MASHONDA TO ALICIA KEYS: YOU ARE NOT MY SON’S “UMI”
Singer Mashonda is covering the new October issue of Sister 2 Sister Magazine. In the issue, the singer talks about her former husband Swizz Beatz(and their son Kasseem Jr.,3,), his pregnant wife Alicia Keys, and much more. Here is an excerpt from the issue:
On Swizz and Alicia’s affair:
S2S: Were you guys dating other people before he got with Alicia? Were you guys separated?
Mashonda: We were married. Sleeping in the [same bed] every night while he was seeing Alicia. Okay? It was an affair. 100 percent. I don’t know why people want to change that rule so much. We had just had a kid, for crying out loud. Our child was 8 months. I found out about Alicia two days before my son turned 1. They had been doing their thing for months before that.
On why she continues to speak about it if she’s moved on:
Mashonda: People ask me why am I still talking about this and why don’t I just leave it alone. I’m like, this is going to help somebody. My story is a universal thing. This is not just something that only happened to me: This happens to women every day. Mine was just ugly. If I can help the next woman get through and be positive, then I’m going to talk about it.
On Alicia Asking Kasseem Jr. to call her Mommy
S2S: You said that Alicia wanted your baby to call her “mommy”. How do you know that she said that?
Mashonda: My son told me.
S2S: And you told her that is not going to happen?
Mashonda: Yeah. I sent her an email and asked her to please respect what I am to him and it’s not right for her to think that is okay. She never replied. She doesn’t reply to me. She has never given me that respect.
S2S: What does Swizz say?
Mashonda: He said okay, he would stop it. He wouldn’t let her do it.
S2S: That would be kind of confusing for the child.
Mashonda: Oh, it is. It is so unfair to the child. I have been in contact with the little girls mother (the woman in England who has Swizz’s baby). She’s a young girl. She’s a spiritual girl. She apologized to me… I don’t even judge her. I can’t. She’s totally different than the other one. This other one knew. Alicia knew about me 100 percent. Swizz introduced me at prior events. They were signed to the same record company. She knew. And I emailed her and asked her to stop doing what she was doing and she disregarded me. Just like she disregarded me when I asked her to not have my son thinking it was okay to call her “umi.” You’re not his umi. You just met my son.”
S2S: “Umi” is like “mommy”?
Mashonda: “Umi” means “mommy” in Arabic. I’m like no. And then after I spoke to the lady in London, she told me that she tried to get her daughter to call her “umi” as well.
S2S: She’s met the lady in London?
Mashonda: Yes. I’m glad she’s having her own child now because now she will have someone to call her “umi”.
S2S: Wow.
Mashonda: Like, if you want to be a stepmother, that’s great. Be a
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Mashonda is full of B$ she knew swizz was a cheater. She is so mad at AK waht about the other women. The other women knew swizz was in a realtionships move on mashonda.
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I’m from a broken/blended family, and for a long time I didn’t no what to call my parents respective spouses, my father’s wife had asked my younger brother and I to call her mom, and sometimes we did and other times we called her by her first name. No one ever to ld us call me this, or call me that. I wish they had though because I always felt disrespectful calling that woman by her first name and I felt like I was belittling my own mother by calling her mom. To me “Umi” would have been an excellent compromise.
Also, I don’t think Mashonda is bitter, I think she wants revenge, and bad mouthing Alicia Keys is the way she thinks that she’ll get it. From what I’ve heard the only person she should be mad at is her ex-husband, who should be dubbed a professional cheater. And not to wish anything bad on anyone, but based on Swizz’s track record Alicia will be feeling the pain of being cheated on herself in the near future.
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WORD OF ADVICE!
Mashonda dnt give them (Keys & Swizz) the priviledge of knowing this still hurts you…..even tho it does.
You may cry ur eyes out @ night til ur pillow is soaked…but never let ‘em know.
Put on a happy face like all is well…
This public bashing is probably making Keys put her nose farther in the air like “yeah b*tch I got ur man & u still mad”
They’re living their life…all smile in photo ops & sh*t.
“F” em both up against a wall with Crazy Glue on their lips
LAST WORD OF ADVICE!
Homegirl go in to court have child support modified… cause ex-husband’s new wife is PAID$$$ & laugh all the way to the bank.
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i agree i agree i agree
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come on lets grow up it happened move on THANK GOD FOR THE BLESSING u got out of the relationship (your son) baby your not gonna be the last woman this happens to stop tryna hurt swizz & move on because apparently he has. LOVE LIFE
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I agree she got every right to be bitter, but don’t let them know how bitter you are. She’s a piece IMO she can do better than SwizzBeats weasel lookin as…um self.
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At some point of a woman being cheated on and cheated on and cheated on and cheated on AND CHEATED ON she has to start putting the blame on A) her CHEATING significant other and B) herself for accepting the behavior. She knew who he was and instead of addressing the issue where is should be address, her husband, she addressed the other woman, as if she has any responsiblity to her. She chose to stay so don’t be mad because THIS TIME he chose to leave. She KNEW WHO HE WAS SHE SHOULD HAVE SEEN IT COMING … I mean all she had to do was follow the trail of babies, really.
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I also agree that Mashonda is entitled to her feelings,but she is not expressing those feelings the right way.Instead of publicly venting her feelings,she needs to sit down with a therapist and vent her feelings privately.The therapist can help her deal with her feelings in a more healthy way,and hopefully she can get closure.She can also write down her thoughts and feelings in journals.And as I said before,if there are any more parenting issues that come up,then she needs to address them privately with Swizz,either over the phone or in person.
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This is an old story only the names have changed. People often hold anger, resentment and jealousy in their hearts long after the marriage over.
Children know who their parents are. They have good instincts about their DadLs or Mom`s new spouse. It isn`t uncommon for a child to take easily to an adult they just meet.
However, adults often start or cause drama and problem where there none. Loneliness and insecirity and anger cause people to react poorly. As a result, the child always sufffers.
If we could all relax and let our children be happy enjoying their childhood without our hang ups, we would have healthy happy children.
I recommend therapy for the adults.
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THIS CHIC IS SO SILLY AND JEALOUS. WHY DO ALICA NEED HER KID TO CALL HER UMI WHEN SHE IS HAVING HER OWN BABY? IF ALICIA WAS MESSING WITH UR MAN AND U WAS MARRIED TO HIM……..WHAT ABOUT THE RUSSIAN CHIC? HER KID IS ONLY 2YRS OLD. GUESS THAT WAS OK BECAUSE HE DIDN’T WANT THE RUSSIAN CHIC LIKE HE WANTED ALICIA, LOL. MASHONDA MOVE ON AND STOP BEING BITTER, IT ISN’T GOOD FOR UR CHILD. OF ALL PEOPLE TO TALK, MASHONDA SHOULD BE THE LAST. TELLING MEDIA SOME MORNINGS SHE CANT LOOK AT HER CHILD BECAUSE HE LOOKS SO MUCH LIKE SWIZZ. NOW HOW SELFISH AND DUMB IS THAT?
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It’s funny how we say these things about Mashonda, yet when this happens to Alicia, which we know it will, I wonder how many people will support Alicia if SHE decides to mouth off on the “other woman.” I think it’s about time for women to support women when this situation happens. Mashonda has a right to be upset, as would any person, the fact that she is telling the media about it…let’s be real the magazine was fishing for this to come out…their line of questions is designed to make her upset..they are all about juicy gossip. If you take this same questioning and apply to say a conversation with her girlfriends it would be the same if not worse. What was she supposed to say when they asked her she felt about Alicia asking her son to call her “UMI” she replied the way she really truly felt…and for that I don’t blame her. Now..should she direct her anger towards the father…maybe, but she knew going into this relationship what kind of man he was so she should have expected this. Yes the man in this situation is the one to blame, but sometimes I wonder who these women are who fall for these painstakenly obvious cheaters…and then out pops a woman who’s music I admired for a long time…Alicia Keys. To Alicia, I have lost all admiration of you as a strong independent woman. It’s one thing to date a man when he’s single and you don’t know he is a cheater, but a man who is Marrieda and is an obvious cheater!!! come on! really?
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AaaaaaaaaMen!!!
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Mashonda,
I know it may be hard for you but Swiss is a married man now. He divorced you and married Alicia. You are officially irrelevant to both of them. Just because you still have a pawn (his son) doesn’t give you the right to bash Alicia. Your ex was just as wrong as she was but he took the vows she didn’t. Like you said it happens to women every day and it is going to continue to happen so move on. Alicia is too loved for you to make her look bad. You are making yourself look like a sore loser. Find a man that is going to treat you right and raise your son.
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Thank you!! I totally agree with you. Mashonda is very bitter and shes upset b/c she was a noname before she got with Swizz and she’s still a noname. Nobody cares sweety. It happened so build from it and move on, they have.
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i agree that Mashonda should stop commenting on the situation publicly but i disagree with you about Alicia Keys. she is a tramp, let’s keep it real. she was having an affair with a married man. and until you have been married you can’t judge her. Swizz beats and A keys and their baby will be the ones who will eventually receive karma. so its agreed that Mashonda should let God handle His business, but BEST believe, A Keys will have done to her what Swizz has been doing forever as evidenced by his illegitimate children..
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I don’t blame Mashonda for her reaction. Although it seems to be bitterness and revenge, I see it from a different perspective. This is simply a necessary part of her hustle to get her career on track. Mashonda obviously put her career on hold that was flourishing before Swizz Beats. Since she is left to create the life that she expected after helping him build his career..You Go Girl!
From a personal standpoint, something like this would be devastating to me and my entire family. It is easy to say move on when you are not going through it. Keep your head up Mashonda and make that money girl. Alicia benefits from this situation emotionally and economically while Mashonda is supposed to go broke…I don’t think so!
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Don’t worry Alicia will get hers!
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This woman will do and say anything to make people feel sorry for her Swiss been left her ass ans anit tryna mess wit her so drop it i dont believe anything that is coming outta her mouth she jus mad cus her carrer anittook off and jealous of there happinessi mean if a man stayed wit u that long and u knew he was cheatin y would to stay wit him dont use that child as ur excuse come on now ugh she make me wanna throw up
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I think Mashonda is going to have a nervous breakdown if she doesn’t redirect her attention to other matters. This would be a great time to come out with some new songs that people will actually buy. Use the publicity to your advantage.
Mashonda’s marriage was long done before Alicia even came into the picture. He had another child during their marriage…it was only a matter of time before he did it again. She stayed. I guess now it’s such a big deal because it’s Alicia Keys…but she was okay with the cheating as long as it was a no name unfamous person. Go figure that one.
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Mashonda is on the brink of a psychotic break, she is very inconsistent in her actions and the things that she has said. I understand that these are gossip blogs but this is no joking matter. Mashonda displays signs of a woman on the verge of a complete breakdown; she is displaying signs of being delusional, obsessive and manic. At this point in her healing process she should have accepted the situation and trying to find a peaceful space but she is still at apoint where she is trying to figure out what went wrong, she probably obsesses over this several times daily, she accepts absolutely no responsibility for the marriage ending or for getting into the marriage in the first place and she has zoned in on one individuals although it is clear that others were involved, she is probably obsessing when the child is wit them, does he like her more? Are they talking about me? What are they doing? she has a lot of pent up hostility and one of the main triggers is AK refusal to get in the mud with her. Notice she said she does not respond to me, she has never given me that respect, she craves acknowledgment and respect from AK and it is pushing her over the edge that she is not getting it, this is very serious. If you are a fan of hers or simply care, please reach out to her and ask her to seek help, to seek therapy. It is not good to encourage this behavior or to cheer her on in this; she is on a slippery slope. If you think for one minute that this is a joke just look up Betty Broderick!!!
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Very well said Sylvia. I believe she needs to be in therapy. If she continues down that path, when AK has the baby, she’s going to snap. That is something I do not want to see happen to her for no man is worth that.
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I just can’t help laughing while reading this – this is a hot mess right here…LOL!
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IF I WAS MASHONDA I WOULD BE UPSET TOO! ALL YALL TALKIN MESS BOUT SHE IS BITTER…WELL DUHHHHH!!! SHE HAS EVERY RIGHT TO BE! WHEN U GETMARRIED U DONT LOOK FORWARD TO UR HUSBAND CHEATING ON YOU OR GETTING A DIVORCE! UH HELLLLOOOO TO ALL THE REAL WOMEN–U KNOW U WOULD FEEL THE VERY SAME WAY SHE DOES SOOO STOP TALKING MESS!
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Mashonda.If u really care about ur son first.U should stop talking about it.
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Mashonda is justified in being upset about Swizz’s indiscretions during their marriage,and any other issues that caused the breakup of their marriage.But as far as this issue of what title or name her son should call Alicia by,I think she totally overreacted.It was unnecessary for her to go public about what her son told her,and the subsequent emails she sent to Alicia.Kasseem Jr. wouldn’t be confused at all.He knows who his real,biological mother is.
From birth,children know their mother’s scent,her voice,her face,her smile,and so on.When my mother was alive,she had a distinctive cough and a distinctive sneeze.If we got separated and were on opposite sides of a supermarket,I would hear her cough or sneeze and know it was her,and it would lead me straight to her.So,while Mashonda is entitled to her feelings,she shouldn’t get so preoccupied about this.It’s like the title of the bestselling book says: Don’t sweat the small stuff.She should not get so worked up about every little co-parenting/blended family issue that arises.Plus,if Mashonda keeps getting so uptight about Kasseem Jr’s interactions with Alicia,he is going to see it and sense it.Children are very smart,and they pick up on these things.So she needs to be more discreet and careful about how she handles these things from now on.No matter what name Kasseem Jr. calls Alicia by,he will always know who his real mother is.
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Im gonna have to disagree with your statement about children knowing their mothers scent from birth. I understand that their mother will smell a certain way but they wont recognize the scent until they get older. Thats why so many children who are adpoted dont know thay are adpoted until someone tells them.
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You must not be a mother because that is 100% true….Babies do know their mothers scent! The scent actually soothes them….They make baby toys that picks up the scent so that if the mother isn’t around it’s still soothing…As a mother of two I know that is a fact! My daughter is 4 months and my scent calms her down when i’m not around(with a bear thats sold at BabiesRUs, that serves that exact purpose)… As far as the adoption thing goes when a babies is away from it’s mother for a long period of time it loses it’s scent, the same thing happens to animals…
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Until I read up on this in some scientific manual, I’ll take that as conjecture… and I dislike the idea of human beings being compared to animals… I am not an animal and neither are my children.
As for Mashonda, a married woman who was deeply in love with her husband and also unaware of his outside moves…I think she has every right to be heartbroken and say her piece. Some people just like to talk and talk and talk about their issues until it fades away. Some can keep it in, I say do whatever will help you move on. The whole situation is still very raw with her and I can totally relate. I don’t care how many times she talks about it, it hurts any which way you look at it.
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ALICIA IS WRONG FOR THAT.
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A. Keys is a homewreaker!!!! But she better beware cuz karma is a B@&$H!!!!
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@ THEYKNOW WHEN SWIZZ AND MASHONDA GOT TOGETHER HE WASNT FAMOUS EITHER ..YOU SOUND REAL DUMB,, GET YOUR fACTS RIGHT…..
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THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THE LADY IN RUSSIA AND AK IS ONE KNEW HE WAS MARRIED AND THE OTHER ONE DIDNT,, I WOULD BE PISSED AT AK TO…..
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I disagree, the russian chick is an aspiring singer also. If it was 10yrs ago I would ssy ok you have a point, but it was just 2yrs ago. That girl knew who swizz was and she probably knew he was married. All you gotta do is google him and its all their in small black letters. Everyone knew about the situation and everyone acted reckless as hell. I’m glad no one had any diseases to share while they were sharing beds.
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With all this talking and bashing. I hope she doesn’t end up like Dawayne Wade’s wife and lose custody of Jr.
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all i have to say is this: Mashonda, time to stop talking about those two, God will judge him and her in the end and the sins of the father will be bestowed upon Alicia keys and the Russian chicks kids because they are products of affairs during a marriage unfortunately, that’s what it says in the Bible. I understand and empathize with Mashonda but you only hurt yourself by continuing to speak publicly about the situation. Mashonda appears to be a good person and her focus should remain upon her son. i KNOW it’s a hard pill to swallow when your husband cheats and subsequently inpregnates and THEN marries the Harlot, but hey, like i said THEY and that child will deal with the consequences. i hope that Mashonda continues therapy in order to forgive so she can release herself from their mess and GOD will bless her with the man that HE has made for her no doubt. many blessings from one ex-wife to another…
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Some of you have NO feelings . She’s biter ? She has every right to be . It’s not about her being a ” no name ” how ignorant of you . It is about respect , something Alicia clearly does not have . Especially to ask her child to call her his mother . Is she crazy ? I hope Alicia gets hers . . karma is a b***h !!!!
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I think Mashonda has every right to be upset that Alicia would ask her son to call her “mommy”, “umi”, whatever!
Alicia’s not his mom. Why would she ask him to call her that?
Yes, a lot of you said that children know who their mother is but that doesn’t mean you tell a child that you’re their mom. Alicia could choose to ask for him to call her by any other name. Maybe even a foreign name for mom, like “umi” but not umi or mom.
I do agree with most of you though. I do think it’s possible that the media isn’t helping for her to move on, because they’re the ones asking her these questions in the first place but she gets so detailed.
Like someone said before, Alicia and Swizz are out enjoying themselves. Swizz has moved on. You don’t need to stress yourself wondering about every little thing he’s doing.
More than likely, he’s going to do the same terrible things to Alicia and that would be HORRIBLE. But, are any of you GOING TO TELL ALICIA “YOU SHOULD HAVE SAW IT COMING??” I mean, Alicia’s had a blueprint laid for her the whole time. She got her cheater!
Good he spends time with his kids though.
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I really don’t understand. I mean, the media would continuously attack Michael Jackson for something they had no proof over but they’d readily accept Alicia when it’s been photographed that and said that Alicia was with Swizz WHILE he was STILL married to his wife!
And for all of you people saying “Mashonda stayed, she should have left him”
Did you stop to think that maybe Mashonda was trying to go by the bible, and was trying to work through her marriage?
I don’t think everyone wants to just divorce after one affair. It’s terrible, but marriage is a vow.
It’s understandable why some would want to get divorced, but then it’s also understandable why some would want to stick it out!
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Mashonda WANTS to be over it… but c’mon how can she.. Its in a her damn face every day.. If they were married and just tucked away in a mountain ..maybe then she could heal… but who the hell are we to tell her to get over it? She can go find another man duh! But can she love him? If this is how she has to heal im all for it. What I don’t agree with is Alicia’s contact with her child .. If they can not be adults and get along I… myself would be concerned with the interaction with stepmom and step child.. Not that im saying A.Keys is hurting him..I don’t believe that at all.. But I do believe she had the young one calling her “umi”.. And to the first commenter… sweety 3 y/os speak very well now a days.. They know their business plus their parents. If a 3Y/o knows what gay means they can remember someone saying call me “umi” or mommy.
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I disagree- if she really wanted to be over it, she’d be working on letting it go… not talking to every media outlet that will listen.
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this sounds like a bunch if bullll!!!!
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Some posters have wished bad things on Alicia and her unborn child, and that’s just wrong.Alicia is not a bad person,and neither is Swizz. They are human,and sometimes humans make bad or questionable choices.Neither they nor Mashonda can undo everything that has already happened.What’s done is done.What matters now is how all three of them handle things from this point on.They need to make better decisions from now on because their actions will affect the children.
I’m not married,so I don’t know what it’s like from that side of things.But I was a child of divorce,so that’s the perspective I’m coming from.My parents split up when I was a toddler,so I was too young to remember it.Luckily,my parents kept things amicable,and I had regular visitation with my father.My mother sheltered me from a lot of things too.Because my parents handled things the way they did,I had a normal,carefree childhood.I was happy and I felt secure.
And now I am a well adjusted adult.
I am not taking any of the adults side in this matter,because all three of them know better,and they are the ones who have control over whether this situation gets better or worse.I am on the children’s side,and I want what’s best for them.Mashonda is understandably upset about what Swizz has put her through.But no matter how hurt she is,she has to put her son’s happiness first.Not only that,but she has to think about how her going public will affect Prince Nasir.He is nine,and kids his age are already online surfing the web.When he goes to school,some of his classmates are probably questioning him and/or teasing him about this.Mashonda obviously hasn’t taken that into consideration.In that respect,she is being very selfish,and she is letting her emotions cloud her judgement.
I wish only the best for everyone involved.I hope that the adults get their act together and do the right thing,so that the children will not be traumatized and scarred for life.I hope that the adults will make the best of this complex situation,so that Nasir,Kasseem Jr.,the two year old daughter in England,and Alicia’s unborn baby can have as normal and happy a childhood as possible.
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Mashonda, take a page from Sandra Bullock’s book and move on, get help and stop talking about this. And please leave your son out of the public “soap-opera” mess call This marrige been over already for along time.
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I totally agre with datruth, but you know what pay-back is a “mother”.
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actually Alicia Keys messing with a married man has ruined her image for me, iono, not that I thought she was a saint or anything it’s just, not something i thought she would do. Whats funny is i could care less about Fantasia messing with a married man, I’m still a fan of hers. I just cant look at A. Keys the same way no more. By the way Aint is not a word and anit definitely isnt one @the annoying A Keys lover whose name i refuse to scroll up and read
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And I absolutely hate people use being human as an excuse for doing wrong. There are lots of humans in this world and yes we do make mistakes but we need to correct those mistakes or we’re going to mistake our way straight to hell.Swizz Beats is apparently a cheater. Thats not a mistake thats hoish behavior on his part and there are a lot of reasons to stop hoish behavior. Alicia Keys was messing around with a married man SHE WAS DEAD WRONG! She then married that same man…nobody is wishing any ill on her those with sense are just wondering what the hell makes her think he wont do the same to her. They both need to be held accountable for their “human mistakes”. Which is not the same as not forgiving and forgetting. But I think alot of times people use their humaly flaws as an excuse for doing wrong without aknowledging your adulty duty to control and discipline yourself. Also if youre not happy youre not going to try to make your child happy. i encourage every person out their to seek true happiness for yourselves and guarantee you your childs happiness will soon follow.
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I’m not making any excuses for Swizz,Mashonda,or Alicia.All three of them can correct the situation by making better decisions in the future.I agree that Swizz needs to stop bouncing from woman to woman because he needs to set a better example for his sons.
Hopefully Swizz is finished sowing his wild oats and he has gotten it out of his system.He also needs to be a real man and take control of this situation,which he created,and discuss these family matters with her privately,and insist that she do the same from now on.Swizz needs to stick up for his new wife Alicia,and tell Mashonda to stop harassing her.She already spoke to Alicia face to face few months ago.He must insist that she bring her concerns and grievances to him and him only from now on.Swizz created this situation,so he should bear the brunt of it.Let him deal with Mashonda.
Mashonda needs to stop publicizing everything that happens between the three of them within their new blended family.Lashing out publicly like this is inappropriate.I strongly disagree with a parent making their child wallow in their unhappiness with them.A parent is supposed to protect their child,not let their child suffer. Once you have children it’s not all about you.You have to put their needs ahead of your own,and that’s all there is to it.It’s wrong and unfair for Mashonda to make Kasseem Jr. a captive guest at her pity party.It’s hard to have respect for a man who goes in and out of relationships like that,and then has a bunch of kids by different women,and seems to have no shame about it.But I have even less respect for the scorned parent who not only lets their anger and resentment consume them,but also allows it to consume their children.
Alicia should continue to keep quiet because the more celebrities go public with their personal problems,the more criticism they invite, and they will only make the situation worse.I’m pretty sure Alicia did not intend any disrespect toward Mashonda when she asked Kasseem Jr. to call her “umi”.She is not trying to take Mashonda’s place.Alicia will have her own role in Kasseem Jr’s life as his stepmother.She and Swizz were obviously just trying to figure out a title for him to call her by,and Mashonda took it more personally than she should have.But if Mashonda is really not comfortable with it,then maybe he can call Alicia “auntie” or something like that instead.
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You see I would probably agree that A. Keys meant no disrespect to Mashonda except she slept with the womans husband, she’s already proven she’s capable of blatant disrespect. And again I disagree, there’s no way in the world you can meet the needs of a child without first meeting your own needs. It’s not selfishness on the part of the parent IMO it’s just the way things work, you see it all the time in foster kids, the parents can’t take care of the children because the parents need to work on themselves first. I agree Mashonda seems angry, I hate the word bitter in situations such as this, and really needs to find something else to focus on. But a lot of times women, especially black women, are expected to be superwoman. Were supposed to take care of our children, overcome all the bs men create in our lives, the selflessness people expect from us is unreasonable. Nobody is ever their to encourage us, people act like were bad for complaining about sh*t that really should be complained about, so many black women go through mental anguish over stuff like this and just have nowhere to turn. Because the only thing anybody can find to say to us is move on, get over it, think about your son, sometomes just a little sympathy goes a long way. I also agree Swizz is the other parent to her child she needs to work things out with him and HE needs to act as mediator and tell Alicia that’s not cool. Your are Ms. Alicia to my son. I personally don’t think I would react the way Mashonda did, however if she is uncomfortable with her son calling A. Keys Umi, then Alicia needs to respect that.
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I’m not trying to be insensitive.I don’t like to see anyone in pain.I don’t have a problem with Mashonda’s need to vent.We all need to vent sometimes,especially when we’re going through a crisis.What I have a problem with is her doing it publicly.All these reporters want is to get the story because that is their job.They’re not interested in helping Mashonda heal.It’s just like Mel Gibson’s wife releasing those tapes to the media instead of taking them straight to the police and the judge.If she is really terrified of Mel and she fears for hers and her child’s safety,Radaronline can’t save her and protect her.Only law enforcement can help her.
As for Mashonda,she should do her venting privately with a therapist,her spiritual advisor,or family and friends who she confides in.I’m not as upset with Alicia because she is not like those random groupies that mess around with athletes and politicians.Alicia has successful careers in music and acting,and she is financially independent.She already has everything,so she can’t possibly have any ulterior motives.On the other hand,the random groupies sleep with the athletes and politicians,and then they have the nerve to do interviews and press conferences and badmouth the athletes and politicians wives.That to me is more disrespectful and indecent than anything.That’s why I’m glad Alicia is keeping a low profile and not saying anything publicly.It would only add fuel to the fire and make things worse.But we both agree that Swizz is the one who should take the heat and take responsibility for this,and he needs to handle these matters.
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I dont think Alicia Keys is any better than the groupies, she slept with a married man just like they do but because she has money she’s somehow different? All the more reason for her to have sought a successful unmarried man. She had plenty going for her she did not need Swizzy for anything. I think the reason Mel’s wife and Mashonda went to the media was for revenge plain and simple and honestly Mashonda exposed Alicia Keys in a way and Mel’s wife painted a pretty horrible picture of him, that what was they set out to do. I’m sure in due time Mashonda will find something else to preoccupy her mind.
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Getting revenge will make Mashonda feel better in the short term,but it will hurt her son and Swizz’s other children in the long term.So I really hope that Mashonda does find something else to occupy herself with,and find a positive way to channel her emotions soon.And I don’t see Alicia as being better than the groupies because she has more money.I say she is better than the groupies as far as not publicizing her private life the way they do.I think age and maturity has a lot to do with it.These groupies are in their 20′s and probably have low self-esteem,and they had nothing going for them before they got involved with these famous men.Alicia is 30,and she is way past all that petty attention seeking behavior.Even when she was in her 20′s she didn’t discuss her private life.Plus she has a lot going for her,and you’re right,she doesn’t need Swizz.
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I think Mashonda needs to Pray & ask God to bring some closure in her heart because He is the only one who can ease her broken heart.
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Mashonda had problems long before she met Swizz.According to her VIBE interview,she was mistreated and violated by other men in the music industry before she met Swizz,and I’m sure that left her traumatized.So she already had issues when she and Swizz got married.Those issues from her past are probably unresolved as well. Swizz’s past indiscretions early on in their marriage,and the way he ended it and began his new relationship with Alicia certainly didn’t help either.So I would say that about 70 or 80 percent of her anger has nothing to do with Alicia.
Mashonda is probably angry at herself as well for getting involved with another man in the industry,trusting him and thinking he would be different than the others.Then he disappointed her by taking advantage of her just like the others did.And now she is lashing out,which is what people do when they’re traumatized,and she is directing her hostility at Alicia.That’s why I agree with the posters who said that Mashonda needs to be in therapy.Spirituality is very helpful in the healing process also.Instead of seeking more publicity, she needs to stay out of the public eye for awhile,and do some intensive therapy so that she can everything off her chest and out of her system.Then she will get closure,and she will be able to regain stability in her life.That will benefit her,her son,and the other children involved so much more.
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I hate to go there but half of you silly women on here talking bad about Mashonda would’ve caught a case had your husband and his side-piece done you like Swizz and Alicia’s trifling selves did her. Mashonda was trying to be a loyal wife to an unfaithful man who turned out to be a liar and a betrayer. Everyone on this website knows of a man who cheated but loved his wife and eventually got his mess together. Mashonda was praying that’s who she had but unfortunately it didn’t go like that. That doesn’t make her in the wrong. Now, staying with my husband once you know I’m still with him? That is DEAD WRONG. Mashonda is a lady and she will be fine. But Lord have mercy on Swizz and Alicia because what goes around surely will come back around. You chicks need to get your minds right and stop talking like Alicia Keys groupies. I’m not a fan of any of them, but wrong is wrong. And trying to have Mashonda’s son call her Umi? How about showing his actual mother some respect first?
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mark ,i will be back see again
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