HALLE BERRY:MOTHERHOOD IS MY PRIORITY NOW
Halle Berry has vowed to never marry again. The mom of 17-month-old Nahla Aubry would much rather focus her energy on motherhood rather than on any future marriage plans.
“I’m much clearer about what a relationship is, which is why I will never marry again. Gabriel and I have a great partnership and a lovely daughter. But I once was stupid enough to say, in a previous relationship, ‘I’m going to be with this person for ever,’ and realised, as I grew, that I don’t know if for ever is possible,” the actress explained recently to You Magazine.
She added, “Gabriel and I don’t look at our relationship in terms of for ever, we look at it as right here today. And today means being the best people we can be, the best parents we can be. It’s wonderful, but neither one of us feels the need to attach ourselves to each other for life – because it may not be that.”
Though her future with Gabriel is uncertain, Halle, 42, would like have more children with him.
“I’m certainly open to having another, so I hope so. Motherhood will always be my priority now, especially because I had a child for the first time at 41. My priority had been myself for a long, long time, but now it will always be Nahla. You think you know what love is – until you have a child and discover that unconditional mother love.”
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Hmmm sounds like they are on the verge of breaking up! but if the future isnt certain for them why even think of having more babies? smh
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Might as well, than be judged for having children with different baby daddys. Erykah Badu?!?
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I can understand where she is coming from. Legal marriage is just a piece of paper… usually just for security more than anything else. Halle and Gabriel both have money, they can take care of themselves. No reason for them to get married legally. If you think about it, they are married under God. You don’t need a piece of paper for that and that basically is all that matters.
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If you think they are married under God, you have no idea who God is…
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under which G-d? Not like I’m super religious or anything, but last I checked Mary Magdalene did the same thing (fornicating and living with a man), and it wasn’t right then, why is it right now?
I’m all for people living their lives how they want to, because at the end of the day only that person knows what can make them happy, but I’m not for people trying to manipulate religion or the Bible to fit their lifestyle so they can feel good about themselves.
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Marriage is more than just a piece of paper. It’s a legal, binding contract.
Ask Debbie Rowe. Had she not been legally married to Michael Jackson, she would now just be a surrogate who just got paid once. Now she’s an ex wife getting paid alimony even though her ex has died. Being married makes a difference even if large sums of cas are not involved.
Halle needs to stop getting with men who don’t take care of her emotionally or otherwise. Having your own money is okay but even living together unmarried is a parternership all around. And especially if children are involved.
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Do they really live together. I only see them out and about with the baby. What has led people to believe that they live together? I believe that Halle has the right to decide for herself how she wants her life to be. I hate the idea that ones whose lives are so prevelent in the media seem to make our young people feel that it is alright to make babies outside of marriage but then when we see people like Halle who try so hard to have a relationship that works and gets kicked in the teeth every time; I have to say that, for her, she may find this the lifestyle works best for her. she has wanted children for a long time and now she has one. I have never really thought that she is in love with this man.
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Can you give us women a format for doing that. I’m certain if she knew how to do that she would avoid all of these men, as would we all. Unfortunately we don’t pick where our hearts attach. And in the beginning it’s always good. I’m certain that she had no idea that these men were bad for her. One thing for sure, there is no one who can doubt that she really wanted a Black man. Cause Lord knows she certainly gave them all the chances. I think that she is going to be very careful about another marriage, if there is one. This is her daughter and at this point she feels it’s really her daughter. She will be wise to know that with her financial portfolio the man will be an added bonus, not a need. I wish her all the best and respect her decision of how best to manage her life. By not giving it over to any man.
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I have never been under the impression that Halle was in love with this man. I think she has had her fill of ‘LOVE’ with all of her failed married partners. If I remember correctly she said on Oprah that she wanted to have children. I have always seen this man more of a selected surrogate. I don’t understand why people are trying to turn this into a great love affair. But that’s just me basing my opinion on what Halle has stated.
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because of her past experiences – maybe she is afraid to jinx her luck. in her marriages she boasted about them being “forever” which, of course, neither of them were.
now that she has a partner and a gorgeous child, she is living – and being grateful for what she has – in the “now”; one day at a time…
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Doesnt sound good for Halle but yet she wants Gabe to be the sperm donor again…LoL
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What’s wrong with that. Men do it all the time. Look at Diddy.
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WHATEVER MAKES HER, GAB AND BABY NAHLA HAPPY AND SECURE IS BEST.
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I was thinking the same thing Lee but she has been married 2 times to people she said she would be with forever and it didnt work out so I can understand stay focused on that baby with her cute self
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i dont like that…what happened to teh sanctity of marriage…does it not have any worth anymore? can’t we all be devoted to someone and the family? whatevs, society today i guess
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if you know halle’s history then you know why she doesn’t want to get married, she’s been through hell in her marriages and that’s partly because of her…everybody is not meant to live happily ever after
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Halle was once rather complicated with this “arrangement” she has.. Now she just beginning to sound rather stupid
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Why?
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It would be nice for their baby if they married.
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Why??? I’m the result of a second mariage, my mother & father got married when I was 9 years old, and why? because we lived in africa and my half sister (she was 18 at the time) could’nt come with us in Europe because she didn’t have any visa to get in Europe and so they got married and my father adopted my sister. For the 9 years I lived with my unmarried parents, I always felt loved and saw my mother and father very much in love (that’s I think the most important thing in life!), like some other people said, it was just a formality, and after 35 years of living togheter, my parents are still togheter and still very happy! we recently celebrated their 35st anniversary of being togheter, because their marriage was just a formality like I mentionned before. My mother is a very religious someone, and like she always says, only GOD have the power to judge you and if this relationship was bad, it wouldn’t have stand for so long! and my parents are example for other couples because my mother is a strong black african women and my father is white. We’re a very happy family with up’s & down’s but as long as we love each other and support each other with GOD, everything will be ok
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You ask why? Well for one, this is America, a country that still recognizes legal marriage as opposed to common law.
Children born during a legal marriage have more legal entitlements.
If Halle’s partner now goes on and marries someone else and starts a new family, if he chooses to no longer recognize or care for Nahla, it will hurt her and maybe damage her for life. She will know she was born out of wedlock and this stigma still exists.
To answer your question, in my opinion you marry for the sake of your child’s emotional and or financial stability. This is nothing new, this has been the foundation and cornerstone of American society and all societies for that matter.
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Is that why the divorce rate in this country is so high. People don’t feel about marriage the way they once did. And Halle has done it your way twice. It hasn’t worked for her. You can be as committed as you want but if your partner is committed what difference does it make. I think she has become embarrassed at how all her marriages have ended. Let her be happy. While I believe in the institution of marriage, it doesn’t work for everyone. And she is taking her time, good for her. If the marriage to him doesn’t work he can still walk away and choose not to be a part of the baby’s life. It happens every day.
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That’s right, I agree, it takes two to tango. I like Halle Berry and think her little girl is adorable. God knows, Halle has achieved so much in terms of her career, so I’m glad she has a fulfilling personal life in her commitment to raise her little baby.
At least Nahla is pretty sure who her Dad is. She and her Dad do resemble each other.
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I think the fact that her child is involved now whereas unlike her last marriage she had what I thought was an adopted child involved who belonged to Eric Benet, it may be beneficial for she and Gabe to marry.
It’s just my opinion from observations of Halle’s life in the news over the years.
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Remember, Legal marriage in this country is just a piece of paper. True marriage is in front on God as one would say. Marriage as per the Bible is different for marriage as per the state. They could be married for 40 years and he could still do what you suggest below. The paper gives you no right to the love and happiness just to the material thing. Halle has the material things and at this point she doesn’t have to share them. Also this man is much younger than she which means he is probably much less mature. So I think that this something that she has to consider. With her child, non of this comes into play. She with him when she wants to be and he’s with the child, what’s the big deal. While I would rather be married, that’s just my way. My mother always said “A trick untried is hard to justy”. So this is Halle’s walk and she will have to take it alone on the path she chooses that is best for her.
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She sounds like she’s afraid that it won’t last, than actually not wanting to be married again. I can see where she’s coming from. He’s kind of young, and there’s no telling how he may change.
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Isn’t he in his 30′s???
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I’m sorry to hear that it has come to this for Halle (resigning herself to that idea that she can’t have a successful lifelong marriage or permanent commitment). I believe it is STILL possible for people to marry for life. But, in this day and age, I believe it is MUCH harder–especially for the extremely wealthy/famous. Sometimes I feel that if you REALLY want a relationship to last for life, you have to be out of the spotlight and maybe accept the life of a teacher, doctor, etc.–not that those groups don’t get divorced. But, in the entertainment industry (where people CONSTANTLY switch partners) there’s always someone “newer”, richer, more “attractive”, and with no expectations for commitment, people have little incentive to NOT exercise their options. If Halle still feels this way after having been w/Gabriel for this length of time and having his baby, I am expecting to learn about their breakup w/in the next 2-5 years (though I doubt it will be as long as 5). Hopefully, Halle can find someone to settle down with who will be there with her/support her for the rest of her life. I think she deserves that (although she seems to have given up on that prospect). But, she is getting older, and it would be nice to have someone (one person) to share that with. Maybe, she and Gabriel can last. I hope so, but it doesn’t sound like it. I wish them and their family the best.
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After Halle’s mission to give birth, are we really certain that this baby was the result of intimacy? He could have been a sperm donor, how do we know? It would not be a rarity if this happened. She didn’t wait to find a man to fall in love with…..she found a sponsor to help her make a baby which doesn’t necessarily mean that they were intimate in the conception of this child. As I said before, I don’t think this baby was the result of a love relationship but that’s just the way it looks to me.
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Hi Khrish,
I got your message at the other post about Jermaine. I answered you at that post. Thank you.
Halle’s life is interesting too, isn’t it?
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But they ARE attached for life because they had a baby together. Oh Halle!
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I think that’s kind of sad. Your children can not always be your life because they grow up and marry and have children of their own, then what do you do!!! Sad she doesn’t believe in a true love or ever lasting love for that matter.
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@Ariana and Plainmean. I agree with both of you. I will not condone fornication, which is the lifestyle of having a partner and having babies together but not married. Nahla is so precious, Halle please marry Gabe if you want to have more children with him.
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You don’t condone fornication? Do you condone Adultry? Because given you reasoing and attachment to christanity; for her to marry again with two living husbands would be adultry. You choose.
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Actually, since both of Halle’s husbands cheated, her divorces are valid under Biblical understanding. That makes her a single woman considering a valid marriage, not an adulterer.
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I’m reminded of the proverb, ‘Once bitten, twice shy.’. In her case, it’s more like ‘twice bitten, extremely wary’. I didn’t get the vibe that they’re going to break up soon (who knows anyway?), but I understand why she’s playing it by ear this time around. I’m in no position to pass moral judgments, but I hope it works for all parties involved.
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It’s so strange to me how people are willing to make a a commitment to create and raise a child, which amounts to a 18 year contract (minimum) to care for another basically helpless human being…. together. But, the same people are reluctant to make the commitment of marriage, which is a much easier thing to walk away from if it does not work. Seems like too many people are putting the horse before the cart when it comes to building a family.
But anyway, I will climb off my soapbox now. Good luck to Halle, and her loved ones.
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MRSMAC,LOL, HALLE IS DOING THE RIGHT THANG, CAUSE THAT GURL CAN’T KEEP A MAN OR A HUSBAND. SHE SEEMS SO SAD ALL THE TIME, I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED TO HALLE. I HAVE SEEN SO MANY ATTRACTIVE WOMEN LIKE HALLE WHO END UP UNHAPPY BECAUSE OF MEN. FIRST OF ALL, IT’S NOT ABOUT LOOKS ALL THE TIME. IT MIGHT START OFF WITH LOOKS WITH SOME MEN, THEN THEY WANT TO SEE WHAT U CAN BRING TO THE TABLE. CAUSE YA KNOW THEY HAVE TO BRING SUMTHIN TO THE TABLE FROM THE START,LOL. THEN U SEE SO MANY WOMEN THAT ARE PLAIN LOOKING,OVERWEIGHT,NOT SO ATTRACTIVE,ETC, THAT CAN HOOK OR KEEP A MAN LIKE NO OTHER. I NEVA FORGET WHAT MY MOM DECEASED BF TOLD ME ONE DAY. I ASKED HIM WHY DO HE CONTINUE TO STAY WITH MY MOTHER AND SHE TREATS HIM MEAN SOMETIMES? MY MOTHER IS SHAPED MORE LIKE ARETHA FRANKLIN THAN PATTY LABELLE,LMAO. ANYWAY, HE SAID WHAT KEEPS ME HERE IS THAT WOMAN’S COOKING. HE SAID………I HAVE NEVA BEEN WITH A WOMAN WHO CAN TURN ANYTHING INTO A MEAL. EVEN THO MY MOTHER ISN’T NO HALLE BERRY, SHE DIDNT LET NO MAN RUN OVA HER, SHE GOT HERS, BELIEVE THAT. HALLE HAVE HER BABY GURL, IF A MAN IS CAUSING HER STRESS, JUST BE BY URSELF.
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Yeah, and baby Nahla seems to be mirroring Halle’s sad affect. This baby is rarely ever smiling in photos, with the exception of when she was out in nature on the beach with Dad and Mom.
Sad Mommy=sad baby.
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Go Halle! You focus on your daughter and being a mother. Keep up the good relationship. Marriage isn’t for everybody.
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Marriage is for people who “co-exist” and have babies together. Society is going downhill fast.
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I agree with your comment. This is so true.
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Society has been downhill for a while now. I don’t know why people are giving this woman all this woe and Christian Right stuff. This is her life and in the end she is the only one who will have to give in account for it. You cannot judge a book by it’s cover. She knows what is best for her as you know what is best for you. Halle seems to be quite mature and I think that she has the right to decide how she wants to like her life. If you are talking about christian life……Isn’t it always said that until the first husband dies, she is living in adultry or did you christians forget that one.
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she looks like shes aging in this pic…
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Of course she’s aging and so are we all.
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Hi again, Khrish. Some postings here about Halle are almost as unbelievable as the ones about the Jackson kids, aren’t they? (chuckle)
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i’m so happy for her to be able to finally experience motherhood. a lot of career focused women put kids on hold then they get to a certain age and have trouble conceiving. she’s lucky.
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Wow. This group in here is waay too judgemental for me. I don’t know who on this forum/chat board has gone through having to deal with an unfaithful husband who is a sex addict all in the eyes of the public. Can you say beyond humiliating? Do you think trust issues would come up? Believe me, I understand. That alone would make me beyond leary of jumping on the wedding wagon again. At the end of the day you cannot force or control a man to be faithful and true, but you can control what kind of mother you are to your child. I get her and I understand why she isn’t all gung-ho on puttin’ a ring on it… Whatevs.
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Good luck to them. To me it sounds like she wants it to last (the relationship)but if it doesn’t she’s not trying to be crushed by it. Because she was totally crushed when her last two marriages ended. Halle and Gabe live a married lifestyle. They live together, vacay together, go on date nights and buy vacay homes together. Plus they have a child and are trying to have another one. All this is is Halle trying to minimize her heartbreak “if” Gabe and her don’t last. Halle and Gabe looked very happy a few days ago on one of their “date nite” dinners. So I think they have a chance of lasting as long as the rest of us.
But I do agree with some of you… Halle does make her relationship sound like a business contract. But if you really look at what marriage is it is a… business contract with “love” as an attachment. But if I know my Halle she didn’t want the interview to sound like she’s not in love with Gabe. And she’s not happy with the way the artcial came out.
Off topic… (a little bit)
Kate and Joe Jackson have been married for 60 years. But at want cost??? He lives in Vegas and is dating other women and she lives in LA.
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I love Halle’s hairdo. Rocking blond streaks that make her hair similar to baby Nahla’s hair color.
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I think that Halle has given up on finding that type of connections we all want w/someone. She been hurt and those bruises run deep which is why i think the subject of marriage is pretty much a closed subject. I think it’s sad,but i do understand how it must feel to have that pain every time a marriage doesn’t work out or any relationship ,but i always feel like when i hear people like Halle say that they will never do it again it’s unfortunate because they’ll probably pass over the person God really wanted them to be w/because of the people they chose for themselves.
Nahla is a beautiful child….
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I like your comment, Tee. I want to add that Halle never reconciled her father’s neglect of her and her siblings and she wouldn’t even speak to him to reconcile when he was sick and dying.
I mention this because it could be possible that her negative experiences with husbands and lovers are rooted in her bad experience with the first man in her life,her Dad.
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Tee and Pisces you guys have said the most INTELLIGENT thing on this post thus far! I don’t think ppl or men realize how deep the wounds run with a missing father. You have no one to compare this so-called soul mate to therefore keep jumping from relationship to relationship to find some sense of being. THANK GOD he sent me mine. I waited and couldn’t be happier. Me and my dad did eventually reconcile but it wasn’t easy after being absent from my life for so long. Good luck Halle. Only GOD can heal that pain.
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I’m right there with Halle. The only difference is I was never married and I vowed never to do so unless I absolutely had to. So far so good!
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I believe you are letting your own personal insecurities drive your opinion about this woman.
I don’t know how you would know anything about what Halle thinks, or wants.
Your own words seem to imply that you believe white babies as a rule are prettier or more precious, because you follow your statement with “backfired.” I have this strong feeling that you don’t see one bit of wrong out of your whole statement, which makes me so much sadder.
After reading someone talk about Djimon and Kimora being dissappointed in having a chocolate baby to this, I’m even more annoyed by slavery, and the Western culture. I can only imagine that had it not been for imperialism we wouldn’t think so poorly of ourselves today.
Having a white baby or having a dark baby is all the fricking same. They are babies. If nature allows us to procreate then I don’t see what’s with this judgmental attitude about who people choose to have children with.
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Me personally, I think that it is best for them to get married and continue to raise their family… but I also feel that for Halle, after having two very brutal experiences, she’e doping what’s best for he right now emotionally, & I’m glad that she’s not just hopping back into another marriage, she’s taking it slow this time… I just hope that she eventually does marry him because just continuing to have children with him as if he’s a sperm donor isn’t right either…. I’m not the judge, I’m just speaking the truth… I hope the best for their family…
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Maybe that’s just what he is, a sperm donor. That’s her choice.
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it always amazes me the spin people will put on all the reasons that they come up with for NOT getting married! to say that they don’t look at their relationship in terms of forever makes me want to say – “HELLO!!!! the baby changes all that!” it is forever now! just stop with all the excuses and say what it is – all you wanted was his gorgeous sperm and you got it! if she is so much clearer on “what a relationship is” then obviously this is not what it looks to be from all the pictures and all he is going to be is “baby daddy”.
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I agree with your comment. A child needs to have a father. I hope Halle’s partner sticks around for his daughter’s sake.
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I think she is already pregnant. I have seen her in recent pictures wearing baggy clothes…and that is not like Halle. I love her, her beautiful baby and gorgeous baby daddy…I hope she is happy whatever she does.
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very wise words from a very wise woman if two people are happy with the way things are why should tye have to conform to what society thinks is best snd yeah i believe shes been burnt by men in the past but i agree with what shes doing theres not alot of celebrities who will or have openly say its been all about me in the past but im a parent now and its all ab out my child…good for her
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cute baby
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You are so right. That statement made absolutely no sense. If she was so concerned with whiteness why would she have chosen all Black husbands?
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lol, why does hallie look like whitney houston in this pic?
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oops i mean halle*
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Here’s something that will put all the jugding, speculating, and preaching to rest. First of all, where in Halle’s statement does she at all hint to being unhappy or on the verge of breaking up with Gabriel? What she said, and has been saying for years, is that marriage is not her priority. She and Gabriel are happy being together. Being together is enough for them. She no longer needs a piece of paper to validate her relationship or love. She is happy, he is happy, and Nahla is happy. All you unhappy people passing judgement….SILENCE!
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She looks nothing like Michael Ealy. She is Gabe’s daughter for sure because she looks like him more than anybody.
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lol that’s funny. Yes, Michael Ealy was really cute, but I think Nahla looks EXACTLY like her daddy! Halle dated Shemar Moore too. They would have made BEAUTIFUL BABIES!!!
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Drab and unhappy is in the eye of the beholder. She doesn’t look dry and unhappy to me. More like she is tired of the press interfering every time she is out with her little girl. sometimes you just want some privacy. I wish I could look that dry and unhappy! LOL
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