REAGAN GOMEZ TALKS ABOUT EXPANDING HER FAMILY
Actress Reagan Gomez shares her thoughts about expanding her family and the fears that come with those thoughts:
By Reagan Gomez, Vain Magazine
“Your daughter is adorable. Is number two on the way?” That’s probably the question I get asked the most and sometimes, by complete strangers. I get it. My husband and I have been married for 10 years, (yes, we were babies). We enjoyed seven years together before having out daughter, Scarlett (she’ll be three in May). Now, we’re enjoying our time with her—just the three of us. Yet, it seems that there’s some unwritten rule when it comes to having children.
“YOU DON’T WANT THEM TOO FAR APART IN AGE,” says the complete stranger.
Hmm, I don’t want them too far apart in age. Or do I? And what is your name, complete stranger?
Whoever thought that peer pressure ended in High School obviously hasn’t met all of the know-it-all moms and childless girlfriends of the world. The truth is, I (we) have thought about a second child. But the thought of going from one to two may be more terrifying than going from zero to one. See, we know what we’re in for. At least we like to pretend we do. It’s exhausting, expensive, draining, never ending and AWESOME.
To do this whole “Parent Thing” for another person, on top of the one we already have, makes us scared, [to death]. But, we were scared [to death] when we got married, purchased our first house, and when we had our first daughter but, we’re still here. After all, can you ever have enough money saved, or have a big enough house? Probably not. So why not take a leap of faith, and bring in the sibling. Or wait ’til we’re ready, whenever that is. In the meantime, we’re enjoying our party of three. We don’t want to go with the flow but make sure we’re able to pay the bill and leave a good tip when our party of three turns into a party of four; or five ’cause twins run in his family. Oh, let me not even put that energy out there!
Looking at my husband and daughter sitting comfortably on our couch, the craziest thing is happening. My brain is saying, ‘Too much calm, let’s shake it up a little.’ So, I say, ‘Honey, when are we going to have number two?’ I must be crazy. I must be insane. I must be a mom. I am, and I love it.
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she is so cute.she has 1 adorable little girl.
CUTE ANYWAY TAKE UR TIME AND DO WHAT MAKES U HAPPY REAGAN 1 CHILD OR NOT.
I am so feeling her. When I was close friends with my Husband in H.S people use to ask us all the time…When are you two going to start dating? Then when we begin dating our senior year people use to ask….Are you two going to get married? Then we got married after college and folks asked…..when are you guys going to start a family?….Then when we had our son after being married for five years they asked….When is Jr. going to get a little brother or sister? I am so sick of folks asking questions all the time. Can I just enjoy my family and be happy and let things happen when it is time to happen without feeling pressure?? I understand Reagan so much!!!!!
So gorgeous!!
A definite cutie.
soo soo sweet! you can tell she reaLLy LOVES being a mommy. and she is doing a great job on that. I think she shouLd take her time..and have another when SHE is ready…cuz if you’re really ready..then you shouLd have NO DOUBTs!
-i couLd see scarLet on a baby gap cover magazine. too adorabLe of her!
sooo adorable
People will always try to give you advice and at the end of the day you have to make the choice that you will be happy to live with. At least she is thinking things through and it sounds like she has a good head on her shoulders. Do what makes you and your family happy!!
ADORABLE as always!
I love her jacket. I think it may be from baby gap.
It’s from target. : )
Great article..it took me 6 years to decide if I wanted to have more children, thank God we did we were blessed with a true character, so full of life and engaging. We are now having our third and last child in 3 weeks..can we say “Party of Five”.
Scarlett certainly is beautiful. I wasn’t a fan of the article… I think she’s a sweetheart but her writing leaves much to be desired. I agree that deciding to have more children can be more frightening than deciding to have the first one. All that matters is that the parents are sure in their decision - forget what anyone else says!
Oh and it drives me nuts when people say that twins run in a man’s family. It doesn’t matter. The father has NO bearing on whether twins will be conceived. Only the mother does - ever, and even then only when it comes to fraternal twins.
I wish people would just butt out and let the couple deal with how and when they want to expand their family. If she’d rather not have two or more heavily dependent babies underfoot, that’s her and her husband’s choice - not yours.
Leo, you are on point again. I don’t know why people try to push babies off on someone when they, 1) don’t want one, or 2) are not ready for one. Some people don’t need to have babies to feel validated. She has one beautiful daughter, and I’m sure she’s grateful for that. When they are ready for more, I’m sure they’ll have more. Great point!
@ Leo - exactly.
My husband and I will celebrate our 3rd anniversary this June, and let me tell you, the “when are you gonna have kids” discussion is annoying as all hell. At this point we’re both in school, and not sure if we even want kids in the first place. When you don’t have kids people say “when are you gonna have kids”, “you’re getting older”, or “what’s the problem”. When you do have them and you’re struggling you get, “well you should have waited”, “you’re still young, you could have waited a bit longer”. Ugh.
Adorable kid! I really enjoy Reagan on The Cleveland Show.
Haha Cute expressions
She is so beautiful. I really enjoyed the interview. Girl, people are annoying as all heck even though they sometimes probably don’t mean any harm, but still let people navigate their own lives. It’s always these “rules.”
OMG, she is such a pretty little girl, that beautiful brown skin and soft hair. I think brown babies with big curls are the most gorgeous babies ever.
Reagan and her husband are smart to wait until they are ready and they may just be happy with only Scarlett - she is absolutely photogenic. She is really pretty.
scarlett is gorgeous!
Reagan and her hubby are great examples of what adults should do… not shack up and be baby mama and baby daddy