MOM: WHO ALLOWED THOSE YOUNG GIRLS TO PERFORM WITH LIL WAYNE?
-Pictured: Debra Lee and daughter at pre-BET party/Photo:Blackcelebkids.com-
BET CEO Debra Lee has come under fire for allowing rapper Lil Wayne to perform onstage with his daughter at the 2009 BET Awards. Like many of you, Dr. Janet Taylor, a Clinical Psychiatrist, was a bit appalled that television network BET would allow ”preteens” to shake “their groove thang” to a rather ”offensive” song called “Every Girl in the World”
Now, I enjoy rap, with the exception of rappers who use lyrics to degrade, defame, or threaten others. In my opinion, the music is not productive and I frequently will simply turn it off. On the show, when rapper Drake appeared sitting down to rest his torn Achilles, I was like, OK … pretty tame. I don’t have a problem with Lil’ Wayne; he is creative and his writing is brilliant at times. However, his song “Every Girl” is offensive and disturbing. Here are the shocking lyrics– read them with caution. Perhaps, they are what our kids are used to. I have teenagers, girls no less, who have heard the song and like it. My problem was with the preteens who were proudly onstage, shaking their groove thang to this misogynistic, disrespectful song. It was ridiculous. Debra Lee, the CEO of BET, also the mother of two children, should be asking herself who approved this and how these young girls were allowed to be a part of this “act.”
Lil Wayne performs with singer/rapper Drake and the "preteen girls"
It is time for perspective here. In the minutes that were wasted onstage during this song, almost four women were forcibly raped in the United States. The age group of 13-17, to which these young “dancers” belong, has the highest number of victims of forcible rape at 32%. Women who are sexually or physically abused just once in their lifetimes are more likely to experience a poor range of physical and mental health outcomes.
Why are we as women and mothers passively allowing our young girls to be utilized as sexual entertainment? We need to wake up and understand the importance of what we expose our children and teens to. Surely, you would not pop in porn for movie night with your family, so how can one justify the bright idea of preteens rocking out to hardcore rap under the watchful eyes of the adults in the audience?
The negative portrayal of young women and girls can lead to unequal power in relationships, influence sexual behavior, contribute to violence against women, and challenge what are acceptable norms and behavior within gender. I am not making an indictment against rap; my issue is with the producers who allowed this debacle to happen.
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Clearly Lil Wayne has no parenting skills. As a parent of a daughter, I don’t even want her listening to his mess. I don’t understand how the mothers of those girls thought that performing to that song was appropriate. All of the parents should have mandated parenting classes ASAP. SMDH at this foolishness.
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& WHAT RIGHT DO YOU HAVE TO TLK ABOUT HIM
NO1 BUT HIS FAMILY & FRIENDS NO ABOUT HIS PARENTING SKILLS & I THINK HES A GREAT PARENT HE ALWAYS RAPP & HAVES HIS DAUGHTER BY HIS SIDE SOO TAKE CARE OF YOUR & MIND HIS
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GENERAL COMMENT…NOT REALLY IN RESPONSE TO ANYONE’S COMMENT
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Let’s BE REAL!!!! A LOT of children listen to this type of music. I’m not saying that makes it right or that parents should go out & cop their child the next explicit cd that comes out. Kids may not listen to these songs in front of their parents but they’re not locked to us 24/7. They have peers, computers, t.v., radio & a variety of things that make it almost impossible to sheild your child from these things. Unless, your locking your child in a basement until he/she turns 18, there’s a great chance your child will hear (even see) something you don’t want them to.
Now as for the parents, “TEACH” your child right from wrong & never give up on them. Guide them in the right direction & be the best parent you can be. Teach your child how to be a leader (with his/her own mind). Show them how to be a good person (lead by example).
A child can be raised in the best home, church, be ahead of their class & still turn out to be on drugs, selling their body & all the things a parent can only hope & pray their child will never be (WE SEE IT EVERYDAY). It’s important that parents ensure their child has book knowledge as well as street knowledge! Don’t sheild your child from everything thinking your doing them a favor. The moment you let your smart child go out into this crazy world (without any knowledge of the streets) the streets will eat them alive.
Bump the music! Let’s talk about why women allow men to disrespect them period! Than maybe we’ll get a better understanding of why these types of songs are being made. Let’s look beyond the video girls for a minute because they always seem to get the blame. Women (not all) don’t even expect a man to “date” them anymore. Some women don’t even feel they’re worth a drive-thru meal (it’s that bad). Just buy her a drink (if that) & it’s on. Making it way to easy for guys these days. So when a real woman come along, she appears to be too much work because there’s 50 other women that’s ready & willing to make it hassle free. Allowing these men to call when they want; have other women as long as they can be another notch; & all kinds of crazy stuff. This is the real reason behind these type of songs being made & accepted.
Women (not all) chase up behind one man like he’s the last man on earth. Giving him the control to make every last one of them an option. Even have the nerve to want to fight each other. Women will knowingly mess with another woman’s boyfriend/husband & really think she has something special. I’m confused with the women that allow themselves to go from being his woman, to being his side woman? If he stepped, why are you allowing him back in your life? Why is it that easy for a man to flip flop back & forth? Doors should be closed PERIOD!! Don’t allow a man to decide on who he wants to be with (that’s crazy). I could go on for days but WOMEN we need to start with ourselves. Stop making it so easy for these men to treat us like this. Once women start DEMANDING respect & stop acting like one man is the last man on earth, we’ll continue to hear these songs, see these stupid reality shows (competition for fake love), etc.
WAKE UP LADIES!
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Good point!!! We need to take responsibility of teaching our kids right from wrong and to think for themselves.
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All this sounds nice and cute but the problem is the parents and what society has accepted as far as entertainment. The reason why All this sounds nice and cute but the problem is the parents and what society has accepted as far as entertainment. The reason why kids grow up so soon because we as a society have compromised what they see on TV, internet and movies. Kids do not run the show adults run the show. Therefore, when these rappers are putting out all the nasty dancing; let us include Beyonce’s lap dance on that; this is sending a message that it is cool to behave this way.
Let me repeat what Diana Ross said as far as the strip tease and foul language we get from artist today. “We all can make money with our clothes on, you don’t have to stoop so low and dance half naked, or say thug lyrics to be notice and stay in the game.
By the way, if you have true talent then it would not be necessary to do all the ridiculous things to be notice -kids deserve to have decent mentors.
Thank you God for Alicia Keys and her raw talent….peace.
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I didn’t watch the show but this is totally inappropriate. i can’t believe these girls parents, the producers, the performers, and all the other adults who should have known better actually allowed this to happen. These girls and many other little black kids in the same sorry family position don’t stand a chance in life.
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From what I have read on other sites, this was a last minute thing that was not rehearsed nor pre-approved by the BET execs. It seems that Wayne made the decision on his own to let the girls perform. Poor poor choice IMHO.
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Yeah, I read that too, and I thought, “Bet needs to prerecord then if they can’t control what their artists do.”
Very poor choice. BET gets an “F!”
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Lil Wayne is not the only one at fault…so should Toya, the child’s mother, and Tiny whose daughter Zonnique was on stage, as well as the other two young ladies father who is a member of the R&B Group Silk. They should ALL be ashamed.
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That’s true. Very, very true. My bad.
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your completely right. the mothers are just as at fault. when wayne said i am going to put our daughter on stage while i sing i wish i could eff every girl in the world. she should have put a stop to it but ignorance breeds ignorance and by the time she is 17, wayne, toya and tiny will all be grandparents
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yep zonnique is in the little red ballet thing
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FIRST, Only one child is the daughter of the Silk member, John John. Second, he knew nothing about it. The Mother doesn’t let him have anything to do with the child. All she wants is money from him and that’s it. She has the daughter calling her husband Dad, and has givven her his last name. The only rights she gives the real Father are the rights to pay money. Which gives the prime example, “Will do anything for Money and Fame” even take that poor child out of her father’s life. FYI, if a man is man enough to give another man’s child his last name, he should should be man enough to take care of that child. All of it is a big mess! When will people start thinking of the child first?
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How so ? At any company if a High ranked Manager isn’t available to make decisions , a lower level one make the decisions ..Bull crap they just don’t want to take the blame , but they will because its their network and not Lil Wayne’s or any other rapper .
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Yeah, its inappropriate but thats her daddy and her mama let it go down so its non of my business…
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We have to learn early in life that things of this nature are, indeed, our business. It affects the culture of our community so that makes it our business. Remember, It takes a village. We can’t even grow up thinking like that.
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Heck, I didn’t know who they were, I just knew they were young. Do I see makeup on their faces? I think one of the girls is Tiny’s daughter. Don’t forget peeps, Lil Wayne and that child’s mother was only 14 and 15yrs old when they had her. What kind of parenting skills they really gonna have?lmao. Both of them in their early 20′s with a 10yr old. Lil Wayne not singing nothing those kids haven’t heard or seen before, believe that, just trifling.
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true
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True, But as a parent you shouldn’t encourage that. We know kids cures and know the dirty versions of their favorite song that they sing when they’re with their friends but for a parent to be cursing like that with their child around is just not cool, yes parents use curse words in front of their kids but the combonation of curse words and the content of the song is what made it even worse.
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I think that this is lil waynes business. That is his child. Its not like he had some strange little girls on stage. Of course his daughter is going to listen to his music and support him. Dont judge him. It’s his daughter. Let him raise his the way he wants and everybody else needs to do the same. You wouldnt want nobody judging ou and telling you how to raise your child. I think he is great with his daughter. Im pretty sure lil wayne does not care about what anybody thinks. And im pretty sure that if the shoe was on the other foot nobody would care about what he thought of how they raised their kids because its nobodys business except the father and mother on how they raise thier child. So give it a rest and stay outta his business. It doesnt bother him so why is it bothering you? He is not worrid about it so why are you?
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Star, quick question for ya. If live next door to someone and you knew they were sexually abusing or beating their child, are you going to say, “Oh, it’s none of my business to judge them as parents?” There are countless people raising their children the way they want by raping, prostituting, beating and neglecting them. Now, I’m not saying Wayne is doing such; however, a blind person can see that it is not appropriate for a father to be singing such garbage in front of his daughter, especially with her participation.
People have their opinions, and I’m glad they do because no child should be listening to this music. Period. Now, I AM judging.
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abusing and raping children is really extreme and does not compare to saying a few words like f**k or p***y. parents go to jail for abuse and rape, not for cursing in front of their children. sure, i’m all for parents setting an example for their children…but if you’re trying to make a point, at least argue with something less outrageous and more comparable.
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well how’s this, research has shown that emotional abuse can have similar effects in shaping a persons outlook on life and in turn affecting thier behaviors. if his daughter hears messages that degrade women such as the lyrics in this song, then she may devalue her self and have low self esteem, in which case she wont be prepared for the world and may attention seek and put herself in harms way
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AMEN Teri! You are so right! I think all this is a hawt mess! Tiny should know better! I feel sorry for these girls that they have no positive lead in their lives. Poor excuse for Mothers! And for people who are poting staements thinking that this is okay, that’s more than likely The Mom’s themselves trying to make it better because there is noting right about this at all. Even the photos of the OMG Girls the parents are allowing to be posted on sites with see through tutus on! SHAME! Question, How far will they go?
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Doesn’t it make it worse that it is his daughter? Shouldn’t he be trying to protect her from things like this? When I think of a father and his daughter, I think of a man who would beat someone down for saying “I’m just wanna ____ every girl in the world” in front of her. I don’t think of a man who advocates doing it. Maybe because that’s how MY OWN father was.
And Tiny and Toya should be ashamed of themselves. But they were probably in the audience thinking it was cute. SMH
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I cosign 100%. Yes it does make it worse.
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& WHO R U TOO JUDGE HIM ?
YOU ACT LIKE IT WAS A STANGER THAT CAME ON STAGE
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Doesn’t it make it worse that this IS his daughter? Shouldn’t a father be trying to protect her from things like this? When I think of a father and his daughter, I think of a man who would go crazy if someone was saying “I just wanna ____ every girl in the world.” I don’t think of a man who advocates doing it while his daughter and her friends dance on stage.
Tameka and Toya should also be ashamed. But they were probably in the audience thinking it was cute. SMH
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I think that everyone is making this bigger that what it is and to start comparing these little girls being onstage to girls being raped is ridiculous.This was his daughter and her friends who are in a singing group and they werent dancing inapporiatly to begin with Im so sick of parents mainly mothers of teen girls trying to put a negative spin on everything that has to do with someone elses child or rap music Im sure none of you know lil Wayne or have taken the time to read more into him before labeling him a bad parent no one has any right to speak on him or there mothers no parent is pefect and Im sure none of you a perfect stop trying to pass judgement there is only one person who has that right GOD!
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How can you say you are sick of people passing judgement and you did the same thing in your post? Think before you write.
(“Im so sick of parents mainly mothers of teen girls trying to put a negative spin on everything that has to do with someone elses child or rap music “)
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My dear, when things concerning your children go public it is open to discussion. Obviously you are not a mother and I certainly don’t think that your mother would approve of you in the company of such a vile presentation if you were that age. I am a grown woman and I know my mother would have been upset watching me mouth the lyrics to that song. It’s a new day and we as parents realize that, but their is never a time stamp on morals. And, yes it was all that. It was an example to the viewing audience of how little you care about your young girls. It was disgusting and showed a lack of respect for their own children. That’s why so many parents have been speaking out on this site and others. BET seems to have no respect for what it offers to its viewers. There are so many young folk who are so talented and gifted who can’t get a chance to showcase themselves. Why can’t BET ever present those young people. They always seem to enjoy showcasing the worse of our community. I’m sorry if you are tired of hearing us parents talk about this segment of the show, but we can see far beyond want you are seeing now.
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You just don’t get it, do you?
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The last thing anyone needs to do is blame the girls. Calling them “fast” or “hot” or “grown” only victimizes them more. These girls have been let down by their fathers, their mothers, their family members, the media, the government, and society as a whole. Adult black women are so quick to label black teen girls as “fast”. It has to be jealousy over their own aging because how you can blame a kid for dressing and behaving inapproriately is beyond me.
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FYI, if you think black women label black girls as fast, try listening to other races talk about black women/girls. Unfortunately black women and men have bad reputations. No one is jealous (that is really played out and jealous of what) because some of them are fast. It’s not their fault; like you said, it’s the fault of the many adults in their lives that have failed them.
To me, the saddest part are the GIRLS/WOMEN and the “mind your own business” crowd, such as a few on this board, who don’t see the problem. My mom always said, “You can’t make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear.”
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I am not discussing what other races say about black females. I am discussing what adult black women say about black girls because that’s where the respect for our girls has to begin. There are plenty of jealous adult black females who simply label victimized black teen girls as “fast” due their own insecurities, or because they remember when it was them, or because the so called adult men in their lives lust after young girls. If you can justify with logic a different reason why it’s okay for this label to be applied to our girls by their own should-be mentors, please do.
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SomeoneWhoKnows says:
June 30, 2009 at 9:25 pm
I am not discussing what other races say about black females. I am discussing what adult black women say about black girls because that’s where the respect for our girls has to begin. There are plenty of jealous adult black females who simply label victimized black teen girls as “fast” due their own insecurities, or because they remember when it was them, or because the so called adult men in their lives lust after young girls. If you can justify with logic a different reason why it’s okay for this label to be applied to our girls by their own should-be mentors, please do.
I’m 45 years old and have worked with a lot of young women over the years. Never would I advocate calling them fast; however, there are fast young ladies. It is not their fault; they need guidance. Now, those jealous black females you are talking about, obviously you’ve encountered women such as these – I haven’t. IF they are that vicious, then they need help. If you are talking about a mother calling her daughter such, then obviously that’s destructive. I would NEVER, EVER advocate that. I never said I would.
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We obviously do not talk to the same people. I really have not heard anyone refer to the girls by labeling them “fast” or any of the other terms you mentioned. We have been talking about the lack of respect their parents showed to the girls by allowing them on stage with the filth that was being rapped by their own father. You are right, respect begins at home. You show it towards your children and they to you and then it is shown to others. For us, as adults to see something like this and remain silent would be a greater dis-service to young ladies or girls. I am a Black mother of adults and I say to you that there is very little respect in those households among those parents to allow their girls to be a part of what we heard the other night. LiL Wayne and the mothers of these girls are financially able to offer their girls a better chance in life than many of us. It does not matter that they choose to carry on and disrespect others as they do in their music. They are adults and there are adults who accept that type of thing. But these are children who should be nurtured and protected from the hard life of the streets not enticed to promote it. If you can’t see that, then maybe you too have learned to ignore being disrespected and that’s sad. We have to care because this will affect our community. As the lady said above with all the rapes and violence against women…We have to care or we are no better than wild animals.
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What are you talking about? I get the impression that you think I’m cosigning with this BET madness we witnessed the other day. If so, you apparently did not read my post.
You said, “It does not matter that they choose to carry on and disrespect others as they do in their music. They are adults and there are adults who accept that type of thing. But these are children who should be nurtured and protected from the hard life of the streets not enticed to promote it. If you can’t see that, then maybe you too have learned to ignore being disrespected and that’s sad. We have to care because this will affect our community. As the lady said above with all the rapes and violence against women. We have to care or we are no better than wild animals.”
I’m thoroughly cosigning with you and I’ve said no different. You brought up the aspect of calling girls fast. My point was there ARE fast girls out there and in my dealings with young ladies, I know there are a myriad of reasons for it. It is not their fault. They are victims as well. That’s what I said. So I’m not sure what’s going on with your comments to me, but if you think I cosign this crap on BET, you are sorely WRONG. I despised it.
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I totally agree with someond who knows about black people (women in particular) who labels young girls as ‘fas’ or ‘smelling they panties’ (yall know that one?) I know girls who have been abused as young girls and it blamed on them for being ‘fas.’
And I like to say that if we don’t like how ‘our’ black men and boys treat our girls and women, watch how you raise your son. What these men are now are a reflection of how we raised them. And we don’t live in a vaccuum – society at large is very rape-oriented and sex-degrading culture, but it always worse for us. When whites get a cold, blacks get pneumonia. All that machismo BS that black men have to play (due to color and race) is not helping us at all.
But on the subject of them performing with Lil Wayne – all his previous antics aside, was he at least civil and respectful to the girls on stage?
Nelly got a lot of flack for the tipdrill thang – but Nelly has always been respectful to the young people, to elderly, and had has some worthwhile causes. He very philanthropic. Tipdril wasn’t a big deal to me because if you don’t like watch it, don’t watch it.
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It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.
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the song in itself if disgusting, Lil Wayne himself has 2 or 3 kids coming, all by different women, if he ain’t wrapping it up, you betta believe he’s gonna catch something.
So you wanna have sex with every girl u see, does that include your own daughter
I’m not trying to be mean or nasty , or insist Lil Wayne has a thing for his kid, I’m just saying that’s really nasty, you not gonna get this if you boned every chick in the world,
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If BET would stop supporting this music period, people won’t see it odd when it’s disagreed with. Not speaking rap music mind you but anything as someone stated or was it the article? Anyway anything that’s degrading another human being.
Those same little girls and those like them are sitting in front of the tv taking in all of those details regardless, with or without their parents permission.
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db, I doubt very seriously that BET will stop playing this type of crap. As long as people support it, they’ll keep pushing it. I haven’t been a BET viewer in ages. I watched the award show strictly for Michael, and fast forwarded through most of this garbage. Otherwise, BET is not only list of channels.
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BET CEO Debra Lee is the embodiment of evil and satanism. If you pay attention to the vid, both Lil Wayne and Drake throw up the devil worship sign. Google devil worship sign. It’s the same sign we’ve seen George Bush and other evil doers in our society throw up. It is a sign of devil worship, satan worship, satanism, which is simply the worship of dark and evil forces. Once you understand what side BET CEO Debra Lee is playing for, you will be able to understand how and why this took place.
BTW don’t let the black faces fool you, BET is no longer black owned.
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The ‘devil worship sign’ is the American Sign Language of ‘I love You.’ Even President Obama has used it (you can see it in this link where they about satinist – so I guess Obama is a satanist too!)
So um…. what are you talking about?
You may have a point on another issue, but you need to get a clue about this one.
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Reading some of these post I can tell who gets the message and who are clueless about how it look on tv. True it is lil wayne’s daughter but it is a time and place for everything the song is not kid friendly. I watch the awards show because they were supposed to honor mj.
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His own daughter was up there, so he was ok with it.
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I’ve read all the comments thus far and feel the need to comment as well. I’m not big into rap anymore. Used to be when I was younger but I’m more into R&B now. I say that to say this…It took me a minute to really sit down listen to this song.
In this song, someone names off the women they want to screw and Miley Cyrus’s name is mentioned (Miley Cyrus in 3 yrs). Now I have 2 daughters (ages 4 and 7) that loves Miley. I don’t know if those girls are into Miley but for that rapper to even mention her name means they’re looking at her in a sexual way. Miley is only 16.
Need I say more to get my point across?
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Excellent point! Have you noticed that many of the ones supporting these jackasses happen to be girls/women. What’s up with that?
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Wow I was wondering why no one had said anything about the miley cyrus thing being offensive(she is a kid). That was the most disgusting performance I have witnessed. I have a 9 year old and couldn’t imagine allowing her to perform to something like that. I feel bad for all involved (parents and children). After watching some of the Tiny and toya show, I see why at least Toya allowed her daughter to participate in this crap. She grew up with no guidance herself. She is still seeking out a mother figure. She seems to have no clue.
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Hey! 16 is age of consent in a number of states, Plus they did say in THREE YEARS. So they’d wait it out…
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Seems like all parties involved kids parents and the idoit who thought little girls dancing to a song about having sex with every girl in the world all have the same mental capacity. Lil wanye hasnr thougt about the message he is sending to the little boys who his daughters and these other little girls will be dealing with when they are adults or sooner. No wonder that these same girls will be some of the many the ones my sons and your sons will think are okay to disrespect. Wayyyy to go lil wanye. What grown man still wants to be called LIL?? Even Bow wow dropped the lil….time to face it he’s an adult and a father he needs to start acting like one.
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SMDH, I’m particularly mad at homegirl on the right in the black and red tights, face all screwed up like what she’s hearing is the gospel, but that’s how kids today are receiving these negative messages. I don’t watch BET so I didn’t catch the awards show, not even to see the MJ tribute, yet still I’m a fan of his. Anyway, my semi-professional opinion tells me that just as homegirl’s face suggests (as mentioned prior) it’s as if in that moment those young girls perceived their attainment of industry “credibility,” which only they can interpret.
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BET had no control over this. They were not informed the children were going to be on stage. Lil Wayne just brought them up without clearing it. Blame it on him.
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Well BET should know about it. That is no excuse.
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My mother would nvr let me go up there……….. i am a very spoiled gurl but my mom would never and i mean never let me go up on that stage with them singing “I WISH I COULD F*** EVERY GIRL IN THE WORLD” we went to the BetAwards and when the lil gurls came up on stage my mom was already like “OH HECK NO OH HECK NO”…..
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Something about Debra rubs me the wrong way ..She looks sneaky..I can see how she messed up Bob’s marriage ..
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The performance with those little girls was horrible. When do we say enough is enough. Children have lost their innocence, and it keeps getting worse. You can’t even listen to the radio anymore with your children in the car.
But don’t forget the parents. The parents who don’t monitor what’s on their kids ipods and mp3′s. The parents that allow their kids to have televisions in their bedrooms with access to every channel under the sun. The parents who allow their kids to have computers and laptops in their “closed door bedrooms” without parental controls. The parents of these preteen girls who are probably in their early 30′s, and believe that having their kids on tv for this performance was a good thing.
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I have to say when I saw the girls come out onstage I was surprised! Why would he have his little girl and her friends up there for that type of song? I thought it was a bit odd at most….and true their mothers should have def. said no…but that is his kid…..Oh yeah, and this article hyped it up to about fifteen extra levels…rape?..dancers?…they were just there…they barely moved!
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Okay so to clear everything up, so everyone can stop w/ all this. Here is what was said and I believe it:
I just heard from a source close to Tiny’s camp who informed me that the appearance of Tiny’s preteen group OMG onstage with rappers Lil Wayne and Drake at the BET Awards was neither planned nor rehearsed.
My source said the group’s appearance onstage was a last minute decision by Wayne and no one else.
“According to my source, what happened was Wayne’s daughter Reginae, 9, was upset that she didn’t get the chance to accompany her father, Lil Wayne, to the stage to accept his award because she was sitting too far back in the audience.
Once backstage, the youngster began to cry. And Wayne, who they say is a great dad, hated to see his little girl cry. So he told Reginae she could come out onstage during his performance with Drake. Reginae, being the team player that she is, asked the other members of her group to go out on stage with her.
So there you have it.”
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i dont believe that story. Toya and Tiny both were on twit ter talking about how the OMG girls were getting ready for their performance for the BET awards. Personally i have been a lil wayne fan since the beginning of his music career and i have watched and read stories about him and his daughter and i believe that he is a great father. i am a mother of sons, i have neices, young sisters and know many young girls who know the song and know it well and im pretty sure the posters here have daughters that know the song, just like lil waynes daughter and her friends know the song. Parents make mistakes sometimes, young parents, older parents, we all do, sometimes we realize it before hand and sometimes we dont. its just that Waynes mistake was broadcasted to millions of ppl. Wayne doesnt care about the influence he has on your children, he has said so on numerous occasions, he only cares about his own kids and since his daughter already knows the song, than to him there is no problem. Wayne, Toya and Tiny neglected to use better judgement. Dont falt them for their mistake, just teach YOUR children what is right from wrong.
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HE SHOULD’VE LET HER CRY.SHE AINT NOTHING BUT A SPOILED BRAT
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I’m sure BET had no idea Lil Wayne was going to bring those girls on the stage but it was very much inappropriate and I can not believe Lil Wayne or whoever decided to do it allowed that to happen. The fact that they allowed him and Drake to sing a song that inappropriate on an award show rated TV-PG was bad enough.
And did anyone notice how horrible they were at beeping/censoring out the cuss words and inappropriate language? I know the show was live but that is why we have 10 sec delay… BET REALLY NEEDS TO STEP UP their production game. You would never see any of that mess on the MTV Awards show. Steven Hill needs to be fired. I’m sure BET lost a TON of viewers because of how horrible this show was put together and operated.
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I am completely against objectifying women and children in any form. But I think what was written by the momlogic blogger is a little bit extreme. Granted the decisions was a poor one on the part of everyone involved and the scenario was in fact in appropriate. However, lets not refer to the young girls as “dancers” cause that’s putting it into a whole other context. These are fully dressed little girls, not “dancers”. Let us also not say that they are being utilized as sexual entertainment. This is also not the case.
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By they way, the little girl in the pink tu tu is Tiny’s daughter Zonnique so she should feel horrible as well!! Of all songs, they chose to let these little girls come out to this. Even if they were just out there when drake was singing by himself that would have been half way acceptable but it is crazy. People will do anything to make money off their kids. To my knowledge they are a girl group called OMG girls but I really didn’t see what skills they were portraying besides up and coming “video whores”….the sad part is their mothers Tiny and Toya were at the award show so they must have thought everything was fine. Sad case….Also just imagine the little girls that were watching the Awards that now thinks it’s cool to dance to negative songs with rappers.
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Again, its all in the parenting skills…..
Sasha and Melia would NEVER be on that stage with Lil Wayne and Drake dancing to that hideous song.
Agree?
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Did they acutally curse on stage ?????????
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YES they did!!! Even as drake tried to change the lyrics of waynes verse to sound tv friendly wayne cursed over him. The girls were up there reciting the words along with him and
“air humping” when he said “u can get the business”. 10-13yrs old….no ma’am. Also, did anybody else notice that while Baby came on stage to do his verse, his daughter(who came on stage when wayne accepted the award earlier so you know she was there)who is roughly the same age as Wayne’s, sat in the audience as a child should during those songs?
BTW…watched BET’s re-air of the show the next day, and the girls were blurred and cut out of the show. They knew that was WRONG!!!
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I AM SICK OF HEARING ABOUT THIS ACTUALLY, I DO NOT BELIEVE WHAT HAPPENED WAS RIGHT. I THINK THAT AT THE END OF THE DAY THOSE YOUNG LADIES ON THE STAGE KNOW WHAT’S EXPECTED OF THEM, AND WHAT THEY CAN AND CAN’T DO!! THOSE OF US WATCHING CAN JUST USE THIS AS A LEARNING TOOL, TO TEACH OUR CHILDREN WHAT NOT TO DO!! AND HOW TO ACT AS YOUNG MEN AND WOMEN.
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It was her dad’s decision and his decision alone (as well as the other girl’s parents) if that’s what they want to do then so be it. My dad took me places I had no business being at a young age (bars, crack-house, illegal gambling spots), did it make me a bad person? Nope, not at all in fact it made me a stronger and wiser person because I learned from those experiences. Without those experiences I would not be the person I am today.
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It’s just a song and they was not using the explicit lyrics on stage.Let’s get over this.Thanks
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it was so much explicit lyrics that they kept pliping it out!!
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What show was you watching? they were singing and dancing
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Angel I think if your going to comment on something get your facts right saying toya grew up without guidance I think you need to watch that first episode again she said she grew up in a family who wasnt big on saying I love you that doesnt equal no guidance you idiot and she is not seeking a mother figure she has a mother and is a great one herself her mom is just in a bad place in her life right now get your facts straight.
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I agree that the girls coming on stage while that song was being performed was very inappropriate but you can’t assume that these girls will grow up to be dancers and have babies at an early age. They were only allowed to do what their parents allowed. Personally thats their kids and at the end of the day it really don’t matter what any of us think.
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The song, with such content, shouldn’t be allowed to be performed on BET just on principle alone. I mean, can this song get any worse lyric-wise??
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YOU GUYS HAVE TO UNDERSTAND WHAT KID DOESNT NO THIS SOUND ?
&| IT WASNT PLANNED THAT THEY WAS COMIN OUT HIS DAUGHTER WAS UPSET SHE DIDNT GET TO GET HER AWARD W| HIM SO HIM LIKE A GOOD DAD LET HER COM ON STAGE ITS NOTHING WRONG WITH IT THEY WAS 2 STEPPIN YALL ACT LIKE THEY WAS DROPIIN IT & THINGS THEY WAS IN ONE SPOT DANCING SIDE TO SIDE STOP THE NON-SENSE ; IM PRETTY SURE EVERYONE KID LISTENIN & DANCING TO IT LIL WAYNE A GREAT DAD HE SPOLIS HER TO DEAD . SO PLEASE DNT GIVE HIM NEGATIVE ATTETION
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Wow, I love how this receives sooo much attention. At least the public, or at this point the readers of BCK, are conscious of this stuff. These no talent-having rappers are taking over with their degrading of women. And these young girls are praising them. And many of these young guys actually treat women like crap just as many of these rappers do, in reality and in videos. And these young girls love it. I can tell by listening to many young girls saying that they want to marry lil’ wayne(Why should I capitalize lil’ wayne’s name?), and marry people like plies. C’mon, are you serious?
But seriously, I am glad many people are starting to take notice of how many parts of the world are regressing, instead of progressing.
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I think everyone wronq 4 doin this to him his a qreat dad his dauqhter pretty nd as lomq as she wasnt popin its nothjn wronq u all need 2 stop hatin im sure ur kids no the sonq because if diddy had his kids on staqe no1 wuld complain soo y now necause he performaced a hit soo what it nd soulja boy is what made the crowd hype
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I was watching this with my 11yr old son next to me and when the lyric’s became clear to me as not for his age I put the TV on mute for the rest of the performance. Then I became very upset because I didn’t know before hand that it was going to be that type of song. I was even more upset to see the girls all come out. This prompted a good talk w/ my son which was good, but they should not have been up there at all. The parents should be ashamed of themselves.
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She has a great point, Im glad my kids dont tune in to B.E.T. I was shocked Debra allowed that too.Not a good look at all and where was the parents in all of this?
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DOES IT MATTER THEY WASNT POPPING NOTHING THEY WAS JUST MOVING SIDE – TO 0 SIDE
THE LYRICS & THEM DANCING TO THINGS IF IT WAS 3 YEAR OLDS UP THERE NO1 WOULD CARE BUT BECAUSE ITS LIL WAYNE DAUGHTER + T.I DAUGHTER & FRIENDS PEOPLE WANNA JUDGE THEM
YOU PEOPLE ARE SOO SICKIN ‘
DOES IT MATTER WHERE THEY PARENTS WAS ; IM PRETTY SURE YA =KIDS NO THAT SOUND ; ITS HIS DAUGHTER DO YOU EXPECT HER NOT TO NO THE WORDS YOU PEOPLE JUDGE PEOPLE OFF NOTHING BECAUSE WHAT IF THEY DIDNT COME ON TOO THAT SONG & CAME ON TOO BEST I EVER HAD WHAT WOULD YALL SAY THEN ???
EVERYONE JUDGIN HIM NEEDS TO LEARN WHO HE IS BEFORE TRYIN TOO JUDGE HIM
& BY THE LOOKS OF HIM RAPPIN ABOUT HER ALL THE TIME & ETC ; HE LOVES HIS DUGHTER DEARLY & IF YALL KNEW IT WASNT PLANNED FOR THEM 2 COME OUT IM SURE YALL WOULDNT CARE
DID YOU SEE ALL THEM PEOPLE IN THE CROWD SINGIN IT THEY HAD NOO PROBLLEMM WiTH IT SOO YOU ALL NEED TO STAY HOME & TUNE INTO YALL TV.
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just because someone loves their child dearly (and i don’t doubt for a second that wayne does), it doesn’t mean they can’t have a major lapse in judgment.
i think it was a very bad idea to him to have his pre-teen daughter dancing on stage while you are singing that kind of song. period. i don’t care that he was trying to make up for something else (although that would have been more appropriate) or that it’s his daughter, so he can decide.
just the number of women on this (and other sites) DEFENDING him and the station on this issue tells me just how much that kind of music/attitude compounds the negative self-image many (black) women already have about themselves.
it also explains a lot about the general low regard in which black women are held – and allow ourselves to be held.
it won’t GET better until we are committed to DOING better, ladies!
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This is stupid. We are ll upset over Lil Wayne and underage girls on stage but yet we still continue to support the sell of such much. Who buys the music mostly teens and black men. they sing this stuff because we allow them to. we are the customers if we really want it to stop then dont buy, download or support your kids listening to this. I love rap, hip hop, rock but we are lost as a culture be dont show respect in any of our music. all you hear is sex, swag and money. Its not little waynes fault he is just doing what he needs to do to get your money. And BET has gone down the tubes. It know stands for Bad entertainment TV. They have sold out our culture and our people. Just like everyone else in america.
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I’m confused- when was BET ever “up” the tubes for it to go down them, lol? BET will always get an F, they need a major overhaul. One hot mess of a channel. As for Lil’ Wayne… well, that’s a grown man rappin’ about grown-man things, I won’t knock him for that. But to have his pre-teen daughter up there shaking to it? I just don’t agree with that. That’s like Juvenile having a 10-year-old up there dancing “Back that Ass Up” or Akinyele singin’ “Put It In Ya Mouth” and having his 11-year-old daughter demonstrating how. It’s all just weird. I mean, I know the kids dance to worse on their own, but why celebrate it?
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Her daughter are gorgeous.
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Sad! Just sad!
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This was all but 3 minutes at the most and it would be hypocritical of Lil Wayne shielding his daughter from this, when it’s what is making them live fabulous. I’m sure the other times he’s not swearing, abusing, misbehaving and the rest in front of her. I’m sure he’ll be encouraging her to attend University/College like he has.
You can’t hide everything from kids. They are all obviously going in the music industry and couldn’t have better guidance than their parents, that have been there done that and would look out for them more than strangers would.
If it was spontaneous, that’s how things happen sometimes.
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this crossed way over the line of the disrespecting black women stereotype, this song’s chorus is “I wish i could f— every girl in the world” and you have 11 and 12 year olds dancing with grown men … 1) they’re looking like pediphiles 2) BET looks crazy who are the heads of management that let this happen (not the parents but the heads of bet who let this happen on THEIR STAGE) 3)they look ludacris 4) they make all black people look bad 5) what is wrong with the audience
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I totally agree with you. People are so quick to judge someone else. Half the people on here kids dance and sang every inappropriate song out there. 85% of music has inappropriate lyrics and im positive that their children aren’t listening to “Kidz Bop” or Gospel.
Im pretty sure their tv/radio/etc is not sensored/blocked. So people cut it out.
Talk to the “man in the mirror” (R.I.P. MJ) before you pass judgement on someone else.
LIve.LoVE.Laugh.& Mind ya D*** Business.
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