JILL SCOTT TALKS ABOUT RAISING HER SON IN A SINGLE PARENT HOME
Essence recently sat down with new mom Jill Scott to talk about motherhood and her failed relationship with her ex-fiance Jon. Read below as Jill talks about her experiences as a new mom to 2-month-old Jett Hamilton and why she is no longer with her son’s father.
Jill on naming her son Jett: I named him after a black gemstone that my makeup artist in Africa had; it was simply called Jet, and I fell in love with it and the name because I thought my beautiful baby is a gem. I truly loved being pregnant and feeling what was going on inside my body and watching it change. It’s difficult to recoup but still amazing nonetheless. I would have another one.
On her “labor pains”: I was in labor for 36 hours. After that experience, anytime I have reservations and think I can’t do anything I remind myself that I survived the birth of my child (Laughs). Although I didn’t scream my baby into this world, the pain continued after he was born for at least three weeks. During labor I felt like I needed to put the fire out. Everybody kept telling me the pain wasn’t going to last forever but after 20 hours of it I left the building. I felt like I was on the ceiling looking down at myself like, Dag, girl, you still in labor? I know my experience isn’t everyone’s but I believe people need to be realistic when sharing their stories about their pregnancies and birth. When he arrived I held him in my arms for about an hour and then went to sleep because I was simply exhausted.
On her raising her son in a single parent home: Yes, he was there and for a couple of days afterwards while I stayed in hospital, but John and I are no longer together. When you have a baby you’re dealing with a lot of emotions and I don’t know how much of it had to do with us breaking up, but it happens. We definitely love our son and we are co-parenting and working on being friends. It is what it is. I have a lot of support, so I want for nothing as far as that’s concerned. I know some might criticize me or the fact that my son is being raised in a single-parent home, but I wasn’t raised in a two-parent home and I had a good relationship with my dad. I have hopes for him and I’m sure his father will do his part as well.
On the biggest lesson that she has learned as a mother: My heart and prayers go out to all single moms because it’s tough, and I can’t imagine any teenager dealing with a baby and all those hormones raging. I can afford to have this child at 37 because I have a support system and I can talk to my girls, Mo’Nique and Erykah [Badu], but I don’t understand how any mother does it alone. I don’t believe I suffered from postpartum because I didn’t feel depressed, but it was jarring and I can understand now how some mothers lose it. What he’s taught me is that I thought I was grown and patient but I was neither until now. Even when I hold him and dance with him to his favorite song, Marvin Gaye’s “Come Live With Me,” and he holds me tighter and then relaxes, I realize that I never knew unconditional love like this before, and I’m looking forward to watching and helping him grow.
32 Comments to “JILL SCOTT TALKS ABOUT RAISING HER SON IN A SINGLE PARENT HOME”
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Pictures, pictures When will she let us see pictures of the Baby?
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I didn’t know they broke up. At least she got her miracle baby after being told she couldn’t have any.
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I read this on Essence. I luv me some Jill, so I’ll leave my personal feelings to myself. Congrats on the new baby.
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I had no idea either that they split up. Does anyone stay together anymore?
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You guys are funny to me on this site.
I love how people pick and choose who they want to hate on.
Anyways,
I love Jill and I wish her nothing but the best.
Another couple relationship gone sour!
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I can’t wait to see her baby. I bet he is beautiful….I love me some Jill Scott. I wish her the best.
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HAD THAT BEEN TINY YALL WOULD BE GOING IN……SHE MOVED TOO FAST NO DIFFERENT FORM J-HUD AND SHES A BABYMOMMA WITH A GREAT WAY OF WORDING THINGS. I PERSONALLY COULD CARE LESS ABOUT MARRIAGE BUT YALL PISS ME OFF GIVING CERTAIN CHICKS PASSES. BUT THE GIRLS THAT YOU ALL GIVE HELL HAVE HAD LONG LASTING RELATIONSHIPS. THAT ARENT GOING ANYWHERE AND THEN YOU HAVE THIS TYPE OF SITUATION WHERE WOMEN BLINDLY JUMP IN AND JUMP OUT BUT YOU WISH THEM THE BEST …PLEASE. JUST REMEMBER THIS THE NEXT TIME THE YOUNG LADIES THAT YOU DOG OUT ARE POSTED
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i couldnt have said it better. and i think they forget, u can get married, divorce and still be a single mother.
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exactly
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This is a completely different situation. She didn’t plan on having a baby. She was told she couldn’t conceive so probably why they weren’t using protection. It is not the same as being someone’s 5th baby’s mamma knowing full well you are nothing more than just that.
That’s just my personal opinion. I have nothing against single mothers, I just would personally be embarrassed to be someone’s baby’s mamma. To me, being divorced is different; at least you tried to do the right thing. That wasn’t how I was raised, therefore I made sure I didn’t get pregnant while I wasn’t married. Everyone wasn’t raised like that. To each it’s own. No better or worse.
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*sigh* i too wanna see pics tho
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Wonder what they’re going to about the tattoos they got on their necks?
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BADU, MO’NIQUE, AND JILL? WHAT A FAB SISTER-FRIEND COMBO! I LOVE IT!
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i love jill scott..but i can’t stop thinking about those neck tats..
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I agree with Porshe, in that I also noticed the same behavior on various sites such as BCK and it sucks that we hate on each other that way.I am very happy that she’s had the opportunity to become a mother but am sad that she and her fiance’ are no longer together. I hope for the child’s sake that they can put aside their feelings and
be cordial to each other.
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Congrats on conquering postpardum Jill. My mother had it with my sister and thats a very hard thing to overcome. Can’t wait to see pics of the beautiful baby!
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SHE’LL BE ALRIGHT ANYWAY CANT WAIT TO SEE A PIC OF HER SON.
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Who really cares if she’s not married or even with him. Its been done, and single mom’s and dad’s pull it off everyday! Yes, marriage is ideal for lots of people, but not for everyone. In regards to the child, all that matter’s is that he will be loved unconditionally and nurtured by BOTH parents and they don’t need to be together for that to be the case! =)
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@Porshe I say the same thing all the time and I’ve been married happily and comfortably for 18yrs.Monica and Tiny get thrown under the bus all the time. We always see Rocko and TI with their children and they live with them and share names. All children need to see is parents respecting each other and communicating on the same page for the best intrest of the child.Some children grow up listening to their fathers/mamas husbands talk to mom and handle her like a dog and some women are married to deadbeat dads that trumphs being called a babydaddy any day. We so quick to judge insted of being happy for these families.
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I’ve said it on here before and will say it again, it’s God who designed marriage not people. The fact that some marriages fail and some live in couples don’t doesn’t change a thing about God’s design.
Many people give up on marriage because they feel it doesn’t work oh yeah it does God’s design is perfect, we’re the jacked up ones so either one side, the other side or both decided to bail out for one reason or another. Not that marriage is a bad thing or failing ones make it okay for people to live together. We all give our accounts for our choices to God not our fellow man.
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If got is perfect, then how can he make an imperfect design?
Marriage is a man-made social and legal design. It was designed so that men could have sexual control over women so that they could tell who fathered their children. If women were sexually wanton, then men wouldn’t know who fathered what child. By putting women with one man and punishing her for for being with any other man (or having sex before she married) – they had more control over family material and inheritance if they lay claim to the children she had.
Now we no longer need that. we have DNA TEST!!
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STOP bringing GOD into it. what if I don’t believe in what you say or stand for. Don’t use that as reasoning. the sh*t just doesn’t WORK!!!
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Come on black people!! Please get off of the PLANTATION!! GET MARRIED!!!!!!! BEFORE LAYING DOWN AND HAVING KIDS!!!!!
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I love the meaning behind her sons name!
Hopefully Jill witll release some photos soon. I’d love to see what Jett looks like
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She’s a beautiful woman. Babies change settings feelings. It happens she’ll get through
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That was quick. Not that I expect anyone’s relationships to last nowadays, but dang. He didn’t waste any time cutting out.
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Loved her part in “Why did I get Married”.
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Jill Scott will be a good mother to Jet and all the best.By the grace of God, she’ll manage and be able to instil good morals.Also, it’s good to hear that Jon is playing a role and hope he keeps on doing that.Men are unpredictable species at times especially when there’s a child involve!!!
Pics plz…!!!
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CONGRATS MOMMA!
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I wonder if Jill will come back and do “The #1 Ladies detective Agency on HBO, I loved that show!! Anyway Jill congrats on your baby! Even if it didn’t work out for you and the baby’s father, I respect that you didn’t get married just because you have a baby. A lot of girls think that they have to get married just because they have a baby — that does not guarantee success. Good Luck to both you and the baby!
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I know that I am years late on commenting but after reading these post I had too. Bottom line, why does it matter who is married and who is not. People get so caught up in other people’s business and their lives are a living mess. “People” need to focus on their on selves and take the article for what it is, an article. Jill and others like her are human! I am sure being a single parent was not what she sought out to be, but she is, so… Get a life people, sheeesh. I’d rather her not get married and have her sanity for the sake of herself and her child than to be married for the sake of saying “I’m married. When will the hating end?
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Yay Jill!! Do your motherly thing girl. Where have I been, didn’t know she had a babay. I hope she enjoys every moment, and pays no attention to unpleasant “talks”. It’s what people do to attempt to make themselves feel good. MISERY LOVES COMPANY!
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