READERS REACT/POLL: IS IT WRONG FOR PARENTS TO KISS THEIR KIDS ON THE LIPS?
In this POST, readers reacted to a picture which showed NBA Player Kobe Bryant and his daughter Gianna kissing after a victorious win. This is how some readers reacted:
Meesan: “Not for nothing, but I don’t kiss my son on the lips and don’t allow him to kiss me on the lips either. In my opinion there are some things you just don’t do……….”
Lexasmama: “There is nothing wrong with kissing your child on the lips. People that have a problem with that have their own sexual issues. I kiss my 4y.o. daughter on the lips all the time. Puhleeze! Don’t make an issue where there is none.”
Facts/Opinions:
BCK did some research and could not find any reasons why a parent shouldn’t be able to kiss his young son or daughter on the lips. Since there doesn’t seem to be much research on the topic, BCK would like to run a poll:
Loading ...SO, IS IT WRONG FOR PARENTS TO KISS THEIR KIDS ON THE LIPS?
I think there is nothing wrong with kissing your child on the lips as long as he or she is comfortable with it. For instance I have all girls and my husband and I still kiss our 7y/o and of course the newborns on the lips, but my 3y/o doesn’t like to be kissed on the lips and we don’t force to kiss us.
I love the idea that you respect your child’s sovereignty over his own body like that!
I hate the idea that some kids are forced to hug “Aunt Esther” or “Uncle Bobby” when they really don’t want to. By empowering kids and respecting their decisions about their bodies, we give them the self-esteem they need to combat some of the pervs that really are out there.
BTW: I don’t think it’s at all weird to kiss your children on the lips. We’re talking about a peck and not a French kiss, people! It’s a gesture of affection and love, and kids can’t get enough of that in this world, imho.
I think it is WRONG for grown-ups to kiss their children in the mouth! For one, grown-ups go around kissing people, why would you want to share those germs with your children. And also kids are not suppose to drink after a grown-up so why would you kiss them in the mouth.
I agree that it is weird to kiss your child ‘IN’ the mouth but I don’t seen anything wrong with kissing on his or her mouth. Furthermore, I’m an adult and I don’t go around kissing other people so I don’t see the problem!
I’m really shocked at the mind set of some people. There is nothing wrong with kissing your kids on the lips. It’s love and affection. Anyone who thinks of these things in a sexual way have serious issues. People are so weird and closed minded. I don’t get it.
No. That’s all I have to say.
My sons are now 11 and 12 and I still kiss them in the mouth; if they are without a doubt my heart and soul, I will not only tell them so, but show them how much they mean to me.
I DON’T SEE ANYTHING WRONG WITH A QUICK PECK ON THE LIPS BUT I ALWAYS GIVE MY SON A KISS ON THE CHEEK. PEOPLE ARE WAY OVER THE LINE IF THEY PROLONG A KISS ON THEIR CHILD’S LIPS…THAT IS WEIRD.
I do not think it’s wrong to kiss children on the lips because my family members (mom, dad, grandparents, etc) had always kissed me on the lips when I was a toddler. But I can say that it contributes to the spread of herpes type I. So while most people think herpes type I is just oh so bad 9 times out of 10 you have it. Like my doctor told me it’s something “you most likely got from a family member kissing you when you when younger”. That’s the part I do have a problem with.
Why are people trying to make something out of nothing?!!! With so many perversed people out there, something as innocent as kissing your child (be it on the mouth or not!) has become something more sinister. I kiss my 3 year old on the mouth just as my mother used to kiss me on the mouth, so does this make us a family of child molesters? Now if a someone other than myself or my daughter’s father kissed her on the mouth I would not be happy.
FIRST OF ALL NO ONES KISING THEIR KIDS IN THE MOUTH THEIR KISSING THEM ON THE LIPS SO LETS CLEAR THAT PART UP… SECOND OF ALL I KISS MY SON ON THE LIPS AND SO DO A MILLION PEOPLE ACROSS AMERICA… SO LETS TAKE OUR MINDS OUT OF THE GUTTER FOR A LIL BIT AND BE REALISTIC…. AND AS FOR THE GERMS KIDS PUT EVERYTHING IN THEIR MOUTHS ANYWAYS SO A LL KISS AIN’T GON HURT ISH..
I don’t have kids myself, but I don’t see anything wrong with it.
My 2 y.o niece kisses me on the lips once in a while.
My sister still gives her 9 y.o. son pop kisses on the mouth.
No, a child should not be kissed on the lips after the age of 4 I think. It’s wrong!
yes i agree at a sertin age it is ok but after a while it should move to the cheek just because it does send the worng message to those who do have a closed minded opinion
i dont thnk its wrong for parents to kiss their children in the mouth. people in this world and day of time are nasty the hae sick minds if they think its wrong to kiss your child on the lips (and not IN the mouth as some of you slow people may think). kissing your child on the lips is just fine
I kiss my son (6) on the lips and if you don’t like it you can kiss me on the [butt]. Now I would never kiss my older son on the lips. I guess after a certain age it stops. If you have a problem with it, it’s because of what you do with your lips, NASTY!!1
I always see Kobe kising his youngest daughter on the lips but I never see a picture of him kissing the oldest one on the lips why is that?
I don’t know if someone has said this already, however, who knows where this mans lips have been?? he’s probably been in someone’s booty and all over with that mouth then he kisses his daughter on the lips?? Just one word HERPES!!! A womanin the UK killed her baby by kissing it with her herpes infected lips! Claims she never knew. If you’re definately sure you won’t pass a cold infection or any type of infection to your kids then fine
READ MY STATEMENT I POST YESTARDAY.. B/C A LOT OF YOU GUYS ARE SOME KNUCKLE HEADS… AND HERPES GIRL PLEASE… THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH KISSING YOUR CHILD KEY WORD “YOUR,” MEANING DO WHAT U PLEASE W/ UR CHILD AND NO ONE CAN TELL ME THEY HAVE NEVER KISSED THERE CHILD ON THE LIPS JUST ONCE IF U DON’T HAVE A CHILD THAN SHAME ON YOU FOR EVEN GIVING UR OPINION ABOUT THE MATTER =0(
AND FOR ANYONE WHO TAKES THIS PERSONAL IT’S A BLOG AND IT’S FOR OPINIONATED PERSONNEL ONLY SO IF YOU DON’T LIKE WHAT U READ THAN TAKE A STEP AWAY FROM UR COMPUTER SCREEN!!
IM 15 YEARS OLD… I SEE NOTHING WRONG WITH KISSING YOUR CHILD ON THE LIPS. I STILL KISS MY MOM THE LIPS OCCATIONALY AND IT WAS MY CHOICE TO STOP KISSING MY DAD ON THE LIPS, AND IF PEOPLE LOOK AT IT IN A SEXUAL MANNER, THEY ARE THE ONES THAT MESSED UP IN THERE MIND IF THEY LOOK AT KISSING THE PEOPLE THEY GAVE BIRTH TO ON THE LIPS IS A SEXUAL THING
Taking for a child’s point of view, nicely said. Children have options and parents should respect them for their choices.
same here age 15
for me its just different situations and timing like leaving for school it could be on the lips, cheek or forehead and its always follwed by a hug its just the way i was raised
Let’s shut this topic down right now. There is nothing wrong with kissing your children on the lips. We are talking about a tap kiss not a wide open mouth kiss. For those that have an issue with apparently have issues with themselves and having other kinds of feelings rather than parental feelings.
I am a mother of 3 with 16 being the oldest and I still tap kiss them on the lips as well as on the cheek. I am 42 years old and I still tap kiss my mother on the lips. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that so as long as you do not take it further than the context of what it is.
I believe, that it’s not the kiss that is wrong, but the state of heart, (the intentions). In which case if you love your child and your what a parent should be which is a protector, as opposed to someone inflicting harm on the child, kiss away. Intimacy in the proper context (parental and child) is important amongst parents and children. Many families lack that intimacy (and I’m not referring to sexual intimacy), especially a father and his little girl. That’s probably why so many young women don’t know how a man should treat a woman.
Oh this is so silly, what’s wrong with parents showing affection to their kids by giving his/her child a peck on the lips? Society is so confused.
How do the people who agree with call the people who dont agree with it stupid!? (You’re the close minded ones)Even as a child (like 4/5) I hated the idea of kissing my mother or daddy on the lips! Because I saw adult couples doing that to each other…I always loved kissing on the cheek though…
To each teir on. What I am reading form all of this is the kiss in ON the lips not IN the mouth. If the child is comfortable with it then fine, because trust most children will pull away if they don’t like it (that was me). But a kiss on the forehead or cheek is always a sweet gesture to me.
Now if you are nasty and didn’t wash your mouth after something sexual then kiss your kid on the mouth you are triflin and dead wrong for that.
Funny thought but a sweet thought have you ever had a baby that is about to start teething or that is and they give you that gummy kiss on the face and they lick you or slobber on you! HA. Precious babies but I am sure some of you would think that is gross.
I dont think it is wrong at all. Most kids eventually grow out of it and will only settle for a quick kiss on the cheeck. If we move away from affection because some people may deem it inapropriate then that is sad. Next thing you know they may be outlawing hugging.
Wow,you people on this are completely ridiculous.What is wrong with a mother kissing “her” child/children on the mouth.Didn’t she give birth to them&didn’t she take care “of” them.My little brother age 4 still kisses my mother and my two sister and I on the mouth.Sometimes he ask for kisses.Me being a teenager still doesn’t have a problem kissing my mother on the mouth if I felt like it.My neices and nephews&little cousins also kiss me&there is nothing wrong with that.
Everyone has germs so it has nothing to do with germs.It’s only affection and love and if people don’t show there kids love then who knows what may happen.
As A child I was kissed on the mouth by my parents.&even my aunts.
I honestly don’t see an issue here,because it’s there child!!!!!!!:)
Although I do not like my parents to kiss me on the lips, but when I was younger the did. But I believe if the child is comfortable, then it is fine. Yall act like the french kissing and things like that. It is a gesture of love.
i agree, Kobe stays kissing the youngest one but I never seen him as affectionate with the older one. Also the older one always looks sad to me. The mother is never affectionate with them.
it all depends on if the child is comfortble with being kissed on the lips and also the age. Are we talking 4/5 or 19/20 but either way it all depends on the way one is raised its not like your talking about a full on kiss. one gives their child a peck as a sign of inderment
like when me and my sister leave for school, my mom and dad kisses me on the lips but my sister fells a kiss on the forehead is even too much she fells she had gowrn out of it. So it all depends on who were talking about