MISS J IS A DAD
America’s Next Top Model judge “Miss J” Alexander is a dad to a seven-year-old boy named Boris.
“I am a dad, [but] not a biological dad,” he said on the Tyra show on Tuesday.
Miss J’s ex- boyfriend Alex is actually the biological father of Boris.
“A French lesbian had asked if we would be sperm donors,” he explained to Tyra. “…So we did a little test tube.”
In his new book Follow The Model, Miss J explains that fatherhood has “enriched my life beyond imagination.”
Boris, Miss J writes, is “an incredibly smart child. He was toilet-trained at a year and three months. He refuses to drink out of plastic and will use only glass. ”
“He insists on wearing nice shoes. I think somehow my fashion genes must have slipped in there.”
58 Comments to “MISS J IS A DAD”
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Sooo the child has two gay daddy’s and one gay mama….I’m confused
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So will that poor child.
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@ latifah lol he will be confuse to.
anyway that is pretty cool and interesting to grow up having 3 gay parents
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SICK ~ SICK ~ SICK !!
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No matter what, it is nice that this is a biological male stepping up to be a father in a boy’s life.
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Poor kid, I guess this is just a touchy subject, and I don’t agree to the whole all parents gay thing, but as long as the child if fully taken care of, and I do believe he will be, Ms J, seems like he bonds with the kid. So it’s sick (to me-my opinion), I hope that the child is not fully influenced by this though. The kid is the most important thing!
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If kids were fully influenced by their parents, most gay folks wouldn’t be gay, would they?
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Caratime2, I concur. Very logical isn`t it?
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So many people just don’t seem to get that. Wonder why?
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I find this comment interesting.
People always go on and about about homosexual parents influencing their children or whatnot, but how is that any different then heterosexual parents clearly raising a gay child?
If the heterosexual parents couldn’t keep the child straight, I think the homosexual parents can’t force a child gay.
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THis is just sick I dont know what he is tryign to do here
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….to accept any and every thing …..is to cause nothing but chaos….the funniest thng to me is they call ppl a homophob …..bcuz i dnt undstand , im scared to ?…no i do undastand that is y i disgree !!!! lol.
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I really don’t think that you do understand. I think that you have been taught that it is not the “norm” and you accept that; but I really don’t think that you UNDERSTAND. Can you imagine a Black, woman who CHOOSES to be a lesbian? I couldn’t. That to me is begging for punishment. BLACK, WOMAN, GAY? Who in heaven’s name do you think would pick from column C for all of the above? All though J is biologically a male, he isn’t, really. I can’t understand why people judge this as right or wrong except that they really DON’T understand.
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NO NO NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I think America has lost all of its morals. Kids curse more than ever, even in the presence of thier parents. I do not know where America is headed, and so I will become an immigrant in another country, although I am American. Take a good look, and see how America is lagging behind most countries, today.
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How is that a connection with this story. Gays aren’t the reason our morals are slipping. These people are trying to parent and that’s a good thing. Maybe another country would be your best choice. When there are things there that you don’t agree with perhaps you’ll find even another country. And so it goes.
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As someone who has lived in several Western European countries, I’m curious as to what nations you think the U.S. lags behind? I’ll bet they are countries that practice more tolerance towards EVERYONE, including homosexuals.
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Dont be so ignorant you know , if the kid loves them he loves them
He will just have a better out look on things unlike you people who
Are judgeing them and more then likely know nothing but what you here … smh … I THINK ITS NICE HE HAD 3 PEOPLE WHO LOVE HIM WHO MAY BE GAY BUT HE WILL MORE THEN LIKELY BE SOMEONE IN THE WORLD LOVE EVRYONE HOW THEY ARE AND HAVE PARENTS WHO WIL SUPPORT HIM MATTER FACT HAVE 3 AND SOME PEOPLE HAVE NONE
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The above picture is the best I’ve ever seen this man look. It is a nice picture.
I am not sure, but one thing I know is that being gay is rarely a choice. I know there are those who are experimenting out here, but I believe that the majority are born this way so who am I to judge. It is certainly a variant as most people would be gay if it was to be considered the “norm” and the world would not be able to go on as we know it—i.e. reproduce the species naturally, but this is a varied world we live in and nature has so many different expressions…
Love and care are the most important things in regards to the kid.
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I was always taught that God made everything. I see animals that do not reproduce according to what we are taught is the usual way. I still believe that God is the creator of all, even things that some don’t like. I certainly have never believed that people “choose” to be gay. I can’t even begin to imagine falling in love or making love with someone who is my same sex. There is absolutely nothing about it that’s appealing to me; therefore, why would I believe that gay people just wake up one day and decide that they are going to be gay. But that’s just me.
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what is he gonna teach this boy?
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what the hell kinna question is that, maybe he’s gonna teach him love and respect. What the hell are you gonna teach your kid
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Dree, I agree wholeheartedly with you.
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i didnt mean it that way….i meant if i was a boy and you told me that “miss j” was my father, i wouldn’t know what to think…
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I doubt the boy will care because at least his “very gay father” is actually in his life and being there for his kid.
I’ll take an awesomely gay father over not having one at all ANY DAY!
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OH HELL NO!!!
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I WONDER.. HMMMM is HE going to be a real dad with permed hair or a mother? LOL
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Well Billy Dee Williams, and many other men and women have permed hair as well. What does mean?
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I bet that little boy can walk the hell out of a runway!
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What is so sick about it?? It seems he very much cares for Boris, and who can’t do with a bit more love? You people are silly.
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Amen!
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Amber, that’s your opinion and we have ours. Even people who aren’t gay are not always able to produce children, are they anti life? should they be cautioned against? …..and there are some who do create children that make us question why. People usually fear the unknown. But not to worry; there are plenty “Lil” Waynes out there to help keep things going for you. in this case, I find it most immoral to condemn those who do not conform to what we consider the “norm”. Remember, the “norm” is a taught behavior.
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It’s tough because I do believe that people are born gay, but I also believe that living a homosexual lifestyle is a sin. The Bible clearly says so. And Khrish, you can’t compare heterosexuals who cannot reproduce to gay people. Gay people cannot reproduce because it is unnatural and not what God intended. Some heterosexuals simply cannot reproduce because of health complications. I think that them having a kid was completely selfish, and thats just my opinion.
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Exactly. Also homosexuals are procreating. In fact more than you think! So I guess the whole “anti life” propaganda isn’t entirely correct.
But that makes people nervous because you know… “the gays” and children are [insert whatever].
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PlainMean, “natural” comes in a lot of different forms, and since you and I are not God, I repeat again that we have NO idea what nature’s intentions are. I believe that gay people and animals were MEANT to come out that way, in other words “natural”- God doesn’t make mistakes. You can sit and rationalize the context of what’s “natural” all you want, but until you can convince me that you yourself are the Creator, your arguments will fall on deaf ears. Whatever your definition of “nature” and “natural” is, works for YOU- stop judging and imposing it on others.
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i’m sorry, but what am i missing? how is he a father?
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What Miss J meant to say was he is this child’s Fairy Godmother not his daddy.
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Lol, Latifah! At least Ms. J is trying to be the “good fairy godmom/dad” by sharing the wealth and his time with a little boy!
Best wishes to him.
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Yes, you are so right. I would trade in my one straight dead beat daddy for two gay daddy’s in a second. But honey I just can’t help to think how odd it is to have three parents all of whom are gay.
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I think J is quite certain of his role in this child’s life. He said exactly what he meant; and I don’t remember him stuttering! You can learn more if you will take the time to listen to what is being said. You may not agree but you will have learned something that you did not know.
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He said that he and his partner both donated spearm to concieve the child.
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Actually what is most sickening are the majority of the comments in this thread/post. After all African Americans have gone thru, i.e. intolerance, I can’t believe what I am reading here. So many abandoned children languish in foster care that it’s tragic. If the homophobes spent more time adopting instead of judging maybe these children would be better off. Unbelievable!
Also didn’t y’all know that gay adults come from heterosexual (not gay) parents? Using this logic Miss J’s son will most likely turn out heterosexual (and well-loved) but your children might not!
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Sometimes I wish gay bashers would just go away. So many gay men (and women) still in the closet making life miserable for themselves and others because they don’t feel that they can be free to be themselves. Every one has a right to personal freedom and expression as long as they are not hurting anyone in the process.
How many women have married or been in committed relationships with closeted men and felt what was wrong with them?–when all along it was simply because they were not a man.How many suicides and depressive issues as the result of shame and/or feeling so conflicted with their identity and tackling non-acceptance by family, friends and society for who they are? I am surprised this is still such a big issue that needs addressing.
As long as the child is taken care of emotionally, physically and in all the ways he should be to feel loved and cared for…I am not a saint, I still have my own issues with acceptance of things I don’t fully understand but to not at least try to have an open mind and put away some of the judgments when an issue doesn’t directly harm or impact you..
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I agree totally with you. If we worked on ourselves and problems that we do understand, we would have a much better success rate. I wonder why so called “christians” don’t dwell as much on what the bible teaches them about divorce and promiscuity. There is way many more things talked about in their scriptures concerning these problems and they go a change the rules of the church to allow acceptance of people, even ministers, who live with these “sins”. Really, if we all work to be the best people we can be, we would not have much time to fight and rail against what others do. In the end, if there is another place, you are only going to be questioned about what YOU did or didn’t do.
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and to add, if this is such a terrible thing in the sight of God, why can’t they be content with allowing God to handle it?
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EXACTLY, THANK YOU!!! Shout that from the mountaintops, Khrish! I’ll repeat it again, because you said it so accurately: “and to add, if this is such a terrible thing in the sight of God, why can’t they be content with allowing God to handle it?”
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I’M SORRY BUT THIS GUY SCARES ME!!!!
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Do priests and teachers scare you, too? They have been proven to molest and rape boys undercover. Everybody knows where Miss J is coming from and I believe it is a good hearted place towards this little boy who he is already close to.
Are you also scared of Rosie O’Donell, a gay celebrity with kids? Or Ellen Degeneres who’s always cozy with kids on her talk show?
Is the fear attributable to Miss J being an African American male who is gay?
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you really shouldn’t be “scared” of J. It’s not like you will ever be able to associate with him.
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PLAINMEAN, There have been lots of evil done and lies told then blamed on God. It was God and passages in the Bible that were used to prove that slavery moral. Just remember that.
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Why do people insist on comparing race and sexual preference? Maybe people can’t choose their sexual preference, but gay people always have the option of being openly gay or not being openly gay. Most black people can’t keep their race a secret. You’re right, the bible was used to justify a lot of things including slavery. So take the bible out of it and just use biology and nature. Two men cannot create a life! Two women cannot create a life. The world continues to grow and thrive because men and women come together and reproduce, that’s a very simple FACT NOT OPINION. We weren’t meant to lay with people of the same sex. So what’s to argue about?
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But is love always about creating life? As I said before, some men and women can lie together and not be able to create a life; that doesn’t mean that they have been condemned. My argument is simple; live and let live.
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I didn’t in any way question his love, and the not being able to create life part isn’t what condemns them, its the sleeping with people of the same sex part that does that. And who’s stopping them from living? Just like you posted a comment on how they live, so did I; my comment just so happened to differ from yours!
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But you seem to want to comdemn them as they live. There in lies the difference.
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WOWWWW at all of these terrible comments. What does ones sexuality have to do with being a parent? As long as the child is loved, educated, and put out of harms way, what’s the problem??? Gay parents dont equal a gay child. Where they do that at? lol I wish people will stop bible quoting, etc. We all have hang ups. If alcoholics, sex offenders, killers, adulters, etc have kids, why can’t homosexuals???? Hmmmm I can’t believe the mindset of some of you. SMH
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I concur, one chooses to be gay also because somewhere throughout their formative and growing years they were socialized to be gay without conflict. When one grows and is raised in an environment where it is condoned, he or she identifies with the sexual life style they choose. Hope this is clear and I later do not have to clarify this because I will not. You figure it out.
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very good stuff =) definitely liked this article, i’ll read more in your blog after i’m done with work!
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