MISS J IS A DAD
Submitted by admin on November 11, 2009 at 9:35 am 65 Comments
America’s Next Top Model judge “Miss J” Alexander is a dad to a seven-year-old boy named Boris.
“I am a dad, [but] not a biological dad,” he said on the Tyra show on Tuesday.
Miss J’s ex- boyfriend Alex is actually the biological father of Boris.
“A French lesbian had asked if we would be sperm donors,” he explained to Tyra. “…So we did a little test tube.”
In his new book Follow The Model, Miss J explains that fatherhood has “enriched my life beyond imagination.”
Boris, Miss J writes, is “an incredibly smart child. He was toilet-trained at a year and three months. He refuses to drink out of plastic and will use only glass. ”
“He insists on wearing nice shoes. I think somehow my fashion genes must have slipped in there.”
Sooo the child has two gay daddy’s and one gay mama….I’m confused
@ latifah lol he will be confuse to.
anyway that is pretty cool and interesting to grow up having 3 gay parents
SICK ~ SICK ~ SICK !!
No matter what, it is nice that this is a biological male stepping up to be a father in a boy’s life.
Poor kid, I guess this is just a touchy subject, and I don’t agree to the whole all parents gay thing, but as long as the child if fully taken care of, and I do believe he will be, Ms J, seems like he bonds with the kid. So it’s sick (to me-my opinion), I hope that the child is not fully influenced by this though. The kid is the most important thing!
If kids were fully influenced by their parents, most gay folks wouldn’t be gay, would they? :o)
Caratime2, I concur. Very logical isn`t it?
So many people just don’t seem to get that. Wonder why?
I find this comment interesting.
People always go on and about about homosexual parents influencing their children or whatnot, but how is that any different then heterosexual parents clearly raising a gay child?
If the heterosexual parents couldn’t keep the child straight, I think the homosexual parents can’t force a child gay.
THis is just sick I dont know what he is tryign to do here
….to accept any and every thing …..is to cause nothing but chaos….the funniest thng to me is they call ppl a homophob …..bcuz i dnt undstand , im scared to ?…no i do undastand that is y i disgree !!!! lol.
I really don’t think that you do understand. I think that you have been taught that it is not the “norm” and you accept that; but I really don’t think that you UNDERSTAND. Can you imagine a Black, woman who CHOOSES to be a lesbian? I couldn’t. That to me is begging for punishment. BLACK, WOMAN, GAY? Who in heaven’s name do you think would pick from column C for all of the above? All though J is biologically a male, he isn’t, really. I can’t understand why people judge this as right or wrong except that they really DON’T understand.
NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think America has lost all of its morals. Kids curse more than ever, even in the presence of thier parents. I do not know where America is headed, and so I will become an immigrant in another country, although I am American. Take a good look, and see how America is lagging behind most countries, today.
How is that a connection with this story. Gays aren’t the reason our morals are slipping. These people are trying to parent and that’s a good thing. Maybe another country would be your best choice. When there are things there that you don’t agree with perhaps you’ll find even another country. And so it goes.
As someone who has lived in several Western European countries, I’m curious as to what nations you think the U.S. lags behind? I’ll bet they are countries that practice more tolerance towards EVERYONE, including homosexuals.
Dont be so ignorant you know , if the kid loves them he loves them
He will just have a better out look on things unlike you people who
Are judgeing them and more then likely know nothing but what you here … smh … I THINK ITS NICE HE HAD 3 PEOPLE WHO LOVE HIM WHO MAY BE GAY BUT HE WILL MORE THEN LIKELY BE SOMEONE IN THE WORLD LOVE EVRYONE HOW THEY ARE AND HAVE PARENTS WHO WIL SUPPORT HIM MATTER FACT HAVE 3 AND SOME PEOPLE HAVE NONE
The above picture is the best I’ve ever seen this man look. It is a nice picture.
I am not sure, but one thing I know is that being gay is rarely a choice. I know there are those who are experimenting out here, but I believe that the majority are born this way so who am I to judge. It is certainly a variant as most people would be gay if it was to be considered the “norm” and the world would not be able to go on as we know it—i.e. reproduce the species naturally, but this is a varied world we live in and nature has so many different expressions…
Love and care are the most important things in regards to the kid.
I was always taught that God made everything. I see animals that do not reproduce according to what we are taught is the usual way. I still believe that God is the creator of all, even things that some don’t like. I certainly have never believed that people “choose” to be gay. I can’t even begin to imagine falling in love or making love with someone who is my same sex. There is absolutely nothing about it that’s appealing to me; therefore, why would I believe that gay people just wake up one day and decide that they are going to be gay. But that’s just me.
what is he gonna teach this boy?
what the hell kinna question is that, maybe he’s gonna teach him love and respect. What the hell are you gonna teach your kid
Dree, I agree wholeheartedly with you.
i didnt mean it that way….i meant if i was a boy and you told me that “miss j” was my father, i wouldn’t know what to think…
I doubt the boy will care because at least his “very gay father” is actually in his life and being there for his kid.
I’ll take an awesomely gay father over not having one at all ANY DAY!
OH HELL NO!!!
I WONDER.. HMMMM is HE going to be a real dad with permed hair or a mother? LOL
Well Billy Dee Williams, and many other men and women have permed hair as well. What does mean?
I bet that little boy can walk the hell out of a runway!
To all the gay supporters out there who insist on making those against homosexuality and lesbianism feel ignorant, inhumane, or unsympathetic, you ignore the basic, axiomatic, and very logical fact that is at the helm of all anti-gay sentiments. This fact is that homosexuality and lebianism is ANTI-LIFE in its very nature. How can you ridicule someone for pointing out the backwards and corrupt nature of a life choice that so obviously threatens human existence? That one cannot be person of integrity is NOT the question. The LIFESTYLE is and always will be anti-life. When I can convince supporters of this life choice that it would be perfectly normal and beneficial to society for the sun to begin to circle the earth, for bees to bring their pollen back to their hives, for rain to circle horizontally above our heads, or for man to begin the eat through his nose, then maybe I will begin to view homosexuality as favorable. Until then, anti-gay supporters, hold firm to your natural reactions! The “if you can’t explian it, support it” way of reasoning shouldn’t suffice.
And who said you were GOD???????? STFU! As long as the parents of the child is not abusing the child and giving him love, respect and EDUCATION, he will be well rounded. Now if you know your facts, you would know that homosexuality is in the genes. I have a lot of gay friends who would prefer to be attracted to women, but they aren’t. They also have straight parents!!! If you do not know that facts I suggest you educate yourself darling! Judging is such a disgusting quality!!! I am not gay btw but I am not on the earth to judge others either. P.S. Don’t try that Christianity bull either as their are ALOT of back sliders who do their dirt in the week then try and repent on sunday!
It’s tough because I do believe that people are born gay, but I also believe that living a homosexual lifestyle is a sin. The Bible clearly says so. And Khrish, you can’t compare heterosexuals who cannot reproduce to gay people. Gay people cannot reproduce because it is unnatural and not what God intended. Some heterosexuals simply cannot reproduce because of health complications. I think that them having a kid was completely selfish, and thats just my opinion.
On the contrary, I can compare according to the statement that was made. The poster stated that homosexuality is Anti-life by its very nature…..I am asking if this is true, does that mean that heterosexuals who cannot produce children anti-life. To me the statement made was just stupid and uninformed as would be the same statement made about barren heterosexuals. Just be careful how you make decisions about what is and is not moral about others lives.
Exactly. Also homosexuals are procreating. In fact more than you think! So I guess the whole “anti life” propaganda isn’t entirely correct.
But that makes people nervous because you know… “the gays” and children are [insert whatever].
I didn’t make the decision about what is moral about other’s lives, if you believe in God, then he made that decision. Read your Bible, Romans 1:26-27, Leviticus 18:22, and Leviticus 20:13 just to name a few. I would never support gay people being discriminated against or mistreated in any manner, and I would treat a gay person with just as much decency as a heterosexual because their souls are not my concern, God will handle that. However, I do believe in the word of God and that homosexuality is a sin, and it is completely unnatural. Like the saying goes, God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve!
I love how people claim what God intended by quoting the Bible- which was written by MEN who didn’t understand A LOT of shit a LONG TIME AGO. Think for yourselves people, forget the Bible and all of what religions and religious texts tell you. How do ANY of us actually know what God’s intentions are- are any of us here God? What about those who are Atheist- where do they fit into all of this? The problem with religion is that encourages people to stop thinking for themselves, and to impose their wills on other people. I was raised Catholic, I know- they are the masters of the judgment of others.
Are we not all God’s children? Did the Creator not make us all? Are you saying he got it wrong a bunch of times? Homosexuality occurs in other animals besides humans, you know- homosexuality has been documented in plenty of other species, including monkeys. I suppose they made a choice too? How do we know that God didn’t create homosexuals to take care of unwanted children? Some of you will balk at that, but it’s no more ridiculous than claiming that God didn’t intend homosexuals to have children. Why don’t we *each* worry about our own relationships with God, and leave other people alone, for goodness’ sake. I’ll say it again- if Miss J loves and cares for this boy, why are you worried about him? Who couldn’t use more love??
Lioness you don’t have to quote the Bible to know what God intended. Have you ever known two men to produce life together? What about two women? Nature and common sense tells you its not natural. Don’t get me wrong, I work with children in the system and i’m all for any loving nurturing person adopting, but if you want to argue about what my God intended and if homosexuality is natural then we can do this all day.
PlainMean, “natural” comes in a lot of different forms, and since you and I are not God, I repeat again that we have NO idea what nature’s intentions are. I believe that gay people and animals were MEANT to come out that way, in other words “natural”- God doesn’t make mistakes. You can sit and rationalize the context of what’s “natural” all you want, but until you can convince me that you yourself are the Creator, your arguments will fall on deaf ears. Whatever your definition of “nature” and “natural” is, works for YOU- stop judging and imposing it on others.
Since when do you have to be God to have an opinion or to feel strongly about something? I know very well what nature’s intentions are. I know that in every species it takes a MALE AND A FEMALE to create life, to keep the circle of life going. You don’t have to be God to know that, a child can tell you this. Men are not meant to live and act like women and vice versa. That’s my freaking belief and opinion. I could care less about trying to convince you or about what you do and don’t believe; however, you posted a comment, an opinion, on a public forum and as a result you’ve recieved a reply that strongly differs from yours. Homosexuality is unnatural and it’s a sin, it doesn’t make someone a bad person or make them deserve discrimination or hatred, but it is what it is, that’s where I stand PERIOD.
Being incapable of having children isn’t the same as choosing to have sex with the same sex.
People who are biologically incapable of having children are that way because of a biological hindrance, they have the organs, but are unable to reproduce, not because they’ve CHOSEN to have sex with someone of the same sex, that’s the difference.
Old people (just in case you try and throw this one in here as well),Elderly people can’t reproduce because they’ve LOST the capability to reproduce and besides they might’ve all ready contributed.
Anyway, I’m not homophobic and I like Miss J, but I just don’t agree with the lifestyle ,and there is no GENE for homosexuality. However, what I do think is that there are spirits that produce unconscious cognitive anomalies that make ppl feel as if they were “born” this way. Their feelings are true and it’s their reality, but it doesn’t make it less of an anomaly. Homosexuality isn’t new and it’s been around for centuries, including during the biblical times.
People are trying to inundate and satiate American culture with this “open your mind and accept any and everything” until you’re desensitized to where it’s normal to see two men and two women kissing and having sex on primetime tv and in public.
There is nothing in the bible that says homosexuality is ok, however the antithesis is present, however God loves them as do I and I treat them with respect like anyone else and I think certain legal benefits should be granted as well.
All I’m saying is that don’t sit there (Khrish and everyone else who willingly wants uncontested acceptance), do not sit there and try and force others to believe and accept your credences without challenge or the right to express opposition; it doesn’t work that way. Do not label those who don’t AGREE with you as homophobic, because many of us aren’t.
Amber, that’s your opinion and we have ours. Even people who aren’t gay are not always able to produce children, are they anti life? should they be cautioned against? …..and there are some who do create children that make us question why. People usually fear the unknown. But not to worry; there are plenty “Lil” Waynes out there to help keep things going for you. in this case, I find it most immoral to condemn those who do not conform to what we consider the “norm”. Remember, the “norm” is a taught behavior.
Sooo are you saying that there shouldn’t be a norm???? Then let’s do away with the law enforcement, all of our bylaws and school codes, zoning ordinances, traffic signals etc… they are there to keep a BALANCE, to make sure that things don’t go awry, to try keep things NORMAL.
We have NORMS to keep BALANCE. If we don’t have some level to measure a “standard” you will have CHAOS, so this is a flawed and tenuous argument.
The norm for a traffic signal is to stop at a RED light, this is TAUGHT, and many ppl do not follow this norm and guess what happens? You get chaos. Since norms are taught and many are, the next time you’re driving, run through all of the red lights.
The norm is also to believe that the sky is blue, walk around saying the sky is yellow. Do you get where I’m going with this?
Yeah a lot of norms are taught and the reason is because they help keep balance and order to many things.
Homosexuality isn’t a NORM, although ppl are trying their hardest to make it one.
I don’t become upset because you don’t agree with homosexuality as that is something that you nor I have the ability to change. On the other hand, I can’t understand why who someone loves or shares their life is a subject for condemnation that turns into a movement for alienation of their civil rights for fear that it will bring chaos. That just doesn’t seem right and just to me. The moral side of the discussion is just something that I feel only God, if that’s what one believes, not man, has the final say in. That’s what bothers me. I guess I’m just a red blooded liberal who can’t understand the narrowness of people who want others to be just like them or wrong. I’m not gay, but it certainly doesn’t bother me if there are people who are and I tend to speak out in defense because chaos comes when you allow others to be maltreated, misjudged and punished. Who will be next? Maybe you(collectively)as we all are people of imperfection. I am a firm believer that injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. And I guess that’s all I’ve tried to impart as how I feel about the subject.
What is so sick about it?? It seems he very much cares for Boris, and who can’t do with a bit more love? You people are silly.
Amen!
i’m sorry, but what am i missing? how is he a father?
What Miss J meant to say was he is this child’s Fairy Godmother not his daddy.
Lol, Latifah! At least Ms. J is trying to be the “good fairy godmom/dad” by sharing the wealth and his time with a little boy!
Best wishes to him.
Yes, you are so right. I would trade in my one straight dead beat daddy for two gay daddy’s in a second. But honey I just can’t help to think how odd it is to have three parents all of whom are gay.
I think J is quite certain of his role in this child’s life. He said exactly what he meant; and I don’t remember him stuttering! You can learn more if you will take the time to listen to what is being said. You may not agree but you will have learned something that you did not know.
He said that he and his partner both donated spearm to concieve the child.
Actually what is most sickening are the majority of the comments in this thread/post. After all African Americans have gone thru, i.e. intolerance, I can’t believe what I am reading here. So many abandoned children languish in foster care that it’s tragic. If the homophobes spent more time adopting instead of judging maybe these children would be better off. Unbelievable!
Also didn’t y’all know that gay adults come from heterosexual (not gay) parents? Using this logic Miss J’s son will most likely turn out heterosexual (and well-loved) but your children might not!
Sometimes I wish gay bashers would just go away. So many gay men (and women) still in the closet making life miserable for themselves and others because they don’t feel that they can be free to be themselves. Every one has a right to personal freedom and expression as long as they are not hurting anyone in the process.
How many women have married or been in committed relationships with closeted men and felt what was wrong with them?–when all along it was simply because they were not a man.How many suicides and depressive issues as the result of shame and/or feeling so conflicted with their identity and tackling non-acceptance by family, friends and society for who they are? I am surprised this is still such a big issue that needs addressing.
As long as the child is taken care of emotionally, physically and in all the ways he should be to feel loved and cared for…I am not a saint, I still have my own issues with acceptance of things I don’t fully understand but to not at least try to have an open mind and put away some of the judgments when an issue doesn’t directly harm or impact you..
I agree totally with you. If we worked on ourselves and problems that we do understand, we would have a much better success rate. I wonder why so called “christians” don’t dwell as much on what the bible teaches them about divorce and promiscuity. There is way many more things talked about in their scriptures concerning these problems and they go a change the rules of the church to allow acceptance of people, even ministers, who live with these “sins”. Really, if we all work to be the best people we can be, we would not have much time to fight and rail against what others do. In the end, if there is another place, you are only going to be questioned about what YOU did or didn’t do.
I wonder how many women on here bashing J are single, never-married mothers? Or shell fish eaters? Or believe that women should be allowed in the pulpit? All of these aforementioned things are considered “sins” in the bible also. People kill me how they pick and choose what sins they focus on: usually the ones they are not guilty of. And if homosexuality was so repulsive to the god of your understanding, why isn’t it one of the 10 commandments? The views spewed by so many so-called christians are the reason organized relgion is such a turn-off to so many. too many of you sound like cult members. Independent research and thinking would do you some good.
and to add, if this is such a terrible thing in the sight of God, why can’t they be content with allowing God to handle it?
EXACTLY, THANK YOU!!! Shout that from the mountaintops, Khrish! I’ll repeat it again, because you said it so accurately: “and to add, if this is such a terrible thing in the sight of God, why can’t they be content with allowing God to handle it?”
I’M SORRY BUT THIS GUY SCARES ME!!!!
Do priests and teachers scare you, too? They have been proven to molest and rape boys undercover. Everybody knows where Miss J is coming from and I believe it is a good hearted place towards this little boy who he is already close to.
Are you also scared of Rosie O’Donell, a gay celebrity with kids? Or Ellen Degeneres who’s always cozy with kids on her talk show?
Is the fear attributable to Miss J being an African American male who is gay?
you really shouldn’t be “scared” of J. It’s not like you will ever be able to associate with him.
PLAINMEAN, There have been lots of evil done and lies told then blamed on God. It was God and passages in the Bible that were used to prove that slavery moral. Just remember that.
Why do people insist on comparing race and sexual preference? Maybe people can’t choose their sexual preference, but gay people always have the option of being openly gay or not being openly gay. Most black people can’t keep their race a secret. You’re right, the bible was used to justify a lot of things including slavery. So take the bible out of it and just use biology and nature. Two men cannot create a life! Two women cannot create a life. The world continues to grow and thrive because men and women come together and reproduce, that’s a very simple FACT NOT OPINION. We weren’t meant to lay with people of the same sex. So what’s to argue about?
But is love always about creating life? As I said before, some men and women can lie together and not be able to create a life; that doesn’t mean that they have been condemned. My argument is simple; live and let live.
I didn’t in any way question his love, and the not being able to create life part isn’t what condemns them, its the sleeping with people of the same sex part that does that. And who’s stopping them from living? Just like you posted a comment on how they live, so did I; my comment just so happened to differ from yours!
But you seem to want to comdemn them as they live. There in lies the difference.