RUMOR:ERYKAH BADU IS PREGNANT WITH INSULTS
Singer Erykah Badu is rumored to be pregnant with her third child with artist Jay Electronica(pictured above). The rumors have caught up with the singer who feels insulted that so many people have questioned her having three children by three different fathers.Read below as Erykah responds to her rumored pregnancy on message board OkayPlayer,and as she practically confirms that she is pregnant with her third child.
pPeace,
HOW DARE YOU DISRESPECT THE QUEENDOM…AND MY CHILDREN AND MY INTELLIGENCE.
ive never been so disgusted in all of my life .
there is no other place i used to enjoy more .
i post no where else .
you guys have taken an all time low , tho.I’LL STATE MY PEACE
i am a great mother and care giver to my 2 children and to this world .
my children are 2 of the kindest and happiest people i have met.
I home schooled them and taught them the ways of good to the best of my ability.
i am their doctor and their nurse .
and even sometimes their mother and their father.i am an excellent mother and resent all of the negative comments and insults on my character.
I PUT MUCH TIME AND THOUGHT INTO HAVING AND RAISING MY CHILDREN.
IVE HAD THE HONORS OF HAVING 2 HOME BIRTHS AND 2 WONDERFUL PARTNERS BY MY SIDE.every relationship i have been in was because i loved the person DEARLY and was dedicated to us “exclusively” FOR A NUMBER OF YEARS.
the fathers of my children are my brothers and friends .
we have a great deal of respect for one another and always will.
WE LOVE OUR CHILDREN TO NO END.
we took our own “vows” and CONTINUE TO UPHOLD THEM.
AND THAT IS WHAT THAT IS .question?
WHAT IS MARRIAGE ?
WHO IS THE JUDGE?
WE ONLY UNDERSTAND THE EXAMPLES WE ARE GIVEN ( well sort of)WOULD IT “LOOK BETTER ” TO MARRY AND DIVIORCE AND MARRY AGAIN ?
WOULD THAT BE MORALLY CORRECT ?
WHATS THE DIFFERENCE ? the government’s involvement i guess.
IDEALLY , IT WOULD BE EXCELLENT TO FIND THE MAN OR WOMAN WHO FULFILLS YOUR SPIRIT AND STAY FOR EVER AND EVER ( thru sickness and health till death do us part ) AND HAVE HEALTHY STRONG CHILDREN AS A RESULT OF A HEALTHY AND STRONG UNION.
(this CAN happen … we need much training , however.)
OR
IS IT REALLY “GOOD” TO STAY IN A RELATIONSHIP WHERE BOTH PARTIES ARE UNFULFILLED , LONGING FOR RELIEF , BRINGING one another down as a result of improper training , creating BAD ENERGY AND EXPERIENCES FOR THE CHILD TO REPEAT ?
(not to mention breeding deceit and anger and resentment )
SEEMS TO CREATE FEARFUL CHILDREN WHO TURN INTO FEARFUL ADULTS .HOW MANY OF YOU GREW UP IN 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE MISERABLE AS F$%K ?
OR 2 PARENT HOMES THAT WERE NOT PERFECT BUT WORKED?
HOW MANY GREW UP IN ONE PARENT HOMES WHERE THE MOTHER WORKED HARD TO MAKE SURE YOU WERE CARED FOR BUT SHE WASNT QUITE HAPPY?
HOW ABOUT A HOME WHERE THE FATHER WAS THE MAIN CARE GIVER AND DID THE BEST HE COULD -LACKING NURTURE?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE A SIBLING THAT HAS A DIFFERENT FATHER OR MOTHER?
DOES HE OR SHE MEAN LESS TO YOU?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAVE MORE THAN 1 MOTHER OR FATHER OF YOUR OWN CHILDren ?
HOW MANY OF YOU HAD /OR / ARE PARENTS RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN ,THAT DONT QUITE FIT ANY OF THESE DESCRIPTIONS?
HOW MANY OF YOU STAY IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS FOR FEAR OF GOING TO HELL?
HOW MANY [women] OUT THERE … THAT HAVE KIDS TO GET A PAYDAY?
HOW MANY PEOPLE GETTING THEY ASS KICKED AND ARE FORCED TO SUBMIT CAUSE YO MAMA GOT HER A%S KICKED?
THEN WHAT is CORRECT?how about this:
I PRAY WITH MY CHILDREN
I FEED THEM GOOD FOOD
THEY RESPECT PEOPLES DIFFERENCES
THEY TRAVEL THE WORLD WITH ME
THE KNOW WHO THEY ARE
THEY ADORE THEIR FATHERS AND ARE LOVED BY 2 PARENTS OR MORE -
OR TWO OR MORE SETS OF LOVING GRANDPARENTS
THEY CRY
THEY GET HURT
THEY GET SICK
THEY HEALTHEY ARE real
THEY ARE NOT AN IDEA or a TOPIC
AND NEITHER AM I .
I AM ALIVE .
I AM BEAUTIFUL WOMAN.
I AM A GOOD WOMAM.
I AM GROWING
I AM COMPLETE WITH OR WITHOUT A PARTNER AND WILL ALWAYS BE
AND I HAVE DREAMS OF A FAMILY STRUCTURE
ALL OF MY DREAMS DO NOT COME TRUE
AND DESPITE ALL OF THE PAIN IN MY LIFE …
IN MY MOTHERS LIFE …
IN MY GRANDMOTHERS LIFE
WE HAVE ALWAYS ENDURED
AND THERE IS SO MUCH JOY TO BE EXPERIENCED.
I NEVER HAD A FATHER AND I DONT KNOW WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE -
BUT MY CHILDREN DO , AND THEY LOVE THEIR ‘PARENTS’ .WE ARE THEIR CHAMPIONS .
live how you want . follow which ever pattern YOU like .
MY CHILDREN WILL BE LEADERS
and they will not ever be slaves to this society’s failing idea of morality.
THEY OWN THEIR MINDS AND THEIR DREAMS.BIRTH CONTROL lol … could have 10 babies instead of 2 .
I LOVE CHILDREN AND I WILL HAVE AS MANY AS GOD WILL GIVE ME .
I AM VERY HEALTHY AND RESPONSIBLE AND SO ARE ALL OF MY PARTNERS
I CHOSE THEM WISELY AND SOBERLY .
ALL GOOD BROTHERS .
your opinions lack experience and are not only careless but also very uninformed and immature.
nothing is sacred here . and i see why.
if i loose you as a fan because i want to continue to have children then
FUCK OFF… WHO NEEDS YOU ….CERTAINLY NOT ME … KICK ROCKS … CALL TYRONE … PACK LIGHT …. BITE MEi have defended myself here ON THIS SITE and hurled a few insults .. but only in response to your insults of
my music , my clothes , my lyrics , my hair , my being a woman , my spirit, my choices of partners….
these have all been on trial here . and i continued to support the energy of this place .this is to all the okay players / REAL HUMAN BEINGS hiding behind screen names in order to insult one another and who ever else you will.
geeeez…
i had to say something
i am so sad for parents who try , today guys
enough is enuf.dont judge to quickly , OKAY PLAYER?
i know you are having fun , but what if it were you and your children?
my son is 10 .
my daughter, 4 .peace
ANALOGUE GIRL
and if this post is not clear
kiss my placenta.
NECOLEB VIA OKAYPLAYER
All I have to say is no one person is in the position to judge another. We are all imperfect and we all make mistakes and if we are wise we learn from them in time so we will not repeat them. The only thing Ms Badu has on the public forum is her music. Her children and personal life are her own. I have a husband and all my kids have the same father. We have a great relationship and I feel blessed. Not all people can say that, however I don’t look down on other people if they don’t have all that I do because I feel we all grow in our on time. No matter how much you look down on others or how you feel they should know better you are not in their shoes and until you are how can you say what you will in won’t do in their same position. You may well do just as they have. For all we know her kids can be happier than most people that have two parents. If she loves them and puts most of their needs before her owns because she chose to have them that is all they need. Kids should have two parents because it took two to make them but, you can’t make someone be where they don’t want to be and even if you could would want someone around that doesn’t want to be around because chance are they will only make everyone around then unhappy. Misery loves company. She has to answer for all she does just like we all do. So unless you are willing to stand up in judgment for her then let her make and own up to her own mistakes. just my two cents.
P.S. how do you add pics to you sig line? Thanks in advance.
MS BADU:
I COMMEND YOU FOR CHECKIN’ THESE GUTTERSNIPES. YOUR PERSONAL LIFE AND HOW YOU MOVE OFFSTAGE AIN’T NOBODY DAMN BUSINESS! YOU ARE PAID (QUITE WELL I MAY ADD) TO ENTERTAIN US AND THAT IS IT: NO MORE, NO LESS. RAISE YA’ KIDS AND HANDLE YA’ BUSINESS ‘CAUSE U DON’T OWE NO EXPLANATION TO NOBODY! PS: HAVE A HEALTHY BABY!
I feel you Erykah, my mother’s children have different fathers, my fiance’ has children by different mothers … I’m surrounded by it … but I’m also surrounded by it’s turmoil. I love you regardless of your decisions b/c you are human and look up to you as a great mother b/c of the mental, physical, spiritual and emotional places are elevating your children to.
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http://www.thefoxyblanchepost.blogspot.com/
Be grown and sexy, find a man who will marry you and do so before you have his children. I don’t care how much money you have, there’s no money replacement for a caring and loving husband and father in the home. Believe it.
I found myself being critical of Erykah’s personal choices and then remembered I have some cleaning of my own closet to do:) I think she is a brilliant artist and I will continue to support her as an artist. I hope third time is a charm for her.
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While that lifestyle is not for me, it’s interesting how her situation is highlighted when this epidemic is rampant among men -even SOME famous men. I’m curious though, which media outlet asked her about it?
This is Erykah’s body and her own life as well, who are we to judge? As long as the men have proven themselves to be great fathers and Erykah’s able to maintain a decent relationship with them, I don’t see what the problem is. As a whole, American society is changes, and that which constituted the family of yesterday no longer applies.
Perhaps Erykah hasn’t run into a suitable mate that is ready to commit…Maybe this man will be the one.
Yeah…it’s not something I would do but hell this isn’t about me this is about Erykah…she is a grown woman - a smart and talented woman at that - and we have no place to judge her. Who are we? It’s none of our business anyway. All that matters is that her kids are healthy and happy, and since we haven’t heard otherwise, I don’t see a problem. Erykah is her own person and she has always done things HER own way…I respect that.
I often have to remind myself to realize that Ms. Badu owe’s us nothing but “good” entertainment. Her private life is just that, private. Would I pick her as a role model for my daughters? No!! I’m more interested in the sista who has made those choices and speak candidate and openly that we Queens are so much more than Baby’s mama. The hopt in her response is that she is still growing. While she never has to share with the public about her “growth”, I hope that her children will be able to hear and see what “growth” she encounters in life.
“he that is without sin shall cast the 1st stone”….i dont think noone in this world except a newborn child (who is incapable of lifting its head yet alone a stone) meets that criteria. dont criticize erykah for doing what SHE wants when you arent exactly “perfect patty” yourself! as long as her kids are taken care of, i dont see what the big deal is about them having different dads. i think we should acknowledge that she knows who her kids’ fsthers are…not many women can say that!
keep ya heard erykah & keep doing ur thing! many blessings 2 u & yours!
“Me thinks thou dost protest too much…” 3 kids, 3 fathers is not ideal, as you have so much as admitted… rather than stating you seem to be defending and asking for an exception/pardon. Because you are so vehemently responding, you should examine personally, your feelings and work it out off the air. What’s important is how you mother your children and yourself and the relationship with the fathers - looks like you’ve got that under control. But, such lengthy protest indicates a deeper issue of perhaps guilt or regret - clean that out Shug… you owe it to yourself.
Wow, when we are comparing ourselves to women who don’t know the fathers of their children, its a sad day. I’m not surprised to hear these comments condoning Erykah’s actions though because the vast majority of black women are in her shoes (more than 70% of black children are born out of wedlock). Just because our communitiy subscribes to a lower set of morals does not mean it’s right. And yes it is my business, because these children end up growing up and a lot of them end up crowding the prison system, commiting crimes, and repeating the cycle by having out of wedlock children themselves…oftentimes without being able to afford them all. And save the whole who cast the first stone argument because otherwise, why are you even posting in the first place (you ARE judging by making that comment). Wake up black America! Get your education, PLAN your families and look out for your communities.
She is an artist, making babies could be part of her creativity, she has money, she’s not your everyday chick.
Sorry. I’m confused what difference does it make (especially to someone who is in no way involved)? What does a ‘Marriage’ actually DO to better the life of a growing child (race/culture notwithstanding)? I thought that the love, attention, respect, nurturing and lessons of loving parents (or a loving single parent) was the key to happy and healthy life. Who the funk are YOU to have an opinion on another adult human being’s life/lifestyle, let alone feel that you’ve a right to espouse your unnecessary and irrelevant opinion with impunity?
Sorry… what I meant to say was… F–K YOU! Live YOUR life and focus your attention(s) and energy on making that the best you can for you and yours.
Seriously.
J-Slim, you sound so ignorant and immature. You are obviously immersed in the ghetto and that is why you think it is perfectly ok to have out-of-wedlock children. I guess when in Rome… I feel so sorry for your children (because its clear you have them and were not married when they were born and don’t see the significance in them having two parents in the home). You probably also think its perfectly ok to talk to them as you are doing on this forum. Go acquire a vocabulary so you can express yourself better.
Well said Ms Badu! Though you failed to mention a lil chat about HATERS! What we all know is that we live amongst folk that no matter what you do, how much education you have, whether you are married or not, the car you drive, the clothes you wear, your talent and so fourth you have folk around us that will find something to say. HATERS is what we call em! They are so miserable with themselves- they find wrong in others to make themselves feel big or worthy! We say GET A LIFE! Do what you do! Who cares what people think or how it should or shouldn’t be. I guess all those against having children out of wed lock are perfect. Nah! While I can go on and on all day and would comment on the comment about African American women having babies out of wedlock I’ll stop here. But do me the favor of looking deep into the issue. We are family oriented- we were robbed of our values. Ignorance is what they call you!
I think the picture is innocent. It truly captures an action moment of quality time Us mothers spend with our daughters. From imagination, playing dress-up, to make-up. That’s where the beauty comes in at. As far as who Erykah has choosen to have children with it’s her choice. She’s not the first or last to have mutiple children’s fathers. The hateration comes in because a lot of people have a slave mentality and has allowed the world to set the standards for them. Her decisions does not make her less than a woman it makes her Free to live her life according to how she feels without shame. Realistically her choices is what makes Erykah - who she Is. It’s called Acceptance. She is living her life in accordance to what makes her happy. I commend her for that. Who are others to determine the status bar in life, the do and do not’s? Final Judgement has been reserved for the Lord. Come on people either embrace it or disagree respectfully. There isn’t any Big I’s and Little You’s it’s called Free to be whomever you choose to be. Erykah is “Doing Erykah.” Not that it matters, I have two children by the same man, if I decided to fall in love elsewhere and have another baby with another man I would still be the same God fearing, professional down to earth BeautiFul Sister I am…… Big Up’s to Erykah and the Sister above Priscilla … It’s said that ignorance is a bliss, but actually IT’s SUICIDE…..
Peace & Love ,
Zada ~Chicago
Zada said this on July 15, 2008 at 3:26 p07
Zada’s another example of women who had their children out-of-wedlock who are in denial.
BAD EXAMPLE OF A BLACK WOMAN
It’s to the point that anything short of molesting a child is cool in this crazy world, even that is questionable and waiting for the who’s to judge rather a child can enjoy sex or not!!! Wicked wicked world we live in. And it takes more to raising a child than feeding and clothing them. Everything we do shapes their thinking. I have a child out of wedlock I’ll tell you in a minute doing so is wrong, however I’m still blessed with my daughter in spite of that wrong, doesn’t suddenly make it correct because I did it.
Ericka’s response shows her guilt in her actions. We want folks to love everything we do no matter how vile it may be and then label them as haters when they do not. NO we make mistakes and only way we can move on from them is if we own up to them. As long as we okay them there is no reason to correct them.
No ones perfect! God, I mean not buying it. Why don’t you go kill yourself! It’s obvious that you’re miserable! Yes we all have sinned- No one is perfect so who are we to judge! Congrats Erykah! Black folk, we never stick together. Instead we’re more concerned with all of the things that don’t matter. So she has three children out of wedlock by different men that doesn’t mean she’s a bad person. No sin is greater than the next! I see that Not Buying It has posted on twice- Hmmmm- how about you go and find a hobby. Perhaps knitting or kicking Rocks! Parents ought to be responsible for their childs upbringing. It’s okay to like Erykah that doesn’t mean we sit our children down and teach them that what she did is bad and because of this she’s a bad person. Instead we tell them, Mommy or/and daddy wants you to go to school- go to college or do whatever it is that makes you happy that is legit (no drugs, alcoholism, stealing, etc). Having a child can hold you back- you have time to start a family but for now work towards a better you. On the same note just because she had a baby does not mean she’s “a bad example of a black woman”. Come on, a lil harsh don’t we think? She is successful! She’s a beautiful woman! We don’t hear about Erykah laid out pissy drunk, beating her children, caught with a gun.. Instead we not only bash Erykah but black women as a whole…well 70% Yikes! Immo pray for you!
WHO CARES THATS HER N GOD PROBLEM…
Whatever Erykay B. does with her life is for her. We all have our own set of experiences. Thats why we are INDIVIDUAL. I do know that there are specific instruction that GOD expects us to act out as human beings as a whole.
I am slow to speak and quick to listen. I have learned not to judge people and there experiences. I have made some bad choices in my life. Some of them I regret and some of them I don’t.
I have to co-sign Marie on this one!
The educated one…go read a book and earn that title. Don’t worry about me, worry about yo baby daddies and where they were last night.
AT THE END OF THE DAY…WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY ABOUT U!
I know that’s right Erykah!!!! I have never answered a blog before but this has out raged me to see some of the comments that were said about this woman giving life. God is the only one giving out Judgment, and right now GOD is saying good job, this women is giving life not taken it, and even if she was that is GOD to decide not me you and whom ever. Judge this woman’s albums if you choose but not her soul. I could not even imagine having comments like this thrown at me. You all are talking about a human being not a DAMN DOGG. This woman is standing up for hers and taking care of her business which a lot of woman don’t do, and as a mother I would have came out swinging, I don’t blame you at all for those comments. You never know a person until you have walked in there shoes, and she has some pretty big shoes to fill, which I am quiet sure no one can fill because they would not be putting her down they would be lifting her up with encouragement and congratulations. She is a Strong, Black Butterfly who is spreading her wings and she is allowing her children to spread them as well, THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING IN THIS WORLD IS TO GIVE LIFE. I am young black single mother myself and I was judged when I made my decision as a teen to keep my son, but I stuck to my guns and had my son and he is now 13 and that by far is the most important decision I have ever made and the best gift I that ever received from GOD. I say to you ERYKAH if you are reading this CONGRATS, and keep spreading your wings Black Butterfly & keep giving us that beautiful music.
LOVE, PEACE
Gloriouis Thoughts
One more thing, to HE SAY SHE SAY….
Did you say ‘we were robbed?..’
…I bet you STILL blame ‘the system’ and the ‘white man’ huh? This is not to say racism does not exist. No, it does…but some black folks have got to stop looking over their shoulder for the phantom ‘overseer’ that isn’t there. People interjected the idea of ignorance and slave mentality and this is but a clear example of it.
What’s wrong? How long are we to live by the measuring stick set so long ago by whites? How long can black folks walk around with these internalized attitudes of inferiority?
That being said…
It is true the black family unit was destroyed by centuries of slavery—EVERYONE knows that. Whatcha want a cookie? The difference is that every black person you meet isn’t willing to excuse bad behavior by making excuses for it.
Excuses are not an option.
These aren’t perfect conditions. We have a long way to go in this country but hell–the time for ‘Change’ is now. If not now, then when?
Get it together and ‘Be the Change’ you are looking for….
Tish, girl, thank you for your words!! I swear I was thinking I was in the twilight zone on this site…but comments like yours remind me I’m not alone.
“Not Buying Blacks” and Tish are the same person.LOL!Wow, what a way to entertain yourself and fool the unsuspecting!:)
Befuddled, why don’t you go suck one or get your sew in straight. You’re so ignorant that you can’t believe that there is actually more than one other person out there…who is black might I add… who does not share your ignorant and ghetto way of thinking. Why don’t you travel out of your five block radius and you won’t be so…befuddled.
But, really is this anyone’s business? What business is it of yours who she spreads her legs for? She can afford mentally and financially to care for her children!
Black people KILL me just because one Black person does something (JUST LIKE WHITE PEOPLE) Y’all lump everyone into the same box!
Erykah can have 20 children that wouldn’t stop my world from spinning!
Since when is giving birth ghetto or immoral? How many relationships work out? Is a woman supposed to chop up her uterus because she and her first child’s father didn’t work out?
Supposed Erykah used birth control and it didn’t WORK,
Should SHE HAD MURDERED HER CHILD/CHILDREN??
CUT THE BULLSHYT!!
I neither agree nor disagree with Badu’s choices because these are HER CHOICES!
*Let me get ignorant*
Badu is right about one thing though, Mother fvckers need to kick rocks!
AND suck out her pvssy after she gives birth and resumes her menses!!
Again cut the BULLSHYT!
How does the number of men or children she has effect your life in anyway??
Is she on WELFARE??
And stop that Black community bullshyt!
There are just as many single WHITE and HISPANIC mothers as there are BLACK!!!
Stop watching and listening to the racist white media!
THATS WHY MOST BLACKS ARE IN THE SITUATION THEY ARE IN NOW!
THEY ARE STILL CARING ABOUT WHAT WHITES THINK ABOUT THEM!!
Your ignorance is the reason why it doesn’t bother you. Out of wedlock children, and the problems they typically face effects not only the family to which those children belong, but also the community at large. Yes, Badu’s situation is unique in that she presumably has enough money to care for her children (although we really don’t know how much money she has ….and if she went broke tomorrow she wouldn’t be the first millionaire turned bankrupt), but no amount of money can heal the wounds that comes with not having the father in the home. Also, Sanchez please don’t act like this is just one black woman here….this is an epidemic that is running rampant in the black community. I know this issue is hurtful for a lot of us because we usually were born out of wedlock ourselves or have children out of wedlock (me, myself am a married woman w/ no children but was born out of wedlock). But just because something hurts or is too tough to face doesn’t mean we should ignore it or make it into a right.
So how did being born out of wedlock effect your upbringing????
What is wedlock but A PIECE OF PAPER!
HOW MANY CHILDREN WHO WERE BORN TO PARENTS WITH THAT PIECE OF PAPER ARE IN JAIL , DRUGS ETC……
Shut up! pretty please OR throw away your computer.
Like I said or like IM going to say MARRIAGE ISN’T A GUARANTEE OF NOTHING!
YOU CAN GET PREGNANT TODAY AND YOUR HUSBAND LEAVES YOUR @SS TEN MONTHS LATER FOR A YOUNGER VERSION.
What will become of you and your offspring will you two crawl up in a hole and die??
Will you not move on ???
Being married or NOT being married is not what’s wrong with the Black and Latino community.
Fathers playing an active role in their children lives is of course a big problem but who says that they have to be married to the child’s mother??
Badu has repeatedly said that ALL of her children fatherS are in the picture and that right there is a POSITIVE!
Sanchez you’re gonna be a single chick with baby daddies for the rest of your life…and probably proud of it too. I get that. But, some people want more for themselves and their families, i.e., a HAPPY marriage and children born therein. Since you’re so ghetto minded, and clearly proud of it, why don’t you change your screen name to GhettoSanchez? Or better yet, ProudBabyMama?
For the rest of the sistahs who want and know better, a new standard should be set in our communities. No longer should we settle for baby daddies. After all, what guarantee do you have without the marriage license that he’ll be around? I’ll answer that for you: NONE. Statistically, the guy who marries is exponentially more likely to stick around for the kid later on in life than the fella who won’t commit. Point blank.
Ms. Erykah Badu, I applaud you and your tenacity. What I have to shake my head at is the fact that you even felt compelled to write this, because there was a need. People need to mind their own business, period, point, blank. I wanted to let you know that this piece right here, that you have written, has really inspired me, and I’d like permission to reprint this as a bulletin posting if possible. Keep doing you, and EFFFFF the sinple minded people!
One thing i feel that people are failing to realize - she has bever said the children’s fathers are not in their lives. Just because a mother and father are not “together” anymore, does not mean that a child is neglected by either party.
Erykah B.,
Yes, you are a very talented artist and I enjoy supporting your work/art/life.
But you protest too much and it comes of really insecure. First of all, ALL women should have some sort of a Goddess Complex, but yours is not above any others. I see straight through your arrogance. the picture you describe of your life is one of perfection. People who do that have a lot to hide.
You really should get thicker skin. Though I do agree somewhat with some of the things you said, overall no one has to like everything you do just because you think you’re brilliant. Not everyone has to like your music, art, and even the way you dress. Naysayers are not disrespecting you, by disagreeing with you.
I’m your age. Do whatever you want, but just because you have money to support your life choices doesn’t mean those choices are perfect. Doesn’t mean you are the perfect mother, either.
Check your ego. Your children will represent your life choices, especially as adults. Only time will tell if you did right by your kids. You can’t control those types of outcomes.
Truly be confident. Keep doing you…..Without defending yourself so much.
Nicely put Diviner!
Girl, please (pun intended). You couldn’t pay me to be a babby momma. I wear my diamonds that my husband gave me on my wedding day and my married name proudly. Obviously you’ve never been in a happily married relationship… so I understand; you just don’t know any better.
Badu is leading the women in the ghetto astray (apparently, including you), and have them looking up to her like she’s supreme and that she can do no wrong. I’m not the fool, her relentless (blind) followers are.
aww that’s nice…and it doesnt matter who her kids’ dads are or if they are married or not..many people choose to get pregant by a friend and not be in relationships. I DONT BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE SO MOST LIKELY MY KIDS WILL BE OUT OF WEDLOCK. being married isnt about what the government says…a marriage license is only a piece of paper in my eyes and isnt a guarantee that u and ur spouse will be 2gether and raise ur kids in a 2 parent household…it all depends on what kind of person u have kids with..a real MAN or WOMAN will be there 4 their kids no matter what their status is with the other parent…
In my experiences I’ve found that most of the responsible guys end up getting married. Personally, I don’t know of any divorced fathers who don’t keep in contact with their children; but, I don’t have enough hands to count the number of babby daddies I know of personally who don’t stay in contact. It’s just a fact…
Not buying it…does obviously buy into a whole lot of crap (pun intended) 1st off you didn’t address anything that I said regarding labels and the problems with them, because you’re clearly blinded by them yourself.
There is nothing OBVIOUS about my marital status. I made no reference to how I feel about a marraige and having children “out-wedlock” I support either route, if it leads to healthy happy children, and I do believe either route CAN lead to healthy happy children. What makes it hard is people like you who judege others for not having a big diamonds and a married name (as if a big rock and a last name make a damn difference to healthy marraige or raising healthy children). You need to grow up, not buying it, before all you have is a diamond ring and nothing to show for it like (your own peace of mind, independence, and identity aside from that just being a husband’s wife). Or have those diamonds blinded you already?
And excuse the F out of me, but who in the HELL is talking about “women in the ghetto”?!?!?! This, for all intents and purposes, is a WOMEN’S issue. period. And at the very least, Erykah Badu, is the example for ALL women that you can raise healthy happy children without being attached at the hip, wallet, or purse strings, to a man.
And if we wanna talk about things being OBVIOUS, its obvious that you have no concept of the phrase ghetto, and should therefore, refrain from using it. I find you highly, judgemental, materialistic, and blindly idealistic. Grow up…Holla.
Baby momma…I mean Girl, please.
Just because I mentioned my rock doesn’t make me materialistic. Just because I mentioned my married status, doesn’t make me dependent, nor does it make me lack an identity of my own. You’re arguments are so flawed and baseless…I won’t even go on. But, Girl, if you only knew… you’d wish you had my life. Ha!
my father doesn’t keep in contact and my mom and him were married…of course i could call him but dont choose 2..he is immature and not my idea of a father..if people would teach their kids 2 use condoms and 2 be more responsible early on people wouldnt have 5 and kids and not take care of them. but there are a lot of guys i know that have kids and arent with their kids’ moms but still take care of their kids. i know a few guys who are with their kids’ mom. the kids are just as happy if not more 2 be able 2 spend time with their dad without mom being around.
u still arent seeing my point…a man being married does not higher the chances that he will be there for his kids. looks like u missed my simple point. u are trying 2 point out some things when u seem 2 miss more than any1 in these posta