Comments on: The “stay-at-home mom” double standard http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/ A celebrity baby blog featuring your favorite black celebrity kids,babies,and their parents.Formerly Blackcelebritykids.wordpress.com,presently Blackcelebkids.com,always Blackcelebritykids! Fri, 10 Feb 2012 22:33:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Antoine http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-222934 Antoine Wed, 26 Oct 2011 19:33:32 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-222934 Wow, I totally disagree with some of the comments on here (Michelle). I am a 26 year old married man (6 1\2 years) with a 5 year old son, and my wife and I are transitioning her to being a stay at home mom. Regardless of what some of yall say, having a healthy family, and child rearing are way more important then what is being portrayed these days. I'm rereading Michelle's comment and shaking my head. Have you not been seeing what's been going on in the black community? We got kids raising themselves, single mother households with no man, young men out there thuggin', and young women out there pregnant. That's all because our most important institution in our community [family] is eroding, and I ain't talkin extended family homes like mama, child, auntie, and grandmama... I'm talkin about traditional mother and father households. I believe the independence movement has messed up the black community. Why? Because we are supposed to rely on each other and not ourselves, and trust in that. Wow, I totally disagree with some of the comments on here (Michelle). I am a 26 year old married man (6 1\2 years) with a 5 year old son, and my wife and I are transitioning her to being a stay at home mom. Regardless of what some of yall say, having a healthy family, and child rearing are way more important then what is being portrayed these days. I’m rereading Michelle’s comment and shaking my head. Have you not been seeing what’s been going on in the black community? We got kids raising themselves, single mother households with no man, young men out there thuggin’, and young women out there pregnant. That’s all because our most important institution in our community [family] is eroding, and I ain’t talkin extended family homes like mama, child, auntie, and grandmama… I’m talkin about traditional mother and father households. I believe the independence movement has messed up the black community. Why? Because we are supposed to rely on each other and not ourselves, and trust in that.

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]]> By: Momof2 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-219091 Momof2 Wed, 12 Oct 2011 17:01:04 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-219091 I can't believe this is such a polarizing topic. I am a WAHM I was a SAHM for 3.5 years (it's always been a preference in our household). I took a minute to step into Corp. America this past summer after graduating with my BS. I let them know that daycare was leaving me with little income and my children needed me at home. My boss said "So what? I leave at two everyday to be with my kid...you want to be like me be an entrepreneur." Now I am back at home and running my own biz in a field I have always loved. My family deserves the best point blank period. It's a blessing to be present in the life of my children every single day. It's not always easy. It's not always fun. But it's exciting and I wish Americans really understood the meaning of Work-Life Balance. Until that happens it's all about making our own rules when it comes to our household. I can’t believe this is such a polarizing topic. I am a WAHM I was a SAHM for 3.5 years (it’s always been a preference in our household). I took a minute to step into Corp. America this past summer after graduating with my BS. I let them know that daycare was leaving me with little income and my children needed me at home. My boss said “So what? I leave at two everyday to be with my kid…you want to be like me be an entrepreneur.”

Now I am back at home and running my own biz in a field I have always loved. My family deserves the best point blank period. It’s a blessing to be present in the life of my children every single day. It’s not always easy. It’s not always fun. But it’s exciting and I wish Americans really understood the meaning of Work-Life Balance. Until that happens it’s all about making our own rules when it comes to our household.

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]]> By: maggie sottero ruby http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-148414 maggie sottero ruby Fri, 19 Nov 2010 17:39:07 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-148414 Hi, it’s nice here so I am just saying hi. I’ve been watching website for a moment now and decided to register. Hope that my english will be good enough to communicate with you Hi, it’s nice here so I am just saying hi. I’ve been watching website for a moment now and decided to register. Hope that my english will be good enough to communicate with you

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]]> By: Aisha Mcquilliams http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-133887 Aisha Mcquilliams Tue, 17 Aug 2010 18:50:47 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-133887 Awesome, topic!! I just like it. Awesome, topic!! I just like it.

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]]> By: Marsha http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-103768 Marsha Sun, 04 Apr 2010 05:52:57 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-103768 Michelle, You obviously have no idea! A stay at home wife or mother is a Home Engineer, darling. It takes great wisdom to hold this position. As counselor to her husband she assists in ALL business decisions and trust me, any smart man knows that a woman's intuition out-weighs his any day of the week. She uses her skills in such a way that her husband's home is truly a refuge from the stresses he experiences while he's away. She must be creative, attentive, and strong. No my friend, you have no clue on what it takes to hold this position and maybe it's not for you, but many of us don't need jobs and titles disguised as "careers" to validate our existence. Michelle, You obviously have no idea! A stay at home wife or mother is a Home Engineer, darling. It takes great wisdom to hold this position. As counselor to her husband she assists in ALL business decisions and trust me, any smart man knows that a woman’s intuition out-weighs his any day of the week. She uses her skills in such a way that her husband’s home is truly a refuge from the stresses he experiences while he’s away. She must be creative, attentive, and strong. No my friend, you have no clue on what it takes to hold this position and maybe it’s not for you, but many of us don’t need jobs and titles disguised as “careers” to validate our existence.

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]]> By: Sue http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-88325 Sue Fri, 22 Jan 2010 20:17:04 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-88325 Mocha Moms is an long established support group for mothers of color who choose to stay at home. Visit their website and join your local chapter. Staying at home with your children is a blessing, congregate with other mothers who feel the same way! Mocha Moms is an long established support group for mothers of color who choose to stay at home. Visit their website and join your local chapter. Staying at home with your children is a blessing, congregate with other mothers who feel the same way!

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]]> By: Monica http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-62074 Monica Wed, 26 Aug 2009 11:32:35 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-62074 Welfare be the answer...I don't know who my babies daddies are or do I care.....Welfare be taken the slack off me. Welfare be the answer…I don’t know who my babies daddies are or do I care…..Welfare be taken the slack off me.

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]]> By: Simka http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-62041 Simka Wed, 26 Aug 2009 03:44:58 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-62041 Michelle, you sound straight ignant...yes I spelled it ignant. Michelle, you sound straight ignant…yes I spelled it ignant.

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]]> By: Khrish http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-62014 Khrish Wed, 26 Aug 2009 01:21:21 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-62014 You are so right. But staying at home is a personal decision. I enjoyed being there with my children and having the opportunity to instill my values for my children. We did our times in the park, shopping, playing visits and my work in my home. I loved it. But there are some who would rather be away from the home and some who don't get the choice. It, for me, was a rewarding experience. My mom stayed home with me until I was school age but I still missed having to come home to an empty house and put all my good news and good report cards on hold until she arrived. But I knew she had to work and would have stayed at home if she could. I had the choice and I loved staying at home. Even when the children were in school, I enjoyed the activities at the schools and just being there for them. It is a time in my life that I shall never regret. You are so right. But staying at home is a personal decision. I enjoyed being there with my children and having the opportunity to instill my values for my children. We did our times in the park, shopping, playing visits and my work in my home. I loved it. But there are some who would rather be away from the home and some who don’t get the choice. It, for me, was a rewarding experience. My mom stayed home with me until I was school age but I still missed having to come home to an empty house and put all my good news and good report cards on hold until she arrived. But I knew she had to work and would have stayed at home if she could. I had the choice and I loved staying at home. Even when the children were in school, I enjoyed the activities at the schools and just being there for them. It is a time in my life that I shall never regret.

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]]> By: ce-0417 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/2009/04/26/the-%e2%80%9cstay-at-home-mom%e2%80%9d-double-standard/comment-page-1/#comment-61567 ce-0417 Sun, 23 Aug 2009 23:16:55 +0000 http://www.blackcelebkids.com/?p=15055#comment-61567 I was a stay at home mother of two boys. I went back to work when they started school and when they had enough knowledge to tell me when they were being mistreated. I enjoy staying at home with them.I work weekends and still spent quality time with them. I went on field trips, parent helper in the class room. You do what evers works for you. My boys respect that I work and still take care of home. I did not raise them on public assistant and they are not killers. Both are honor roll students I was a stay at home mother of two boys. I went back to work when they started school and when they had enough knowledge to tell me when they were being mistreated. I enjoy staying at home with them.I work weekends and still spent quality time with them. I went on field trips, parent helper in the class room. You do what evers works for you. My boys respect that I work and still take care of home. I did not raise them on public assistant and they are not killers. Both are honor roll students

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