IS JOURDAN DUNN SETTING A BAD EXAMPLE?
Submitted by admin on September 21, 2009 at 11:02 am 85 Comments
Pregnant Model Jourdan Dunn(pictured with a friend),19, was photographed at a London Fashion Week event this past weekend. Jourdan, who is due to give birth in December, is happy and “really looking forward to the future and having [her] baby.” Many people, however, aren’t so happy about Jourdan’s pregnancy because they feel that she is setting a bad example for teenagers. In fact, some readers are upset that Blackcelebkids.com chooses to feature Jourdan’s pregnancy.
Do you feel that Jourdan is setting a bad example for the youth? Or are parents responsible for teaching their kids about abstinence and such?
Jourdan and model Sessilee Lopez
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This young woman is 19 years old! I was out of the house and on my own at age 17. I put myself through college without the aid of parents. Jourdan has a job and if she is ready to be a mother and take care of her child I say more power to her. I think people would be wise to not judge other people based on their pre-conceived notions and put more time into their own lives.
Hana,
I agree with you %100!! I’m happy that I’m not the only one that thinks that their is nothing wrong with this young lady having a child at her age. Some young mothers are better mothers that women who are 30 and up!
took the words OUT of my MOUTH!!
ABSOLUTELY GIIIRRRRRLLLLLLLL!!!
I can understand both sides being that I got pregnant at the same age, I am now 30. But parents you can’t keep letting the internet, tv and other media outlets raise your children. PARENTS need to be responsible for molding their children and not blame it on the media. When your child ask your opinion of a 19yr old model being pregnant act like a parent and give it to them. Kids are so hungry for discipline and guidance so give it to them.
thank you…I mean seriously women? We are our own worst enemies…yeah, I’m completely for being independent and doing great for YOURSELF. Being a 34 yo BW, happily married to a quite TASTY black man for 3 years (2gether for 6), no kids yet cuz we’re still enjoying getting to know & enjoy each other, I’m still trying to wrap my mind around why we women do…dumb sh*t…hey, I get that we all mature at different stages, but at 19, a large MAJORITY of women are not ready to be mothers…and I’m not just talking about playing dress up with the kids, buying them the latest gear, making sure they look cute but can’t freaking READ or SPEAK legibly! My younger sister was 19 when she had her 1st and though she THOUGHT she knew what she was doing, she didn’t know her a$$ from a hole in the ground regarding RAISING and truly “being there” as a parent…my mother and the paternal grandmother of my nephew raised him…she had the 2nd at 26th and around 2 years later she talked with me about how she really wished she would have waited…maybe it’s just me, but it seems quite silly to go around just having babies for (excuse the expression bc I know we buried it) n*ggas…letting random fools have that blessed priviledge…and then get pissed when these same n*ggas don’t pay child support…hmmmm inquiring minds wanna know…
she’s young but she has a job and a career to support herslef and technically she is an adult
What ever happened to raising a child in a household where mom and dad are married? It’s a lack of these simple things that has created the type of generation that we have today.
I think it’s wonderful that she has a job etc and can support her child but a child needs more than money, clothes and travel. There is a reason why GOd intended sex for marriage and children for marriage as well. Sigh…..pretty sad because we as a world, as a people, have lowered our moral standings so much so that anything is acceptable. I still say if you can be together, have sex, have babies then why is marriage such a strange notion?
Kam, I cosign and concur 100%. This way of the thinking is the norm now. I feel sorry for this generation. I really do. The sad part is many people just don’t have a clue.
I agree with you for the most part. But now-a-days sad but true reality of getting married is slim, especially among the black folks. In a perfect world we would wait until marriage to do anything and marry young and stay married until death do us part. But now us(black females) think they are with someone that would move towards the aspect of marriage and if you do end up having a baby you would expect that guy to take that step and marry you and you all work things out, that’s what happened in the old days. Now young guys aren’t being taught to take on their responsibility and if you create a baby you should be a family and make that work out legally, emotionally, financially.
Now as far as the model being pregnant she is over 18 and she makes her own money so she should be able to take care of her child with or without a man, she would just join the band-wagon of how most of us black women are and have been doing for a long time!
Miss Tia you just stated what’s wrong with Black women. Stop getting pregnant FIRST and then hoping for marriage second! why do Black women have this soooo twisted! women have been getting knocked up in hopes of holding a man from the beginning of time and guess what they have those babies but they don’t get the man. And if he’s with you is it where he wants to be or is it because of the trap? Why do black women act as if they have no control over their bodies and then bad mouth men when they fail to acknowledge they put themselves in these traps by settling?
“Sigh…..pretty sad because we as a world, as a people, have lowered our moral standings so much so that anything is acceptable. I still say if you can be together, have sex, have babies then why is marriage such a strange notion?”
Because a piece of paper doesn’t make U a better parent. That is just ignorant. The plan and simple fact of the matter is MEN DON’T CARE if they are married or not, it’s not going to keep them there. What the hell is a band of gold but something U bought at a store to show Ur love. Single Moms and working moms didn’t ask to be in this situation, they just happen. No, not every woman has the dream of being a stay at home mom (no matter what U tell Urself) and not everybody wants to be married to have a child. That has nothing to do with morals, it has to do with the life U want to lead. Nobody should force anybody to marry them because they are pregnant or got somebody pregnant, what kinda of life is that for Ur child? 2 angry people mad at each other all the time-but hey it’s okay, we’re married!
Get married because U want to, not because u got knocked up and felt U had too. And oh yeah…the divorce rate for Americans is 53%. That’s a wonderful moral standing. Hope that U aren’t in that 53%, then U would have to explain to Ur child or children that U R a bad parent because U R all by Urself.
PREACH KAM! PREACH! I couldn’t have said it better myself.
I find it amazing that these days every and anything is acceptable . . . and then people have the nerve to complain that world is deteriorating and going to hell in a handbasket.
The world is round for a reason. Everything you THINK doesn’t affect you, most certainly does. So that means whatever is done out of God’s order, even if YOU think it is acceptable, the results will eventually come around to affect you in some way, shape, or form. Take a look at the world around you - the proof is right in front of your face.
I agree, the young girl is practically grown. And i say practically b/c she isnt quite over the age, but provides and lives an adult lifestyle. They are upset a Black Celeb Kids for featuring her, but didnt no one say how they made Brittany Spears sister a big deal, and had her on every cover. Just as well as Sarah Palin’s daughter. Oh please the media needs to get a grip! If she can be responsible enough to provide and care for her baby, so be it!
It’s not like any one said that Bristol Palin’s or Jamie Lynn Spears’ pregnancies were positive role models. Those girls caught static too, especially since Sarah Palin presented herself as such a great hands on mom and Jamie Lynn was presented as a virginal teenage girl (like her big sis). It’s still worth the discussion.
The issue for the community is the fact that we hold those in the lime-light to a higher standard than others, and it is a dissapointment to find out that she is just like everyone else (another statistic of a single black mother). I’m a counselor, so I always ask girls her age who get pregnant in college why they did it? Some of them used the pregnancy as an outlet, the same way some people just procrastinate because they don’t want to do the work. In some cases the girls weren’t going to class or flunking pre-requisite subjects in their major; others felt guilty because their childhood friends had babies and they wanted to be part of the crowd. One girl in particular (honor student) admitted that she was afraid of being too successful, as she was quickly enrolled in a BA/MBA program. The girl got pregnant to “slow down the process and take time get things together.” And still others have babies because they believe that they will have someone who will love them no matter what.
The point of those who are pissed because it looks like she had a chance “to get out” (of the barriers that hold many Black women from achieving success) and she put herself into a position that can hurt her “career wise” as well as financially & mentally rob her of lifestyle that others wished they had, IF they were in Her shoes.
I agree with you. I believe most of the people upset are the ones that wish their lives were better and are mad that Jourdan is yet another pregnant, unmarried black female, adding to the statistics. im 19 years old and i was married and then pregnant when i was 18. But, ive been on my own since i was 17 and i have a full time job (military) and im doing just fine! Granted i also wish she was married to the childs father, that makes it seem a teeny bit better, (my mother wasnt SO upset knowing that i was married first), but ultimately, the greatest goal is the childs well-being. and as long as Jourdan can be a nurturing, caring, and loving mother, then well, who’s complaining. Yes it sucks being a statistic, but single, young mothers raise children all the time and people turn out just fine.
and a side note, back in the biblical days, females had babies at 12,13,and 14!! Technically, if you believe in the God and the Bible and all the Old Testament and all that, women are supposed to have babies as soon as they catch periods! Western Society is all jacked up in the head gettin our minds wrapped around the fact that your not an adult until your 18…well if u ask me, and no one is but, what they got goin down in the East is actually pretty accurate…not saying i like it, but thats how its supposed to be. America’s the one that has it wrong….
“One girl in particular (honor student) admitted that she was afraid of being too successful, as she was quickly enrolled in a BA/MBA program. The girl got pregnant to “slow down the process and take time get things together.””
That is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read. She wanted to ’slow down’, so she gets pregnant on purpose? Being a parent is like having a Gap Year now? Hope that 18-21 year long time to reflect works out for her.
my mom had me when she was 19 and she raised me well
Hope her modeling career countinues to thrive
Well she is 19 so technically she is old enough to support herself. Should she be a role model to teens in general? No, however she should be a role model for young teen mothers. Personally I think parents should be their children’s role models!
As one person responded, there are two sides to this debate. It is far better to have the child then to abort, but it is a fact even if we don’t we to believe God intended children to be rearing in a home with a loving husband and wife. Why set a bad example, and I don’t care else is doing. Moreover, if the foundation becomes weak… ramdom babies momma, and dadies then the children do suffer… I have worked with many of them, for 9 years in the social service/mental health field. God Bless, all!
It’s far better to have a child than to abort you say, well after you have that child then what? does that automatically mean you gain parenting skills? doesn’t that guarantee a roof over your head? will that stop a drug addict from drugging? bringing a child into a family where the father beats the mother and rapes them is better than not bringing them into at all….yeah right in the minds of those who are obsessed with fetuses and delusions that child birth equates happy beginnings and endings. But then again you people don’t give a damn about that child once its born.
Last I checked, 19 was full on grown. Heck, the girl has a full-time career probably doing better than most of us. When my grandmother was 19 she was married with kids already. Just because you or someone you know was/is immature at 19 doesn’t mean this girl is. Ask any police officer, Judge, or military official and they’ll tell you she’s an adult, alright.
i agree 100%. i am also married with one child and another on the way and i am 19. and yes i also am in the military. women do it all the time ppl calm down! yea she may not be married but obviously she feels comfortable and motivated enough to have this baby (when she doesnt have to) which means she clearly is ready to be a mother. she wants to be a mother. and we dont kno her personal life! we dont kno if she is with this babys father or if shes even engaged! so quick to judge. i root her on..shoot she has the career so money isnt a problem and im sure she has plenty of love and support from friends and family. not all teen pregnancies are DOOMED. and technically, women are supposed to be havin babies when they catch periods anyways! which means 12,13, and 14! americas the one that has it all jacked up.
You’re 19 going on your second child and you post this like its something to be proud of. I guess having babies to you is like a mosquito bite in the summer and a cold in the winter.
To quote Whitney Houston “It’s not right, but it’s okay!” Nineteen and unmarried isn’t the ideal situation to raise a new life, it doesn’t mean that Jourdan will not be a fine parent. To be honest, there are married couples bringing up children under less that ideal circumstances so who are we to judge Jourdan’s decision.
I just hope that the baby does not derail her brilliant career. She was the first Black model that Prada had used in their runway presentation in about 10 years. The body doesn’t always bounce back the same. Ask Beverly Peele about having a baby just when your career is taking off - if you can find her.
Although she is only 19 she still earns a six figure income. I think it sets a bad example because other teenage girls without an education or career will try to follow her lead thinking they should be able to do the same thing. Yet they don’t have the means to support a child and their boyfriends are usually long gone. Children need the support and guidance of both male and female, not just mom. And poor children suffer the most because of their mothers bad choices.
This girl is not the adverage teenager, her salary doesn’t even compare to what the “adverage” 19 year old will gross while attending college or just starting in the work field. So I don’t think we can compare her to “normal” 19 year old.
The fact that she has traveled the world and has been a model for 3 years shows that she has a certain maturity level to leave her parents at a young age and pursue a career. It also shows that she is responsible.
Now I don’t condone “adverage” young single girls to try having kids (I do believe in being married and planning for children as I am currently doing) but Jourdan seems to be established enough to handle her own. Instead of judging her choice maybe we should praise her accomplishments =). FYI: kudos to her for being the FIRST black model to walk the Prada runway in OVER a decade!
Hana, Sheeks, and Betty basically said it for me…people need to mind their business. As I’ve said before, this girl has been in the game for a minute, traveling the world and handling her business–she’s not the avg 19 yr old girl just out of high school, trying to figure it out. As another commenter stated, funny how the young white girls get the pass, but everybody jumps on this sista and she’s a bad example, just a babymama, yada yada yada. Trust Ms. Dunn isn’t looking for a handout from any of you. I think ppl should just mind their own and be the main influence in their kids lives.
My only concern is how come we are not hearing about the father & his involvement? It’s cool that she’s 19 & has a good job, but is it ok to flaunt to lack of not having the father around?
People on here attack Halle Berry, a grown 40sh woman who has been married twice already, for not wanting to marry Gabe. If it’s wrong for Halle to do it, why isn’t it wrong for Jourdan?
In the first BCK post where they announced her pregnancy on July 27th it says that Jourdan and her boyfriend of several years are very happy about the new baby. I hope that is still the current situation, you do have a valid point Sherley =)
Why not? The media exposes Jamie Spears and Sarah Palin’s daughter. And BOTH of them were much younger than 19 when they had their children!
When parents step up and be the role models for their children, the world would be a better place.
This young lady is 19. Meaning she’s grown. Long as she loves and properly provides for that child, let her do her. And like someone else said, she’ll probably be a better mother then women twice her age.
Also, raising a child in a 2 parent household doesn’t mean that child will be a better person than one from a single parent household. Even though that’s how God intended it just doesn’t happen that way down here on Earth.
I give her a round of applause for not appearing to be some young & dumb teenage mother. Congrats to her on her BLESSING!!
I don’t see anything wrong with her having a baby she is of age. What people need to do is stop looking to celebrities to raise their children. If you teach your child right from wrong you wouldn’t feel this way. God bless her and her baby at being the best mother she can be.
She is old enough to vote. And probably have her own place. So in my opinion she has nothing to prove to anyone but herself. Parents need to learn how to mold their own children. She is mature enough to take care of her baby. The media needs to but out and so does nosy people or parents who can’t be leaders for their own children. Case closed!
I am going to just say this. People need to get over this two parent household thing. Although I come from a two parent household and my children are being raised in one. I chose to marry my husband. Married life is not a dream for everyone. There are now medical procedures where women can go by choice and have children without the involvement of a man. So that proves that not everyone wants to be married. People also need to face the fact that just because you start off married doesn’t mean you are going to stay married. A woman can still wind up being a single parent with the father not wanting to be involved and vice versa.
I had my first child at 19 and I definitely am not ashamed of that. Yes I was married but I still got the questionable stares from people because they didn’t know that.
No this young woman is not a bad role model. My children are not being raised by her or any other celebrity. Now if my children see her and ask me questions I will answer their questions the same way I was willing to answer the questions about Bristol Palin and Jamie Lynn SPears. I will not let my children’s decisions be influenced by anyone other than themselves.
I think everyone needs to get off her back and her live her life the way that she wants to. It is not our choice how she should live it. That goes for any other celebrity who make choices with their own life. All we can do is explain the rights and wrongs of their decisions to our children and hope that they understand enough not to go down the same path.
Sorry for the rant but I just get tired of hearing people say that she should be married knowing that she isn’t the only single unwed mother in the world. That is obviously not the world we live in today so people need to stop dragging people through the mud for their own life choices and just raise their children to feel what is best for themselves because to be honest not even our children are going to live their lives the way we want them to so we mine as well accept that now and just hope that they make the right choices because we can’t make them for them.
The more a community invests in the welfare of its children, the stronger that community will be as a whole. I believe this is why the African-American community is one of the weakest in the United States. That is my opinion, but there are many who believe that the low marriage rate and prevalence of single-parent households among AAs is just fine…which is why things aren’t going to get any better.
While I don’t think that Jourdan is a bad role model, I feel that my parents have invested too much in me and I have invested too much in myself to not take the necessary precautions to avoid becoming a single mother.
kim777, you re so on point with your comment.
Yes, yes, yes!
There’s more to raising a child than having the financial means to support them. Although I am sure this has afforded her a certain leverage over most, it’s been psychologically proven that a father’s presence (or lack there of) in a child’s life is most influential in sculpting their personalities, behaviors, etc. I don’t know whether this man intends to be a part of his child’s life, but I certainly hope that whatever the case may be, they are able to raise a happy, healthy baby together - whether that means as friends, a couple, or husband and wife. The decision is ultimately theirs to make.
As far as teenage pregnancies go, I won’t say all women are ill equipped for children at nineteen, but there is certainly no denying a child forces your priorities into perspective. It’s great to be able to provide them with food, shelter and clothing, but children also have specific emotional needs, and if a mother is not in the best place to provide THAT for her child, then a host of new complications and issues comes bubbling to the surface.
I am also a firm believer in leading by example. Is Jourdan setting the best example for teenagers? That’s a matter of opinion. Ultimately, it comes down to the parents themselves. My mother was barely into her twenties when she and my father married and had me, but I was raised in such a way to understand what was expected of me, and to better prioritize myself to meet my personal goals (school, career, etc), before taking that next big step into marriage or motherhood. Parents have to take the reigns and provide sound examples for their children. Celebrities are great and all, but is there any denying who holds the most influential stake in a child’s life?
Marriage is not the answer to everything nor for everyone; in fact sometimes it is best for some people not to be married. However, it is not just a piece of paper. It is something special & sacred that must be understood completely by both parties prior to entering into it. Marriage is not a joke nor a band-aid…case in point, look what happened to Solange Knowles.
That said, I must disagree with you. I was raised in a 2 parent household & sometimes I prayed my mom would leave my dad, but that’s another story. I was with my son’s father for 7yrs before I had my son. Only 2yrs later, we seperated & I have been a single parent since, still not married. I am not saying raising a child in a 2 parent household will make the child into a perfect member of society. But am I saying, it is very, very hard being a single parent. You must do everything, you must handle everything, things money cannot help you out with.
I do not regret having my son nor being in the situation we are in, in fact we are so close, our family members are jealous. However, I have chosen to have only one child until I find a semi-perfect partner to be in my our lifes, until I do, it will remain just the two of us.
It has nothing to do with money. Sure money can buy the support in chefs & nannies, but it will not buy you morals, child rearing skills, ethics & other things very necessary in raising a child.
My final point is this: DO NOT condem Halle Berry for wanting to have children with her boyfriend while refusing to marry him because she is afraid of being hurt for the hundredth time, if you are not going to condem a 19yr old who chooses the same path. If Halle Berry can get critisized than so can Jourdan; if Jourdan has the right to do it & be left alone, so does Halle. Period!!!
She is not 15 or 16…she is 19. And according to US laws, an adult. If she wants to have a child, she can and no one can do anything about it. Not to mention, she is in a position to support her child. Just because she is young does not mean she will be a bad mother, just as being old doesnt mean you will be a good mother.
WHat?! Why should this young woman be singled out? Did anyone say anything with Bristol Palin’s face was plastered across the cover of people magazine. This woman has a career and she is an adult. She should be commended for actually keeping her baby; when we know that there are countless women who have abortions inorder to save their careers!
Maybe not on BCK, but Bristol Palin got reamed left and right for being a pregnant teen. Especially with a mother that held up her family as the shining example of Abstinence Only education. She and Jamie-Lynn Spears were ripped for it; don’t let the absence of any argument about them on Black sites fool you.
thank u. she definitely need to be commended for not killing her child. i dont kno wat the fuss is about cause their r alot of young women who get pregnajt, but they dont have kids.because they had an abortion. ppl, dont kno how hard it is to make a decision like dat wen everyone around u is saying “jus hav a abortion”. she is brave and she will learn how to be a good parent jus like how i had to at her age.
Regardless if she is of legal age she is not married. Unexceptable.
Sad to say this shows how much this world has strayed away from the bible and morals. That is all I will say
Nikki, people just don’t get it. There’s no way you can logically explain what you just said to people who have been convinced that marriage is nothing but a piece of paper and who fail to see the reality of single-parent household.
u are so right. People think marriage is just a piece of paper but its a divine institution. Just imagine if people honored marriage and realized that statistics do not support the position that single parent households are just as good as two parent heterosexual households. People need to reason from cause and effect and stop regurgitating what their dysfunctional families and the media pass down. Hmmmm if people waited for marriage would AIDS be the epidemic it is? Think about that…God knew what he was doing when he created marriage.
Amen! There are none so blind as those who will not see.
very good point
people come one. America is the one that has it all wrong. women are technically supposed to pop out babies as soon as they catch periods! which means 12, 13, 14..if u wanna stick to biblical terms and conditions. im 19, married, with one child and another on the way and VERY proud of it. i got married first, granted but so what, we dont kno this girls personal life n we dont know whther or not shes with the babys father…
She not only has the money but sheS actually excited about having her baby. I think if you have the love and you have people who support you then it’s cool to have a child. She’s smart and she made the chiild out of love, so what if she aint married. She know whats in store for her.
Magnolia, it take more than love when considering bringing a child into the world. You don’t know what’s in store when having a child until you have a child. Yes, you know you have the total responsibility of another life on your hands, but children are not dolls. They are work so unless you’ve been there and done that, you don’t know what you have in store. JMO. Sorry if people disagree.
I wholeheartedly disagree with you. No one knows what it is like to have a child until they have had one. With that being said, no one understands all the commitment, sacrifice, and love required until they have a child. No one is ever really prepared to have children, from 16- 60, nothing can prepare you for the experience of being responsible for another life until you have that responsibility on your hands.
Some people are up for the challengwe and some fold under pressure, from 16-60. Not everyone is prepared to parent, but age experience and money are not factors for success or failure when it comes to being a parent. Real world, baby in your hands, experience is the only way to truly grasp the responsibility and magnitude of the parenting role.
All I have to say on this subject is this. Being a good parent and being financially able to care for a child is only a portion (large, howbeit) of being a parent. Is she mentally prepared to pass on life experiences to the child she gives birth to? I don’t know Jourdin so I can’t answer that question, but I believe these are the things people should take into consideration when planning on having a child. Why be in such a rush to have a baby at 19. Yes, it’s her business, and frankly, I really don’t care one way or another because I’m not the one who has to raise the child. Yes, she has a career and has traveled the world, but is she capable of being able to steer that child in the right direction morally, mentally, spiritually? I don’t have the answer to that question, but I think that’s what needs to be taken into considered when one talks about having children, not just how much someone has in their pocketbook.
Also for those how continue to make excuses about two parent households not being a guarantee for anything. You are correct, HOWEVER, statistically it is proven that children fare better in a GOOD, two-parent household. All we have to do is open our eyes and take off the blinders.
As far as Jourdin is concerned, again, I don’t know her, but I hope she is able to provide more than just financial support to that child, but all the rest of the things that make healthy, established children.
Best wishes to her.
I’m glad BCK featured Jourdan Dunn. She’s a beautiful, accomplished young lady in a long term relationship who seems to have treated her pregnancy with a lot of maturity. She has the money to support her child, she is in a relationship and, really, 19 in model years is not quite 19 for the rest of us. She’s been working a while already! And you don’t see her running around like she knows everything or like she isn’t pregnant or selling her stories to the tabs, she’s just very quietly working now and then and getting ready to be a mom. How is that a bad example? Oh, right, she’s not married and we can call her a teen (for another 12 months). Jourdan Dunn is a better example than some mothers and fathers who have been featured here before with no fuss.
I knew at age 16 I was never getting married. I don’t know of one married couple that convinced me that marriage was optimal. In fact several of them were so dysfunctional, esp. the ones with kids that I opted to go solo. The only way I would get married is for the economics of a partnership which tends to favor married people over single, responsible, productive people.
Excuse the misspelling of Jourdan’s name.
This is my last post on this subject. The debate will rage on forever. I will always stand by GOOD, two-parent households as being the ideal environment for a child, period. If the household isn’t good, do not bring children into it. I know my views are not popular as we is evidenced on this blog. We each are entitled to our opinions.
Again, I don’t know Jourdan, so I have no ill-will toward her. I hope she’s able to be a good mother and that she has enough life experience under her belt (apart from traveling and money) to be able to raise a healthy, productive child.
Like some people on here are sayin, she is an adult and has a good career. Not everyone will go by what God intended and i understand that. BUT, my father is a preacher and i feel very strongly about these things. I want to be married when i have kids. but congrats anyway.
All I know is that as mother I am doing the best that I can for my children. My husband and I can only do what we can and instill values in them. I am not going to try to force marriage down their throat. I just want them to do what is right for them. As I stated before my kids are in a two parent household just because I am doing it doesn’t mean I am going to push my beliefs on to someone else. In the end this woman’s pregnancy in none of our business or concern. I just no she is not going to affect the way my children grow up. I think she can be a good role model by showing people that she is strong enough to raise her child and give him/her the care that he/she needs without letting the views of the world affect her.
I think it is really sad that there is such a hunger for any kind of news that we seem to cover anything and everything. Is anyone on this website smarter than God who created men and women and set the boundary that sex only takes place within the bonds of marriage? No, do not feature a 19 year old who is unmarried unless it is a “don’t let this happen to you” article. Society is in a mess because kids are running around without fathers and mothers with self esteem so low that they are unwilling to demand a commitment before they lay down and have someone’s baby.
I don’t think she is setting a bad example for teenagers the examples are already there in the lives of these teenagers. Teenage pregancy is something that usually affects the poor so knowing that Jourdan is able to take care of her child financially does her age matter? Yes she is young but compared to most young people in her situation she is better off than they are. Jourdan has a career and her child will have insurance and will not be taken care of by the state. If this was a poor person, people will bring up welfare but she don’t need it. She can provide for her child now it’s about age and marriage. So, does her age matter if she can provide and care for her child.
I beleive in marriage but only if u want to be married i don’t beleive in getting married to please people or by pretending u are doing it because of god and your faith. There was a recent study that was done that said marriage wasn’t as important as a stable household for children. What i do have a problem with is when people have muliple children by multip[le people.
I know taking care of children doesn’t mean just having money because many wealthy people fail their children as much as the poor and they have plenty of money. Wealthy people failures just show up in other ways in their lives but this is something that’s rarely talked about in this country. She’s not setting a bad example for noone she’s just a product of society, western society.
Good luck with your baby Jourdan and we can’t wait to see that beautiful little thing when it comes and keep making public appearances so u can be featured on BCK. Wear a shirt that will really show us your stomach.
There was a recent study that was done that said marriage wasn’t as important as a stable household for children
I think I read that same article that stated in part, ” According to the study published in Marriage and Family: Perspectives and Complexities, the academic performance and the behavior of the children of stable single-parent households is similar to their counterparts living with both parents.
HOWEVER:
Black families were the only exceptions in which children living with two parents did better on reading and math tests than those in single-parent families.
All we have to do is look at our community and see this for ourselves.
We’d haft to wish the best for Jourdan and her boyfriend to make it in their relationship but if she becomes a single mother, her child would have a much better chance at succeeding in education than the average person in her situation. Her child can go to the best schools and have tutors unlike most people affected by single parenthood.
If she becomes a single parent and she has the means to fully educate her child, imo the fact that she’s a single mother isn’t an excuse for her child not to succeed. The study said black children living with two parents did better on reading and math tests than those in single-parent families maybe true but alot of those black families are probably poor and Jourdan has the means to do whatever is possible to make sure her child don’t fail and many people in these types of situations don’t have that.
My advice to Jourdan is to spend your money wisely so that u will be able to give your child the best education possible. Stay away from drugs and don’t get pregnant again for a while. Don’t be so busy to the point that your child will be raised by the babysitter. Take care of your baby and raise it because I don’t beleive a career is an exscuse to be absent no matter the profession someone maybe in.
I am 18 years old and i do not see this situation as a means for me to go out and get pregnant.however I am very happy that BCK has chosen to do this piece. Too many times teenagers are seen as iresponsible and not suported in their choice.
To me Jourdan Dunn is very brave to decided to bring this baby into the world and i wish her all the best.
I get so tired of parents complaining about celebrities “setting bad examples” for “their” kids. It is the parents responsibility to set their kids on a good path, NOT every other tom, dick, and harry out there in the real world. I seen all kinds of foolishness growing up but I didn’t sway a bit because I had parents who did better(in their examples) and I knew expected better from me. I was fond of celebrities “talents” not their characters. I do not expect Beyonce, lil wayne, Jayz or any other celeb to set anything for my children. My kids father and I will be head of that.
Like I said in the other post, and I stand by it 100%, yes I am upset about BCK posting all of these happy go lucky stories about a teenage parent. Yes, she can support her child and yes she is in a committed relationship, which is great and better than a lot of other people’s situations. However, what does glamourizing a teen parent do, other than make kids think they can do the same? Just like I felt that Jamie Lynn Spears being in OK Magazine talking about how wonderful motherhood is and how she wouldn’t trade it in for the world was sending the wrong message.
Of course it’s 100% a parent’s job to raise their kids and not let television/the radio/magazines raise them and that’s exactly what I do. But what about all of the other kids who DON’T have positive role models to look up to? The ones who only have the media to go off of? Are we supposed to pretend that they don’t exist because that’s not how we raise OUR kids? I guess it’s ok if THOSE kids are out there getting pregnant young, because it’s not our problem until tax time
Also, since I was the last one to comment in the last post about Jourdan and I mentioned that I was “kind of upset” at BCK, I’ll assume that the author of this post was talking about me. If I’m correct, I find it utterly hilarious that you’re trying to throw shade. And if it’s not directed towards me, it’s a mighty funny coincidence
its not that this is an ideal situation but i dont think that she did this on purpose or tryin to get anyone else to do the same thing..i jus say God Bless to her and her baby
guidance starts in the home not with public figures. turn off the tv and get active with your children as a means of encouraging good health and healthy self esteem. i can’t overstate the importance of turning off the television. the average black household watches over 40 hours a week of television. think about it.
People are so quick to judge, but the reality of it most people don’t wait until they are married to have sex and most of the people that replied to this post didn’t wait until marriage to have sex. Just because you may not have gotten pregnant having sex before marriage, you want to judge this girl as well as women who choose not to get married. Everytime you have sex there is a possibility to become pregnant. I think that she is a brave girl for keeping her baby, there are celebrities out there who abort their babies because it will affect their career. As a parent you need to be your childs role model not someone in the entertainment business. The fact that people are on here judging her is a sin so you are no better then the people fornicating. Every situation is different, you have the women with multiple childrens with different fathers, then you have the women with children by the same man, who have been together for years but choose not to get married. The people who are getting married just because and divorce a year or two later, does it make it right for them to bring a child into this world, it really doesn’t matter a child is a blessing coming from a single or two parent married home, and I’m sure the creater of this blog site agree’s that they are a blessing that is why is site exists.
I am the product of teenagers and I am very well adjusted. My parents did everything they could to give me a great life. The struggles a lot of people faced, I didn’t. I never wanted for anything because I always had everything I needed. My parents did a great job with me and I am sure Jourdann will do everything she can to give her child a wonderful life. I’m not condoning teen pregnancy but the stats are not always accurate. I know a lot of screwed-up people who come from married households. A lot married parents today are only together for the sake of the kids. They argue and fight in front of the kids, but I guess that is okay because they are married. There are wives that are being abused by their husbands and the kids witness it. There are husbands who are unfaithful. And the biggest one of all, the divorce rate in this country is 50%. Just because you had a kid in wedlock doesn’t mean he/she will be raised in a marriage.
“You Need To Show A Little Mercy And Grace For Somebody Else And Take Your Foot Off Your Brother And Consider Yourself.” -Deitrick Haddon
It Kills Me How People Talk About God And This Is Not What God Intended… Well, World. No Sin Is Greater Than Another. Everyone Has Done Something That Would Not Be Just In God’s Eyes… With That Being Said, I Am A Single Mother Of A Beautiful Daughter Who I Love With EVERYTHING I Have… I Got Pregnant At 16 and Had Her At 17. I Can Tell You That The Media Had NO Influence In My Pregnancy. It Was Simply A Lack Of Responsibility ON MY PART. I Grew Up In A Two Parent Household. Got All A’s. Was On The Basketball Team, Volleyball Team, And Track… So I Was Not The Typical Girl Some Might Believe As A Target To Get Pregnant. It Is True That Parents Mold Their Children As They Grow And Teach Them The Rights And Wrongs, But Ultimately It Is The Daughter’s Or Son’s Life And They Do So As They Please. I Am A Christian, I Accept Christ With My Whole Heart. But I Am Very Sick Of These Part-Time Christians Putting Their Two Cents In Like They’ve Been Saved Their Entire Life. I Wish This Beautiful Young Lady All The Best. And THANK YOU BCK For Acknowledging This, Because Its Obviously A Subject That Alot Of People Have An Opinion On.
Have A Blessed Day All!
Ok, maybe I’m a little bit more emotional about this than others because I volunteer some of my time to the Boys and Girls center in an area where I used to live. You’d be extremely surprised about how much the media influences these young girls. They talk about how teen pregnancy isn’t a big deal.If it happens, they can get an abortion or give the baby up, or just make it work. Of course I try to steer these girls in the right direction but it’s a handful of girls and I can’t monitor their actions 24/7. These girls are pretty young and I know they are having sex because they’ve told me. They said they see it on tv, read about it on the internet and hear about it in songs on the radion and almost all of them act like it’s no big deal.
As I’ve said in the other post, no one is saying Jourdan should be locked away or that she shouldn’t be allowed to talk about her pregnancy. All I said was that all of these happy go lucky posts about a teen parent are sending the wrong message. But sense America is so desensitized about everything, of course I’m in the wrong and everyone should just continue to act like teen pregnancy is perfectly alright.
I have to agree with HANA. I could see if was 17, she had no job, was still living with her parents, and by no means able to take care of a baby. But legally, she’s a grown woman who can handle her business. And everybody should be congratulating her on her first born. She’s probably now feeling discouraged about her choice to have a child. And no one has the right to make someone feel that way.
Funny folks feel raising a child in a 2 parent household is good or the best thing.
Seems like a lot of children who were raised in 2 parent households end up screwed up in some way. Either they end up on drugs, on the streets or in jail or prison. Sure the same could happen to a child in a single parent household, but if you research it, it occurs mostly in homes where 2 parents were present.
So think twice about that before you all go judging her for being an unwed single parent.
Wow, that’s completely bogus…show me one study that supports your claims
Are you serious?
Please provide proof of that research because I’m certain it does not exist.
Maybe you should think twice before spouting out redoric
Wat “setting a bad example” most people dont even know who she is, in my opinion 19 is to young to have kids…but I don’t have any power over that, I just make sure I don’t get knocked up at my tender age of 21 lol
Both! Jourdan like Solange keeps sending this message that everything is just fabulous when you’re pregnant, everything is great, its all shopping sprees and photo ops. But they won’t tell you the real because either they must keep up the appearance of its all good or they don’t get to feel it because someone else is doing all the heavy lifting and they only play ma ma when its convenient. And quite frankly I’m beyond sick and tired of Black women having babies with men they aren’t married to. She is setting a bad example and selling a fairy tale but these ma ma’s that keep having babies with men they aren’t married to, hardly know or more than they can handle are also setting their daughters up as well.
I have to agree with you. Women having unprotected sex & children with any & all men & raising them w/o a father, is not glamorous at all.
Not saying marriage fixs everything, but having 2 parents in your child live, gives the child an advantage they deserve as they did not ask to be here.
Where I work, I see numerous women lugging behind 3, 4, 5 kids from different men & no man stuck around. It’s disgusting. Not saying it isn’t the man’s fault. But as a female, if the 1st & 2nd guy did not stick around, make sure you do not have any more children until the man has married you first. It’s not that difficult to do.
first off… shes not 13,,14,15,or 16 years of age… shes like 19 shes an adult not because shes 19 but shes taking care of herself and is making her own money she’s not depending on a mans money like some celebrities we know “lauren london” “nivea” and theyre waaaay older than her…. make a topic when some girl is 15 then I will have something to say
People need to stop judging her and all young mothers because its their decisin. Like someone said before we do not know her and what she plans on doing maybe she made a mistake and she is stepping up to the plat.Everyone keep saying you should be married but who are we to judge only God can say anything about that.One more thing i wish the people who sit here and comment on every post like they know whats best for everyone will get a life because obviously they do not have one…
BEST OF LUCK JOURDAN!!!!
all good things