you will have a better idea of what your next step should be. What is her dad’s history? Was he abandoned by his dad? Maybe it’s a pattern. Whatever you know about why he is not more involved with her the more you can make her understand him leaving is not about her, but him.

  27. Concerned Mom I think your child rejection of her black half has everything to do with the fact that her black dad abandoned her. She is I am certain very insecure and uncertain of where she fits into her life, because if her own black dad wants nothing to do with her something must be wrong with her.

    You have to let her know that her dad left because he was selfish and it is his loss that he is missing out on watching his beautiful grow into a beautiful young woman. Does she see his family? How old is she? She is embracing her white family because they have embraced her, she is rejecting her black family because she feels rejected by them.

  28. I need help!! I am white and I have a biracial daughter. I have raised my daughter to be an individual and to be proud of who she is for those reasons. I have a diverse group of friends. However, my family and my husband are white. She has no contact with her biological father. We are in a military community which encourages diversity and mixed families.
    My problem is lately, despite my best efforts of cultural exposure, she has chosen to identify as just white. I am finding that she speaks of black issues or kids as something seperate from herself. Even worse, I am finding that she completely ignores elderly black women when they come up to her and tell her how beautiful she is.
    This growing rejection of her culture upsets and confuses me. Could her actions be defiance to the cultural education I try to provide her with? Does she feel because she is biracial that she does not fit in our family so she has to choose to be white? Is she tired of people constantly pointing out “She is beautiful, WHAT IS SHE?” question? She is beautiful not only because of her appearence but because of her heart. I want my child to be confident, secure and happy. How do I help her become that type of woman?

  29. What I notice about people is how they treat others & myself. If you are a good person, citizen, etc., then it shouldn’t matter what color your skin is. How people are treated by one another is what should count.

    (I know this is very simplistic but this world would be such a better place to live in if it were that way.)

  30. Guyz lets top hating………..Thanks Cranberry, 20something, Black is Black, and certain others……….U’ve got it totally true!!.

    But we need to stop this 4r real………no fighting within our Black family!

  31. i’m mixed race and black jamaican/german, but identify more with black people than white people and don’t care if people call me/see me as black, latino or mixed race. I think people should be able to identify how they want. why you may i ask do i identify more as black, because i feel that a white person can never relate to what its like to be a person of colour, but another black person can. I grew up from a young age feeling loyal towards black people despite growing up mainly around white people.
    As for karyn parsons she should stop feeling sorry for herself, i’m tired of mixed race people complaining as if they experience more racism because they get it from both sides of their genes. any ethnic minority can experience racism. I have personally experienced abit of racism, but never from black people. Generally i don’t feel victamised because i am mixed race.

    I think that once genes start getting to 1/4 black or less people need to stop using the one drop rule. newsflash it does not exist.not many black people try to claim heather locklear or wentorth miller as black, but they are part black. i see Karyn Parson’s children as mixed race, but would not think it absurd if her son wants to identify as black and the daughter as white just let them be.

  32. I also agree that her daughter doesn’t look white or biracial she looks more albino with very strong black features!!!

    And sorry I will always see biracial black/white people as black but don’t get it wrong they should never denounce their white side however they are black with white family members thats all, I mean look @ Obama he has a white mother and was raised by her and his white grandparents yet he is still smart enough to know he is BLACK in fact he stated he was too black lol but seriously all african american ppl are mixed and that is why biracial ppl blend right in with us they look just like us they don’t look white therefore they are and always will be BLACK!!!

  33. TO black is black..stupid.:

    Hispanic itself is not a race. You can be a white hispanic, black hispanic or indian hispanic, whatever. Hispanic is merely a culture. THe fact that yur father is hispanic does not tell me anything.
    Saying you are biracial because your father is hispanic is contradictory as hispanic is not a race. You have to be specific. Is your father black, white, indian, etc. Hispanic is not his race just his culture….

    If you said your mother is African American and your father is a White Hispanic, then that makes more sense. Just saying he is hisapanic means nothing. ANyone of any race can be hispanic

  34. Karyn Parson’s daughter is fair, but she has noticeable african traits. I think Miss Parson has a lovely looking family, and I hope she raises her children to appreciate every aspect of their being!

  35. Not buying into it, I my time was limited at the time I posted, however, I’m certain that you understood the message, otherwise you wouldn’t have foolished reduced yourself to only attack the sentence structure. LOL, you don’t have to read it…Yawn

  36. Lynn: you might want to edit before you post next time so your sentences are coherent. Just a suggestion.

  37. Why the criticism on Whoopi Goldberg? This condensending attitude alone is a prime example of the self-hatred that has permeated through the black community with the light vs dark slave mentality, and yes, also those of mixed race are effected as evidence by the post. Referencing the poster as Whoopi Goldberg is an obvious effort to insinuate that person is of darker skin with african features, and in your mind less desirable, suffice to say it also exposes your own inner battle with the African-ness that may or may not run through your veins. Before you can be critical of black women and accuse them of lacking self love, hopefully you will look into the mirror and learn to revere all of who you are and EVERY contribution required in order for you to be! YES that includes the black part…

  38. There you go Whoopie. I knew you’d return sooner or later. I hope you didn’t just get your “hair did.” ‘Cause you know a sistah don’t play.

    As for Mexico…been there and done that. The time to go is when it’s actually cold in the states, not in the dead of summer when the prices are much cheaper. I knew you were a broke jawn.

  39. Still haven’t found a real job Not Buying It. How sad. I’m on my way to Cabo with family and friends. Have fun lurking the internet.

  40. And I’m really mad you said “to be black is to carry a lot of luggage.” lol I think you meant baggage sweetie.

  41. Cranberry, silence! Your comments are stale and redundent and really have no basis in the truth. I won’t dissect them because I’ve already done that after your first couple of posts, where you said the same thing. Create new arguments and perhaps you’d get as much attention as Whoopi received.

  42. Not Buying It,

    You have serious issues. You seem really preoccupied with race and especially this biracial thing.

    The fact is that Karyn Pearsons has a problem being biracial because she wants to be a part of a racial group that doesn’t accept her because she is black.

    Again, one can have a white mother or father and still be black without offending them.
    Halle Berry has no problems, nor does Alicia Keys, Boris Kudjoe, Nicole Ari Parker, Thandie newton,Cash Warren, etc.. etc..

    You have a problem only if you make it one. Ms. Pearsons and her kids will fit into the the black sommunity. Quite frankly her daughter looks like a regular black child with an albino coloring. And her son looks like a light skin child. Once she teaches those kids who they are, whenever they get rejections from their white side, they would not hate their black side for it, but rather brush it off and move on.

    • You racist thing. The kids are blonde and blue eyed. They cant be black. What tribe in West Africa looks like them. Come on. They will never fit into the black community because they are not black. Neither is mom. Get over it. You people are desperate to swallow alive anyone who has any black in them. Get a life.

      • it depends where you come from. I’m black and my best friend is white, we have no issues, our family have no issues.

    • Not always true. Our story is a little different— My daughter tried real hard to fit in with the black community to the point of tanning her skin and wearing her hair in braids — she never was accepted. The whites accepted her more and she has made lasting friendships. Her beau is caucasian and their daughter looks like my ex-husband.

      My daughter has never denied or hidden her black family neither has my son – he has a similar experience. He’s been mistaken for being Jewish, Italian, Middle Eastern, Egyptian and latino. — I am African American/Puerto Rican and very brown-skinned – not light or ‘yellow’.

      I have come to have a different perspective on practically everything concerning race. The best kind of people in the world are just plain good people (which is in every people group) The kind that sees the good in their fellow man and does not focus on superficialities like skin color, class, gender, etc.

      Don’t take me wrong, I do appreciate our unique cultures, and I have come to believe racial mixing is not for the majority of poeple. But it is just wrong to hate and outcast people that are mixed.

  43. You just can’t let go can you. Let me help you out, old lady. I have a dinner date with friends,so you can busy yourself by arguing by yourself. Maybe if you and hubby hadn’t spent your entire tax refund on your outstanding cable bills you could go out to dinner too. Instead you sit before your computer waiting for life to happen. How sad :(

    Adios!

  44. If you only knew sweetheart. Maybe if you study long enough you’ll end up where I am. Although I doubt it, judging from your previous remarks and undying ignorance.

  45. Just admit it, you’ve been laid off from your job as a $10 an hour paralegal and have nothing better to do. Waiting for hubby are you???

  46. With professionalism comes the luxury of coming and going as you please, barring imminent deadlines. If you’re lucky to become one when you grow up you’ll come to realize this.

  47. Wait a minute, aren’t you suppose to be a professional? Shouldn’t you be the one at work. I’m on summer break, what’s your excuse?

  48. From reading these posts, I see America is soo black and white. I am so glad I was born in the Carribean. Its not so much about light and dark there as it is about features and hair. We do not acribe good hair to light skinned folks or bad hair to dark folks. Its many of the dark people who have the straightest hair. There is Asian (Indian/Chinese), African, and Southern European blood all over the Carribean. So you will have millions of black women with chocolate skin and bone straight (natural) or curly hair, thats grows long without weaves. These women are not necessarily biracial and are majority African descent but have been past mixed like everyone else in the world. Stop the generalizing and travel more.

  49. Well if black women need to get over the “debilitating victimization that so many blacks clinge to” then “mixed persons” like Karen Parsons need to stop whining like tragic mulattos.

    I couldn’t resist. I had to give one more post. :)

  50. They don’t call Africans, and those whose bloodline can be traced to Africa, black for no reason. 95% of blacks are dark complected with kinky hair, when full-blooded. You might find an exception in one pocket of the world….but really that’s anomolous just like the albino… a freak of nature in some respects. Why is this point even being argued. It’s a given and doesn’t address the important issues that were discussed above.

  51. I just came across this thread sitting in my office in JHB SOUTH AFRICA and fyi egyptions are not the only light skinned, straight haired “tribe” in Africa.Xhosa people in my country often come out looking mixed or closer to white but are definately one thousand percent black

  52. black please. I’m not talking about celebrities here. Clearly most celebrities alter there appearance to the ninth degree, with gobs of make up, obsessive dieting and exercising and surgery. I’m talking about regular folk. Also your comments hinge largely around women of other races. No one is denying that other races have there issues. But, this is a black forum, discussing black people. Take your issues of Jews to Jewishcelebritykids.com.

    Truthfully, I hope you don’t post again. But I do hope that you and others wake up to the real reason Black women tend to alter their looks on a daily basis. Anytime I can watch Oprah and Tyra and witness black woman who are crying profusely because they’re asked to take off their weaves, there’s a problem. And no, they aren’t the only ones. I know plenty of women whose natural hair I’ve never seen. Everytime they are out their hair is tucked away and they go and get it redone at both convenient and very inconvenient times. Again, don’t redirect the commentary to other races or attempt to isolate this issue to a personal one.

    And as to your comment about me flat ironing my hair. Sweets, I wear my hair curly 95% of the time… a very far cry from refusing to ever walk out of the house natural.

    ’nuff said.

  53. I never said anything in my post about weaves, so I am not going to reply on that issue. And I never said that you said all mixed women have straight hair. What you actually said was:

    “…I know a lot of black women hate to admit it; but, a lot are jealous of mixed women…all the way to the Chinese shop to buy hair to mimic what mixed gals can create naturally with a flat iron (and…. no hair grease might I add)”

    You’re right, you didn’t say “all,” but you didn’t say “some” either. You made a blanket statement and I simply pointed out the flaw in your remark by giving some examples of biracial women who can’t “flat iron their hair without grease.”

    I’m not trying to argue with you or anyone on this forum if you want to know the truth. In fact I don’t plan to comment on this subject after this post, because its getting a bit stale.
    I just think you happen to be a little too stoked on yourself because you claim to have “fine hair.” But if that’s where your self-esteem comes from then so be it. I just don’t understand how you can stomach insulting others especially considering that at least half of your family is black. Yes there might be some African-American women who have a color complex and issues with hair, but most women I know, regardless of race, do something to change the texture of their hair in order to make it more managable. Isn’t that why you flat iron your hair without grease?

    And don’t just accuse Black women of straightening their hair. Many Jewish women have kinky curly hair. I know, I attended a predominantly Jewish high school and some of those girls had downright kinky curls. Natalie Portman said in an article once that she straightened her hair to get the curl out and felt bad because it came off that she was trying to hide her Jewish background when in reality she just wanted more managable hair.

    Many Egyptian women relax their hair–and I’m not talking about black Egyptian women, I’m talking about the Arab population that currently lives in Egypt. I read an article in which the author said that whenever her father went home to Egypt to visit his family, all his female relatives would ask him to bring with him a suitcase full of black hair products and relaxers. One could argue that in both Natalie Portman’s case as well as the Egyptian women above, that they must hate themselves and want to “look more white” because they straighten their hair. But I know many women, regardless of their backgorund, simply want more managable hair. Isn’t that why you flat iron your hair withough grease? Or do you hate your self and simply want to look more like your white ancestors?

    Also, even though I stated above that I would not comment on mixed women who wear weaves, I just thought of Halle Berry. Halle Berry regularly wears hair extensions, so that’s at least one biracial woman who wears weaves even though I don’t believe her natural hair is kinky. Apparently it just doesn’t grow quick enough to give her the length she desires at this time.

    Okay I’m done with this subject.

    Peace!

  54. Why are people putting words in my virtual mouth? I did not say that ALL mixed people had anything. There needs to be more reading and interpreting on this forum before hitting the reply button. Black, I’ve never stated that all mixed people had fine hair, just as I never said that only mixed people can have fine hair. But since we’re on this major aside, the majority of mixed individuals do have curly/wavy/straight hair. However, that has nothing to do with my recent posts. It astounds me how so few black women wear their natural hair. I personally don’t know of any mixed people who regularly wear weaves. But, I can count on one hand the number of black women between the ages of 20 to 35 who wear their hair naturally. If you want to argue that point, argue with the wall… ’cause that’s just reality.

  55. Not all “mixed women” have straight hair by the way. Nor do they all have more managable hair. Some of them can have kinky hair.

    Corinne Rae Bailey, the British singer, does not have straight hair and neither does Thandie Newton, Lisa Bonet, or that young woman who won the Miss America Pagent a few years back. Karen Parsons wears hair extensions in her hair. I saw a picture of her when she was a teenager. Her hair did not look as she wears it now. And during the final season of the Fresh Prince, she straightened her hair and I’m sure her hair stylist used some sort of hair balm, because no competent stylist would flat iron their client’s hair dry. You’ll damage your hair. Charles Barkely’s college age daughter also has kinky hair. As well as Kobe’s daughters and Heidi Klum’s sons. This just shows your ignorance about genetics.

    I just watched a poetry slam performance on youtube by a young woman, Zora Howard. Her poem is called “Biracial Hair” and speaks on the difficulty she has with maintaining her “naps”–those are her words not mine. Its an interesting poem. Perhaps you should read it as well as take a course in genetics and anthropology.

  56. To Pookie_Sanchez, the name calling was really mature. How does that work out for you at your place of employment? Do you even have a job or are you under 18? If the latter, go study for finals or something.

  57. Yeah right. I’ve heard the whole convenience argument PLENTY of times. Dreadlocks or afros are much more convenient… not to mention cheaper than going to buy high priced synthetic hair. Denial, denial, denial.

    Yes, white women wear weaves; but I have yet to see afros as being the weaves of choice for them or blacks for that matter. White women, like black women do it for beauty (or what they perceive as beautiful).

    As for the qualms with my “perks argument,” it really wasn’t an argumennt. Instead it was a mere comment. In my experience I’ve come to believe it is beneficial in America to be fair skinned with fine hair. I thought that was no secret, but I guess some are unaware of it. I think people other than myself on this forum have mentioned perks, or in other words benefits, to being mixed. In the acting world, someone mentioned, lighter skinned women tend to get more opportunities in mainstream media than their darker skinned counterparts. I’m sure that “phenomenae” isn’t exclusive to the entertainment industry.

  58. @ Not Buying it:

    I doubt you are black because your statements are so off kilter and arrogant.
    You sound like a white angry female or male with mental issues.

    First off, black people don’t wear weaves because we want to look like mixed or white people.
    As for “mixed” people, you have pure black people that have curly hair and light skin. Yes, you moronic clown, you have different skin complexions and hair textures withing the black diaspora, apart from the offspring of the slave trade. It just shows you are ignorant and clueless.

    I am light skin and have curly hair and I wear weave, not because I want to look white but because it is easier to manage and because of the time it takes to groom our hair and the fact that our hair is FLEXIBLE, I wear weaves and sometimes I relax my hair.

    Secondly, White women wear weaves, texturize their hair and let’s not mention tanning. Actually the biggest skin bleachers are in India and that is due to colonization and the evil created by European slavery.

    Honestly I think you are an angry troll with issues. Get a life. You need to meet real black people and get your crazy azz outside..

  59. I’m actually surprised that this discussion is still going on, but then race is such an emotional and complex issue.

    I don’t know if I have much to add to the discussion. I think Lynn, Mary D, Shango Baptiste, and Cranberry made some valid points.

    I was a bit turned off by some of the statments Not Buying it made. Especially when he/she stated that there are “perks” to being biracial and that it’s a “luxury” to be mixed. I’ve never believed my diverse background to be a “luxury” or a hinderence for that matter. It is what it is and I am comfortable with it. And the only “perk,” if you will, that I can see in having a diverse background is that you are exposed to different cultures but that’s only if you are raised by both parents. Not all biracial/multiracial persons are raised by both parents, so I’m not understanding this whole “perk” argument. It all sounds pretty obnoxious to me.

  60. Again, I know a lot of black women hate to admit it; but, a lot are jealous of mixed women…all the way to the Chinese shop to buy hair to mimic what mixed gals can create naturally with a flat iron (and…. no hair grease might I add). Black women spend tens of thousands of dollars over the course of their lives to look closer to mixed and white women. Not to mention the blacks in other countries who’ve practically burned their skin and gave themselves a one way ticket to skin-cancer hell using skin bleaching systems. People on this forum have been discussing the supposed identity crises of the mixed woman and I laugh. Black women are the ones who’ve made the most attempts of any race to look other than what they do naturally. Suggestion: stop buying the $1K + lace fronts, relaxers, and weaves and instead invest in your local libraries and children’s educations. Power to self love not synthetics.

  61. @ Not Buying It- You seem to have the whole House N**** /slave mentality at hello. Good luck with that and wherever it shall take you in THIS life.

  62. Cranberry, no one said you had to be biracial to have fair skin and fine hair. But if you want to go there… I’ve never seen a person of African ancestry with those characteristics who was not also of another race. And please don’t count Egyptians without going to your local library. Black Afriacans and some black Americans (like you Cranberry) purport that the fair skinned/straight/wavy haired Egyptians are black; but, Egyptians are of at least partial Arab decent and don’t consider themselves black… even though they are African (I know you won’t get this difference Cranberry, but read it really slow a few times and perhaps you might). Quite frankly, I’ve never heard of or seen any fair skinned AND fine haired black who was not mixed (relaxers, weaves, and skin bleach don’t count).

    But that’s soooo besides the point. Unfortunately Cranberry, you don’t even sound intelligent enough to fully grasp what’s really at the heart of these issues.

    You’re clearly one of those people who picked on the beautiful mixed girls growing up because they had “long pretty hair,” light skin and all the boys’ attention and you didn’t. I’ve never been one to ignore the perks that come along with being biracial. It’s unfair… but like your mamy should’ve told you: life’s unfair. So get over it.

  63. “Those who fall in that category are free to choose as they see fit in terms of who they want to identify as especially if they are fare skinned with curly/wavy/straight hair and more European features.”

    _______

    The above has to be the most ignorant statement ever.

    #1 – You don’t have to be bi-racial to have “fair skinned with curly/wavy/straight hair and more European features.”

    #2 – You can travel Africa and get black people with those same features, so please stop sounding foolish.

    This is what happens when people don’t know their history.

  64. Calico, I need you to look up in the dictionary these two words: nationality and race. There is a difference sweatheart.

  65. my mother is a black woman born in France
    her father is a black man born in the Phillipines
    my father is a black man born in Italy.

    I am a black woman.

    I suppose that means I’m mixed too, but I don’t concern myself with that label because in my opinion, the label is pointless. Just live and appreciate all of the cultures you are exposed to.

  66. It’s funny to hear black and solidarity in the same sentence. That’s all I’ll say on that point.

    There is a mixed race, and people who’s grandma’s grandma who was half white/N.A./you pick the race, are not included.

    If your parents are from two different races, you are mixed. Point blank. Those who fall in that category are free to choose as they see fit in terms of who they want to identify as especially if they are fare skinned with curly/wavy/straight hair and more European features. For the others, don’t be so bitter that you were not born with that choice. After all, with that luxury comes a price, as Parsons points out.

  67. Mary D – I take my hat off to you.

    It is nice to see someone that knows history.

    I remembered when Thandie Newton used to say she was mixed.
    She got along for a while.. Then she had kids – in an interview, she said after she had her children, she understood what it was to be black.
    She said that her brother asked her where did the problack sentiment came from… LOL

    I think Thandie understood that she could fit in and never have to justify herself. Her father is still white, bust she understood that she wasn’t and that is ok..

  68. Biracial in America hard? How about acknowledging the fact that being black in America has never been easy, and even more so, accepting that regardless of this social construct called race, we are all a part of the human family

    Then and only then will things start to get easy…

  69. P.S. Her daughter looks every bit black even with her pale skin. Heck she looks like an albino friend of mine.
    And I have cousins that look exactly like her and her son.

  70. I was being sarcastic when saying of course it’s hard, yet showing the dichotomy of the stereotypes and hypes.

  71. Cranberry feels that way because she’s ignorant. Although she’s argued ONLINE that she’s mixed and lighter than anyone posting..lol… she’s clearly not mixed and hates the fact that mixed people sometimes can have the best of both worlds. She wants them to only claim their blackness like she, who has no choice. Get over it Cranberry. Black is beautiful.

  72. Black is black…I completely agree that there is nothing wrong with being black. I also don’t believe that you can re-identify yourself going back forth. I believe in embracing what you are and moving on. I was heart broken by the story of the black woman being killed by the Indian family over skin color. It disgusts me that people would go to such lengths. The fact the father wants nothing to do with his child is horrible too. This poor child has been abandoned because of race.

  73. Cranberry…how are you gonna tell other ppl how they should identify themselves? That’s not your job. Not everyone wants to identify the same way…deal with it.

  74. I just read you comments 20somethingvixen which is why I didn’t respond in my previous posts.

    Yes, I’ve heard of other cases like your mother’s and it’s sad that she had to go through that. I do agree that race relations and people’s discomfort with interacial marriage and the children produced by such unions has changed since the ’60s, although prejudice and intolerance still exist. I just read an article on CNN where a 68 year old Indian-American was given a life sentence for the murder of his African-American daughter-in-law. Apparently he was against his son’s marriage to the 22 year-old woman, and hired a man to kill her, seven months after she gave birth to the couple’s only child, a girl. It took several years before police arrested the 68 year old grandfather. They got a tip from a female relative of the grandfather. She told the police that she had witnessed the crime along with another girl. Surprisingly, after the murder, the victim’s Indian husband gave his infant daughter to his black in-laws and has had no contact with the child since. He subsequently married an Indian woman and has more or less abandoned his daughter who is now 9 years-old. Of course this is an extreme example of racial intolerance and not the norm. But unfortunately hostility towards African-Americans and minorities in general, still exist. To extrapolate from a comment Cranberry made in her second post, no matter how we may “look” or identify ourselves, in a society and world where black people are viewed with hostility, if someone wants to label you black they will. I have no probleme with it. Not because I am anti-multiracial, but because I refuse to give into the notion that there is something wrong with being black. I also don’t have time to argue with ignorant people. If people want to identify themselves as biracial/multiracial then fine (and this is not an attack againt you 20sonmething vixen, or anyone else for that matter.) However I do find it disturbing when I come across people who say they can be white or black whenever they want to be because they have a white parent, and yet they look like Seal’s kids with Heidi Klum or Halle Berry. White people don’t think such things. And when they do, it generally comes off as obnoxious. But I understand that people have different experiences than my own. Until we stop placing value on skin color, we will continue to have these conflicts.

  75. Also, don’t let my signature fool you. I’m not some radical. I created it as a joke. Now breathe everyone!

  76. To Hmmm…

    No I am not confused. I explicitly stated in my comments above that culturally I am black. I use the terms black and African-American interchangably.

    There is only one race–the human race. However since we live in a society that likes to categorize people along “racial” lines, I always mark off African-American because culturally I am African-American. Had my father had a greater impact in my life and passed down his cultural habits to me then probably I would be like some biracial persons and mark off more than one box. But since I was rasied by my mother and am not obsessed over race I have no problem identifying myself as African-American because culturally I am such even though I might not look like what many perceive as the stereotypical African-American. I have never denied the fact that my father is Hispanic. It would be ridiculous for me to do so considering the way I look. But I am also not going to get bent out of shape if someone tells me “oh you just black girl” after they meet my mother, which is what many people, black and hispanic have done. I really don’t care how others perceive me. I know who I am and am confortable with it. I don’t need the entire world to know and affirm my ancestrial background in order to feel good about myself.

  77. To clarify my point. It has nothing to do with being biracial. I think the real psychology in this is the color issues and the lack of ease when it comes to accepting blackness in America.

    We are human beings and even if you disagree with Bateson’s theories on acculturation and assimilation, most people are multi-racial or cultural. In terms of identity, the African Diaspora is diverse and accepting because our our social identity is that of struggle and class.

    Understanding the label of black goes beyond the 1 drop rule and the controls of white social order. It is not meant to deny biology, but rather retain the black skin and shatter the white mask.

    I am multiracial and most likely lighter than you, but being black does not eradicate that fact. We can live in a white society as we do and nothing will change our black experiences, no matter what we call ourselves.

  78. Live and let live, and don’t force outdated views on the next generation. Eventually everyone will be various shades of brown anyway.

  79. I think this is an interesting topic. My mom is half African American and half italian American. During her time, she was considered black because she was raised by a black and cherokee grandmother. Her mother abandoned her because she was too dark to ever pass for Italian. This has hurt and haunted her and her biological mother for years. However she considers herself to be biracial but culturally she is African American.

    I think that it can be tough to hear some one talk about white people when you are half white. But I don’t consider myself to be biracial and can not really speak from experience. I do believe as time passes those who were identified solely as black will now be able to be comfortable saying they are biracial. I believe the country is coming to terms and slowly the one drop rule is eroding.

    People are people, thats how I have grown up but then again I didn’t grow up during the 60′s.

  80. No insightful commentary on biracial children here…I just want to say that her daughter looks straight up albino, not mixed

  81. To black is black…stupid: you clearly are confused, as you contradicted yourself in the first two sentences.

    First sentence: “I believe there is only one race-the human race.”
    Second sentence: “I identify as African American.”

    That perhaps attributed to poor Katrina’s confusion in thinking your point was black is black.

  82. Cranberry, clearly you are not mixed. One can’t understand what it’s like to be biracial in America unless one is actually biracial… in America. Unfortunatly it’s not as easy as the “one drop of black blood (makes one black)” rule would imply. That concept was a way to discourage whites from having sexual relationships with blacks, as many Caucasions (1) feared that race mixing would render the white race instinct and (2) thought that blacks were so inferior that they were unfit as mates to whites. By implementing the one drop rule, whites who chose to cross the color lines romantically had to deal with the fact that their children would not be accepted in white socity nor be afforded all the benefits it had to offer. So, this in addition to all the other ways in which blacks were treated and generally regarded as inferior in America, kept blacks “in their place” and whites with whites.

    Simply put, the one drop rule is a social construct, originating from slavery, that does not reflect reality. Actually, if you are born from one black parent and one white parent, you are of both races, to the exclusion of neither (for example, Cameren Diez refers to herself as mixed and is accepted as a Caucasion even though she is of Cuban and Caucasian descent; why should it be any differerently when one is of part African American descent?). Actually, if you come from a white mother and were raised by her and her white family in a white neighborhood, you probably identify with the white race more than the black, even though you might be darker than your close kin. Yet, because of people like you Cranberry, that person would be told to “accept his/her blackness” by some, not regarded as black by others, and veiwed as “just another white person” by still others. This makes for a very confusing situation, especially for young children.

    So Cranberry, you should really read up on your history and have a heart-to-heart with some mixed folks before you make such insensitive remarks.

  83. Ummm… It’s hard because you make it hard.

    Whether it is race or culture, one has to surpass the other. There is no place for both. When you or your kids walk in the street, they are identified as black.

    You are black whether you have a white mother or father.

    I don’t see any problems there. Once you accept your blackness, there is no problem. To me only when people have a problem saying “I am black”, that is when things go wrong..

  84. I can’t believe you used the term Negroid! Racist pig I dont care what race you are. Karyn really needs to get over it. Im biracial and its not that big of a deal if you dont make it one. Sure I have had problems with black people but have also had problems with white people. True its harder for us to identify ourselves but we just need to say hey I’m a person thats all that you need to know. People are going to judge you either way. Be black and white and proud. Get the hell over it.

  85. Ok im not biracial , but me and my wife are being inseminated by a friend of mine that is black , Yes we are lesbians..lol!! we want to raise our baby to be proud of being both races. I don’t want our child to be a biggit ,i dont want it to be a racist , I kinda feel like karen is unhappy with her nationalities , And is upset that her daughter looks white , and thats messed up . She should be proud no matter how her kids turn out looking.

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