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What would you do if your five-year-old son wanted to wear dresses? Would you give in to his wishes or would you do everything in your power to dissuade him?

Here is one mom’s tale:

Three years ago, when her son Dyson was 2, Cheryl Kilodavis arrived at preschool pickup to find him wearing a red sequined dress and pink heels. Embarrassed, she offered to stock the dress-up bin with more boys’ outfits-karate togs and band uniforms-”to give him other choices.” But the next day he greeted her twirling in a yellow dress. “I had this frozen smile on my face,” recalls Kilodavis, 40, a marketing strategist in Seattle. “I didn’t want his spirit crushed, but I had this mama-bear protectiveness.”

It took her a while to embrace her son’s needs. “I felt this kind of expression from a 2-year-old was a big deal,” Cheryl says. But she and her husband, Dean, talked and agreed to let Dyson dress how he liked. “It was an easy decision,” says Dean, 41, a loan officer. “Is he hurting anybody? No. Then I support him.” Dyson also often wore jeans and played with trucks. But when dressing up, “he turned into this bundle of light and joy,” Cheryl says.

After a year and a half, his parents got used to his penchant for sparkles, but to help other kids accept him, Cheryl decided to write a children’s story. She called her self-published book My Princess Boy-which is what Dyson calls himself. She shared it at the Evergreen School, which he attends. Vice principal Teri Clifford loved it and put copies in the classes. Though Dyson faced some teasing, he coped well. Says his mom: “He says, ‘If they laugh at me, they’re not my friends.’ ((Source)

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  2. I think the parents should have talked to a specialist first. to understand where it’s coming from. it might be something he heard or saw. then after that if his reasons were valid and he showed no confusion… they could have gone on to dress him like he wants. at 2 some kids start stealing and the parents should explain why it’s bad/inappropriate. Because at two kids have very little stored information. they are still growing up! someone needs to guide them always respecting their personal orientation. this is also confusing to other kids… and when he will have siblings what is going to happen?

  3. I know I wouldn’t be pimping him out in the media, especially knowing how the rest of the world will treat him. You don’t need to have a Masters degree to know that the world is harsh on boys who act and dress even a LITTLE bit feminine. Writing the book is one thing, but putting her son out like this? He’s 5, a little child! She may as well have tattooed a bull’s eye on his forehead and said, “Have at it, crazies!”.

    I’ve read blogs from parents with similar boys, and they protect their children’s identities while talking about their experience raising sons who want to dress like girls. Why couldn’t they have published their book WITHOUT making their son into a trick pony poppy show for the media? THAT’S what ticks me off the most about this.

  4. First of all, a 5 year old doesn’t pay any dag gone bills in my house. I don’t have to accept anything, he accept my rules. Why in the heck is she writing a book? I don’t want no child or grandchild of mines reading or learning that crap. This mess is just getting out of hand. She wouldn’t think it was so cute if a pervert got a hold of him. It turns my stomach even more because this is what they do in some arab countries. They dress boys from ages 8-19 as girls, teach them to dance and prostitute them out. I was so shocked reading some of this stuff. It is so much disturbing stuff going on in this world involving kids. It’s just sickening, sickening, sickening. I hope none of you buy this book or even think about giving into this crazy crap. It’s wrong, immoral and just plain crazy.

  5. I couldn’t see me being okay with this on any level. He’d just have to wait unitl he’s old enough to support himself and buy his own clothes to express that side of himself. I’d love him the same, of course, but WOW…

  6. wow! did no one notice that they named their child after a vacuum?

    aaaanyways…. its just not right is it, no way could my son do this an NO WAY would i take him on the tv!

  7. I would love my child unconditionally, my parents rejected my oldest brother because he acted like a “sissy” and he killed himself. IMO a feminine son is preferable to a “dead” son

  8. he is a handsome young boy.i agree i think his mom is using the fact that he want to wear girl clothes to write a book and get paid in the process.i think she want the best for her son but this is wrong like the other young lady said” what if he want to become the president”he will never be able to live it down.i dont think she thought about his future at all.i dont think i will have children because my child would be messed up.i would never let my son wear dresses are a tutu.at the same time kids need to let other kids be themselves.the reason why kids commit suicide is because of other kids making fun of them and bullying them.thats what the problem is kids bullying other kids.let people be themselves.parents need to tell their kids its wrong to bully other kids. that start at home.that is all.

    • Plain Mean I don’t want to comment on anything about this article too much of a hot topic, but I did want to respond to your comment about “kids can be cruel” and the rest. Your right bullies have been around forever and they aren’t going anywhere BUT bullies don’t get a pass just because people like them have been around forever and YES people can disagree with what someone is wearing BUT NO THEY DON’T have the right to say anything cruel just because someone is dressed in a way that they don’t approve or agree with. Anyway, I can tell you bullies aren’t what they were when you were younger and even me (I’m 17) they aren’t the same as when I was younger. There was something childish about the “nah nah na boo boo’s you’re fat, I don’t like your shoes, you’re dirty, your mother’s this that or the other”. But now there’s an adult-like if not adult spite and dare I say evil and conviction in the eyes of kids and young adults these days. They go to the ends of the earth to make other kids lives hell. They follow them around beat them to death, they go on the internet and spread rumors, email them about how they’re everything but a child of god, and make them feel worthless. IDK if I can really even type the words to convey how serious these situations can get, how some kids can feel like there’s no escape. And last Words hurt something terrible. Bones can heal, if not you can get a prosthetic. Self Esteem, confidence, self worth, those things can sometimes never be restored. Adults, I don’t care when you were born or how you were raised, can throw that saying away.

      • I agree, bullying is a bad thing, however, in this situation with the boy all over the media, I would worry more about boy loving pedophiles being attracted to him and hunting him down to do some harm to him. Why expose a child to the risk?

        It’s not worth it just to say you have a book published.

      • You’re right! I’ve been bullied and I’ve been a bully. The only thing that has changed is technology, social networks, etc. And that is a big change. The point is, bullies aren’t going anywhere. As a parent, IMO, you have a responsibility to raise a decent being who doesn’t put people down because they’re different, BUT you should also raise a kid who has enough self-confidence to know that people will pick and tease, but you’re great the way you are. This kid’s mom may have had good intentions, but she’s also making him a huge target. I can’t say whether she’s right or wrong and there’s no blueprint for perfect parenting. I’m not defending bullies at all, i’m just saying that bullies will be bullies and maybe sending your little boy to school in a tutu isn’t the best thing…

  9. “…but if that is how my child feels then what can i do about it.”

    Well, I think the first thing I would do as a parent is sit down and talk to him. Feelings, in my opinion, have nothing to do with it. We feel a lot of things. Sometimes I feel like eating a pint of ice cream, but my body will pay the price for it later. My child may feel link going outside naked, but I won’t sit there and let him do it, so we as parents have to have boundaries. That’s what scares me. Our children are growing up in a world that has no boundaries. It’s an “everything go, let’s be tolerant” society, and I think some are raising children that will grow up and not know how to cope because parents don’t have limits. It’s very scary to me, and it’s more scary what some adults will put up with. JMO.

    • Terri, I could not agree more. I must say that while I understand wanting to support your kids. While I know that we are all different and some kids have certain likes and dislikes that people may or may not disagree with. You have to be there for your kid regardless. I would feel a lot different about this if it was just the mom going on tv and talking about her inspiration for writing the book, the book itself, and what not. However why drag the kid into it? She went so far as to say his name is not in the book and there are no faces but with you bringing him on tv does that really matter? If his name was in the book without a face to put to it that would have been better the having him on national tv. I think she is exploiting her kid and using a guise of concern for his welfare to sell her book.

  10. I love the fact that this article is making people so uncomfortable! Lol.
    Its about time that we stop acting like differences don’t exist.
    I bet you if these parents stop this little boy from dressing the way he does he’ll find a way to hide in the closet (no pun intended)and dress up for his own enjoyment.
    At the end of the day we force the whole boys do this and girls do that rule upon children and the fact is that not all of our little girls love wearing those big frills and barrettes and not all boys love trucks cars and dirt. Go figure.

    Much love everyone.

  11. Everyone parents different so I don’t feel you have better parenting skills because you are against and would not allow your son to dress like a girl anymore than a parent who chooses to embrace and allow their son to dress like a girl.

    Would I allow my son to dress like a girl? Absolutely not. Would I still love and support my son if he came to me and told me he were gay? Absolutely.

      • I love my children so much so yes I would love and support my “grown” son being a cross-dresser. I mean it’s not as if I were supporting him doing something illegal or harming others like raping, selling drugs, killing, robbing, molesting etc…

  12. If adults on the web have called Willow a “freak” and “weirdo” among other thinks what go you think kids are going call her and Lady Gaga wear outfits that are costumes that are part of her image and but people still say the same about her. Just like if a child wore a Halloween costume to school when it not Halloween that child is going to be pick on all the same.

  13. I am all for being a free spirit…but even there is a line…yes their son is not hurting anyone but the mom and dad are definitely hurting their son by being on news putting him out there and writing a book about it. Look how he is centre of attention now…attention that was not necessary…let him dress like a girl but why you gotta show the whole damn world?

    If he were ever to read all these comments…have they thought of how he would feel?

    They are selfish and clearly motivated by money…and I hope their son does not grow up to resent them.

  14. I’m sorry but if I had a son, I would NOT encourage this behavior. There is a reason God made males and females different. Boys should not dress like girls; girls should not dress like boys. Personally, I think the little boy might be engaging in this behavior to get his parents’ attention. Besides, what if he is just going through a phase? Then a few years from now, he is going to be horrified at these photos of himself *and* angry with his parents for plastering them all over the place!

  15. My problem is with his soft ass daddy! What kind of man, especially a black man, okays his little boy wearing dresses and heels? Did it ever cross their mind that maybe he was copying his mom when she dressed up? Maybe dad should’ve taken another approach. I agree that mom seems to be capatilizing off of this situation.

    • If you watch the dad closely and his movements, you will understand why the dad accepts his son’s behavior and why the little boy wants to dress up like a girl.

      • Are you hinting at what I think you are? I got a vibe from him as well, but didn’t want to jump to conclusions.

        • You got it. I watched dad on another show, I forgot the name, but he started moving in a certain manner, and I said “BAM!, I now understand.”

  16. Some of you are saying that its wrong of her to let him wear dress in public and go on TV knowing that he’s going to get bulled and she need to tell him what to wear. So why is it ok for Willow Smith to dress the way she dresses bullies are going to pick on her calling her a freak and a weirdo and her parents are allow her to tell them what she wants to wear and that she wants singing core at the age of 10. They allow her to go on TV dress like that when they know that she is going to get pick on and talk about and that having a singing care at her age is a lot of presser to put on someone so young. Dejanae said Bully is here to stay and it will never go away so why it ok for Will and Jada to let Willow go though that but not for Cheryl?

    • I don’t think any of Willow’s clothes will earn her the title “freak” or “weirdo”. Plus, her outfits are costumes for her “rockstar” image. Completely different.

  17. Chastity Bono was always dress like a girl and she still turned out gay and is now a man so stopping him for wearing dress is not going to stop who he is.

  18. Maryamb: Are you can comparing a little boy wearing a dress to rape, murder and playing with guns? I hope not if you want to compare this little boy to young girls dressing like way to sexy for their age and acting to grown ok but you have go way over board with your last comment.

    • Come on Tash man. What do you think? Deneira said let your child be who they are and not who we want them to be. They have kids that do things like what I mentioned. My question is should we allow them to do it? In no way did I say rape was like letting a boy where girls dresses.

  19. The reason this mother wrote this book was to bring up this uncomfortable subject for others going through the same thing. My next door neighbor’s son is EXACTLY like this little boy and has been since he could walk. He is a beautiful child, and so is Dyson, and really, that’s all there is to this.
    As a society we need to become more tolerant of each other. Just because this child chooses to wear sparkly dresses doesn’t make him any less deserving of his parent’s love and support. This has nothing to do with sex, or anything adult. This is a boy who loves to dress in fancy, feminine clothes. In other cultures, and even in historic American fashions, men have dressed in “dresses” and robes.
    I’m so happy this family had the courage to share their story. When Dyson grows up, whether his style changes or not, he will be absolutely confident his family loved and supported him.

    • Trinity, I’m sorry, but this whole “tolerance” movement isn’t for me. I am not the kind of person that follows the crowd. When does it end? What if 5 year old girls want to dress like hoochies? Should we be tolerant of that? Should they be allowed to “express” themselves? What if your young daughter decided at the age of 13 that she wanted to dress like a hooker. Is that a “go” for you because you want to be an open-minded parent? Where do we draw the line? I’m just asking.

      Trinity, in our society, this boy is going to be ridiculed, teased, and treated poorly by most people. He’s 5 years old, and I don’t care what anyone says – 5 year old lack judgement. They are CHILDREN not adults and don’t have the intelligence and life experience to make the right decisions. I’m so tired of these New Age parents today letting their kids “find themselves” when they aren’t even old enough to wipe their behinds good.

  20. There is not one parent in this world that has all the answers. Parenting our children differently makes this the diverse world we live in. I have been reading so many comments over the past few months from so many judgmental people. That is not your place to judge but observe life as it is. Encourage your children to be who THEY are not who WE want them to be!

    • Deneira, What if your kid wants to go around killing the neighbor pets? What if they want to play with a gun? What if they what to touch their siblings in a sexual manner against the siblings will? You are right no one human has all the answers but we have to draw the line somewhere.

      • Those things are all MORALLY wrong. Not acceptable across many cultures. Gender is not something that is biologically created. Gender is simply something that we do. Historically gender scripts have shifted. The art of “being a boy” or “being a girl” is something that we create. There isn’t a right or wrong to gender. Sex is a biological factor that is completely different.

    • Deneira, kids have plenty of time to figure out who they want to be. Do you think a 5 year old knows whom he wants to be?

      What frustrates me about readers of blogs is that they love to play the “judgemental” card when others state opinions. There are two things I wish would happen: 1) We’d get rid of the word, “hater,” and 2), We figure out the difference between people voicing their opinions vs. being judgemental. If people didn’t voice their opinions, blogs such as these could not exist. Get used to it. You are being “judgemental” as well. We all make judgements, Deneira.

      • Having an opinion and being judgmental are not the same. It’s not wrong that the boy wants to wear dresses. It’s just not culturally acceptable. Kids are pure and it is us that taint them. And get used to what?…I understand that some people have the ability to ignite change and others don’t. Some will criticize a child and his parents because of their beliefs and others will embrace diversity. It is so crazy how we accept that boys should blow things up, play with toy guns, be athletic and strong but the moment he shows an ounce of compassion or sensitivity or wants to be different we are so shut off. We label them gay, queer, weird. Its very likely that he will grown out of this phase. Its a natural process to growing however its how we respond as parents and a society that dictates the child’s growth from the stages in life.

  21. You just never know. Look at how little Chastity Bono, Cher and Sonny’s little darling, cute baby girl turned out. Is he named Charles now? I’m gonna google “it” right now to find out.

  22. I am sorry but I am LMAO when I read this comment…I WHAT TIME PERIOD DO WE LIVE IN…Really dresses will turn a little boy GAY. So why don’t we stop letting our sons play with toy swords or guns…because isn’t that teaching them to kill. It’s sad that we don’t teach our KIDS acceptance of all difference.

  23. forreal let ya child be a child… its nothing wrong with that. but at 5 teaching your kids to do that isnt a good let him grow first. if he really wants to be gay let em when hes older….. yuhre realli exploting ya child. maybe pink polo shirts and tee-shirts that have otha colors…. forreall and imma a kid at heart. bullying sucks so when he gets older he gon to have to face that….

  24. In the video the mom is like almost “encouraging” his answers when Katie asks him a question. He’s 5 years old. He knows how to speak and express how he feels. It almost seems as if yea he likes the color pink, and yea he thinks sparkles are pretty BUT he doesn’t totally feel or see himself as feminine. Its like the mom is pushing towards my son might be gay accept us. She’s trying to make money off of a 5 year old liking pink. ALSO…LOOK AT A LOT OF THE DISNEY MOVIES SUCH AS THE PRINCESS AND FROG OR CINDERELLA. ITS LIKE FAIRYTALE DREAM WORLD THAT EVERY KID WOULD WANT TO LIVE IN OR BE A PART OF. just an idea. I doubt he’ll grow up to be gay. And when he’s an adult…he can do and be whatever he desires.

  25. I am transgender female to Male… I can tell you my mom dressed me in pretty little dresses most of my life and I hated it. I fought against. My mom was always reminding me I was a girl. When I was 5 I cry so hard because she made me wear a dress to my bday party I threw –up and got really sick missed the whole party. When I was 7 she stop letting me hang out with my male friends and put me in a dance class with all girl I sit in the corner every week and cried for almost 5 months. She painted my room pink, threw away all my boys toys, and I still rejected it. She won’t let me play sport, she brought me makeup and everything girly …later she said she was trying to train me to be a proper girl but I rejected it all the way. I hated my childhood, I never got anything I wanted and I always felt like I was awkward in the clothes and shoe and in my body. I knew I was different from the start and I hated myself for not being like all the other girls and not being the daughter my mom wanted. When I was 16 I try to kill myself, I have permanent nerve damage from it… I have seen so many specialist and doctors, pastors, went to a special camp, she had me hospitalize and when all else felled and it did… she kicked me out her home. 15 years later and I made the transition, I put my myself through college and I am happier then I have ever been in my life. I wish at some point in my childhood my mom would have listen to me, I wish she would have supported me, show understanding, tolerance , acceptance, mercy, anything like that . It would have made a world of different. I knew who I was since I could remember, I been prayed over, institutionalize and everything else and I am still who I am. I don’t know what this lil boy is going to be when he grows up, but I am really happy his parents are supporting his chooses because it’s going to make dealing with the rest of the world crap a whole lot bearable in the future and give him the courage to always be his self no matter what that is. That’s what really important that our children grow up happy, and healthy, and loved, and supported … right.

    You can’t train people to be something they are not… all its going to do is kill their spirit and push them away from you. I had 2 friends kill themselves because their family turn there backs on them for being gay. and my friend tony mom til this day 10 years late walk around with so much regret in her heart, it hard to even say his name around her. So be the parent you want to be but think about this would you rather have a gay kid or a dead kid and if you pick a dead kill you should give your kid up for adoption tonight.

    • I respect you and I am glad you are happy.My thing is this mother is just making money of this poor baby!Why did she have to go on national tv and write a book on it????????????? She’s just asking for hell from other kids and bullying is CRAZY now and you know with kids killing themselves over bullying.I feel for this boy.We don’t even know if he is gay, like I said he’s 5.Some people just know it like you, but who knows with him. I hope he’s homeschooled or protected or his mother is ready to go through hell with this!

      • Sorry I’m not saying you are gay. I mean that some people know what they want when they are little, but does this child really know or his mom just even “pushing” it even further?

    • Something to think about, I have to say it sounds as if you and your mom were stuck in a ultimate power struggle. Like I said before, it is one thing for it to be on a whim and it is something else when it is more serious. I am sorry for the pain your childhood caused you be into every life a little rain must fall. We all go through things. If you don’t you never know what you can overcome. It is one thing to accept your child as they but it something completely different take your 5 year old kid shopping for a dress and to make that public knowledge. Do you think you life would have been better if everyone knew felt like a boy trapped in a girls body. People talked about Jesus Christ. You know they will talk about you. Now just think if he only had to worry about the people that actually knew him knowing verses everyone watching the Today’s Show. The child looked completely uncomfortable.

      • Right this little boy did not look happy to me he looked like. Gosh why am I here?It’s one thing to let kids express themselves but do exploit them and make money off of it is psssh!She has some issues. This looks mommy is taking it a little TOO far. He’s 5 year old for crying out loud!I may have told my mommy I wanted to wear makeup and high heels at 5 to the park.Does that mean she would let me?Heck no!

    • I have this book, my wife got it for my kids and it’s a sweet book. My kids like this book alot. you should read it before you judge it.

      • She could have written the book without flaunting her 5 year old son to the media dressed in a pink sparkly tu-tu. The book would still have been a “sweet” book.

  26. Aww mommy GOOD JOB!You LOVE YOUR SON SO MUCH.Way to get kids to pick on this poor boy for the REST OF HIS LIFE.They will give this baby HELL in school.Even in high school they will bring it up.Shame on her.Why write a book and put it on tv?Stop using kids for money.Smh crazy PARENTS

  27. This woman will regret all this soon when her son is BULLIED like crazy by all these kids. He’s what 5?What does a 5 year old know?I mean if he is like 10,that’s different but this is just reaching. If her son comes home crying to her well it’s boo hoo for her.She’s is using this boy to make money.Smh stop exploting him and where is his father?Best believe my son’s father would not stand for this ish!SMH

    • Oh Tami, the father was on the video co-signing this. I was dumbfounded. That little boy does not know any better. To me, it looked like she was kind of coaching him further exploiting this matter.

  28. What is wrong with being a gay male dressed as a male? You don’t have to dress like a women to be gay. How about being comfortable with who God has made you to be, which is male. I’m don’t think someone is close minded because they do not want to dress their son as a female. That is ridculous. What is closeminded is putting your son on t.v. dressed in a pink tutu and a princess tiara or hat. Because no matter what this is going to affect that child now or later. The bottom line is God choose her to be his parent and that means she should be making great decisions for her son.

    • Preach!!! Shonda, LOL why do gay people dress like members of the opposite sex? It reminds me of Jim Carrey on In Living Color when he ended all his sentences with I’m gay. It’s like they do it for the attention that they know it will bring. If he child were truly her best interest she would not have made him dressing like a girl public knowledge.

    • Please do not take this the wrong way, because we are all entitled to our opinions. But, there is no place in the Bible that says someone is born gay? We are born male or female. A person is not considered gay until they complete an certain act. We all have self control. So, in the end we can chose to be whatever we want.

      • sweetie, just because you don’t indulge dont make you any less gay. Donnie mcklurkin anyone? just because he says he doesnt have sex with men doesnt make him straight…

      • @Universitychick-I said it is the act-meaning that Donnie had already indulged. I can see where you are coming from.

    • @Shonda, since you think this is so cute, would you date a man wearing a dress and he tell you that he is straight? Would you think it is cute for a straigght man to wear a dress? I highly doubt it. This boy is being misguided and it is nothing cute about that.

      This is disturbing. This boy is lost and his mother/parents isn’t helping the situation. Women seem to think this is okay and cute, um well it not. Boys need to be trained up to take their role in society as men and this isn’t how to do it ladies.

        • @Vee- You can’t tell me what to do. If I want to repeat a statement, then I can. Stop trying to cyber bully me.

      • @Derek-There is no comment on this board that I made that seems to think what she is doing is cute in any form or fashion. You may want to reread my statements. You are special and overly sensitive for that matter. End of story!

  29. No way would I encourage that behavior. My son will dress as a boy while he’s a minor. I’ll have no control over what he does as an independent adult. So if he wants to wear skirts and dresses he’ll have to wait until he is age of majority and has moved out on his own…

    • I agree! This kid needs therapy and so does his parents. How in the world is this suppose to help stop bullying. Going public with this info that he likes to wear dresses and like the colors pink, will make bullying worse for him at school.

      This family went on national tv, The Today Show, showing him in a pink dress and this will help to stop bullying for him. No way. When the kids see him in that dress they will tease and bully him. Bully is here to stay and it will never go away.

      • Who are we to say that boys are suppose to like blue or dark colors or to play with trucks? or that girls shall be allow to wear dresses and wear pink all the time and play with barbies. Its so sad to hear that people are so damn judgmental. That’s whats wrong with people in this world today. Yall so busy judging and looking down on people. Its a damn shame.

        • Keisha, BCK asked our opinions. Why don’t people understand the difference between an OPINION and BEING JUDGEMENTAL. We aren’t talking about colors boys and girls wear. We are talking about appropriate apparell (sp?). If dresses were meant for boys, they’d be in the boys’ department. Why does everything someone does have to be acceptable to everyone?

      • @KEISHA (Exact quotes from the bible):

        “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”
        —Genesis 1:27 (NKJV)

        “And the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’ Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”
        —Genesis 2:18-25 (NKJV)

        The image of God is both male and female and is reflected in a godly union between male and female where the creative power of God, His life-giving, His self-giving and His moral nature are perfectly expressed. This is only possible in a heterosexual union.

        Remember God created Adam and Eve and NOT Adam and Steve.

      • @KEISHA (Exact quotes from the bible):

        “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”
        —Genesis 1:27 (NKJV)

        “And the LORD God said, ‘It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.’ Out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: ‘This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.’ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.”
        —Genesis 2:18-25

        The image of God is both male and female and is reflected in a godly union between male and female where the creative power of God, His life-giving, His self-giving and His moral nature are perfectly expressed. This is only possible in a heterosexual union.

      • @KEISHA (Exact quotes from the bible):

        “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”
        —Genesis 1:27 (NKJV)

        Read —Genesis 2:18-25

        The image of God is both male and female and is reflected in a godly union between male and female where the creative power of God, His life-giving, His self-giving and His moral nature are perfectly expressed. This is only possible in a heterosexual union.

        I think you need to be educated on what the bible is saying about stuff like the above. It is wrong.

        • @ all of you quoting the bible like you follow each and every word everyday.

          “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
          - Luke 6:37

          AND some people take deuteronomy 22:5 to mean that women can ONLY wear skirts and dresses… When was the last time you all wore a pair of pants? were you sinning? should you be told how to dress? personally i never read in the bible where God said department stores and industries will control what is appropriate for you to wear, check the signs for “girls or boys”

      • Deuteronomy 22:5

        “The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.”

  30. Abosutely NOT!!! Dresses are for girls and women. Not boys and men. I hate when I see a man in a dress. This is cross dressing and it is WRONG. No dresses for boys, this is so dumb.

  31. I personally would NOT let my son dress like a girl. I also don’t think that little girls should be dressing like tomboys but people are much more excepting of little girls dressing like boys but not the other way around. Why do you think that is?

    • @Your Truly, I agree. There is a double standard regarding girls dressing like boys vs boys dressing like girls. Just like it’s more “socially acceptable” for women to share a friendly kiss vs a man doing the same. Or for men to sleep around vs. women doing the same. I don’t know why that is either.

  32. Get ready parents. They are trying to brainwash our kids with this, “everything goes – let’s be tolerant of everything” attitude.

    I understand accepting people as they are (as long as what they do isn’t illegal or hurting anyone else), but TO ME, I’m not having my child go along with anything just because someone decides it’s okay. I’ll teach my child what I believe is right. When he/she becomes of age, they can make their own decision.

    • I agree wholeheartedly with both of your comments Teri and many expressed here. This is not good.

    • this isn’t about being gay or straight its about parenting our boys in a manner so they will grow into men and our girls into women. This little boy dressing in “sparkly things” could have been tin foil around his pants straps, shoes, etc. To encourage him that dressing like a girl is “pretty” versus exploring how to transcend boy clothes to be more attracting is a poor choice. This lil boy wants “sparkly” didn’t mean he wanted girlie. I think the parents saw a way to establish a run game and took it at his expense. My son dressed up and at 6 still runs around nude and dance in the mirror too, doesn’t mean I support him dancing nude in public or outside the privacy of our home and he’s happy well adjusted with that. We are the adults its our job to parent lets stop letting society push us into whats acceptable. Again I don’t see this as a gay/straight issue simply a parenting one.

  33. I believe in old-fashioned parenting. I believe in freedom of expression, but there’s a line that I would draw in the sand. This New Age parenting of “letting kids do what they want because it makes them happy,” in many cases, is lazy parenting to me. Children lack judgement. That’s what parents are for. How do kids always know what will make them happy? They don’t know how the world works. Since when did children have the minds of adults? What about consequences? When did parents relinquish their role as the archer of their children’s lives? Since when did 5 year olds become experts of what is best for them?

    If my son wanted to dress like a girl, I would not allow it since I’m the one that buys his clothes. When he turns 18 and he wants to dress in dresses, so be it.

  34. If you ask me I think this family is exploiting this child. It is our jobs as parents to teach our kids. Instead of trying to use this as a learning experience for the child she turned it into an opportunity to make money off of her situation. 5 year old kids don’t know what they want or need. It is the job as the parent to be a parent. I think she is just as bad as the people with the hot air balloon hoax.

    • I too think she’s exploiting the situation. What if the child was truly going through a phase. When he’s 15, 25, 35, he will always have that hanging over his head. She could have kept it at home, but to bring it on national television? Wow. What if this child has a chance to become president? SMH

    • Yep. She thinks this is cute but never thought about how this could affect him in the future. Honestly, a boy in a dress is not a major concern for me, but her pimping him for tv and some book is a problem. But she’s no different from a lot of parents featured on this site…

  35. He is so cute. What would I do? The same thing if my son came home telling me he wanted to have sex at 7 or use a gun at 11 or not attend school at 16..do my darnest to stop him.

    In neither of those scenarios, he is not hurting anyone, but my goal is to teach him how to make the best choices in his life at all ages so he can be the best adult he can be.

    Thank you Jesus, I never had to go through that.

    • “What would I do? The same thing if my son came home telling me he wanted to have sex at 7 or use a gun at 11 or not attend school at 16..do my darnest to stop him.”

      Sherley, this comment is WONDERFUL and I really think you stated your opinion the best on here. I totally agree 100%.

      • Thank you Evelina Rae. My heart goes out to this child. No matter what happens when he gets older, he will have this being plastered all over the world hanging over his head. What ever happened to keeping stuff in house?

        • We all did silly things as children that we may NOW classify as embarrassing. Our parents would even show these stupid pictures or videos to extended family, friends or the new boyfriend for jokes, but making a book and putting this boy on blast in the media WOW! now that’s a new low. If Dyson doesn’t end up like many people pobably believe he will I think he’ll be upset with his parents. This is beyond ridiculous, in my opnion, in so many ways. Now that you’ve said I’ll say it too…my heart goes out to little Dyson.

  36. awww bless him, so cute… i believe in freedom of expression..he ain’t hurting anyone…let him do as he choose’s

  37. These are very open-minded parents. That is to be commended. It would freak me out if he were my son but if dressing and being that way is what makes him happy then I’d try to accept him and would most definitely love him because he’s my son.
    There is a double standard though. No one really has any problem with girls dressing like boys.

    • @Vee, dresses are meant for girls NOT boys! Dresses come from the women’s or girls department and NOT the boy/men department. That means, that it is NOT meant for men/boys to wear. These parents should NOT be conmended for this behavior or thinking, instead, they need Therapy. You are nuts for thinking this is ok, just as they are.

      Personally, I don’t think girls should dress like boys and boys should not dress like girls. This is part of the reason why this world is so screwed up right now. I hate watching Housewives of Alanta, bc ppl and kids will see grown men walking around in dresses, makeup and high heels and they think it is ok. Well its not ok, it should not be conmended and those men need help.

      It is one thing to be gay but you don’t have to walk around in women’s clothing. Anyone who think this is normal and ok, need to be in therapy or church.

    • Have you seen the many blogs here featuring Shiloh Jolie-Pitt? People go mad crazy on here at the fact that she chooses to dress like a boy!

      • @Pisecs..Since you think this is so cute, would you date a man wearing a dress and he tell you that he is straight? Would you think it is cute for a straigght man to wear a dress? I highly doubt it. This boy is being misguided and it is nothing cute about that.

        This is some disturbing. This boy is lost and his mother/parents isn’t helping the situation. Women seem to think this is okay and cute, um well it not. Boys need to be trained up to take their role in society as men and this isn’t how to do it ladies.

        • i think Pisces was speaking about the double standard issue raised of how girls get away with dressing as boys and how it really isn’t that accepted when it is extreme and used the example of Shiloh to prove the point as it was a big ordeal. That’s how i took the comment.

          • @…Thank you for the clarification. That’s exactly what I meant, people DO find it just as upsetting that Shiloh is determined to dress “butch”. Even though Zahara is usually featured in the blogs, people seem to always talk more about how Shiloh is dressed instead of Zahara.

            I don’t think this little boy in a ballet tutu is cute at all unless it’s for Halloween or a school play. He is a cute little boy…I saw him and his Mom on the Today Show.

            His parents should be ashamed exploiting him for attention and money, in my opinion. He will have it hard enough in this society growing up as a Black male, why create more life problems?

    • Wow. I agree, the parents are very open minded. I also think that it takes a lot of courage to do this. I think it is great. The thing that most struck me is that she said that her having a problem with it was just that, her problem, not his. The one thing that she is communicating to her son is that no matter what I will be here and support you, which is so important; especially if it turns out that he is gay (By the way style of dress does not dictate if a person is gay!). If she did not support him he would just choose to go under ground with it, which is by the way why we have so many black men who are on the DL!

  38. I would definitely try to stop him and probably wouldn’t let him due to what bullying has turned into these days. Kids already have it rough enough without adding fuel to the fire. That’s why so many of our babies are killing themselves.

  39. No way!!! I would buy boys pink polos. lol That is pushing it! Maybe dress him in boy clothing, but bright. Because some little boys clothing is boring. I love to put my boys in red, yellow, peach, and light purple button ups or springy boy clothing. A dress, is a no no! That is just my opinion.

    • Shonda, I also agree with you.

      Come on Cheryl and Dean (Dyson’s parents), I understand some boys like to wear “female clothing” and some girls like to wear “male clothing”, but why would you go out and buy it for them? Dress up at Day Care or School or for a Play is one thing, but purchasing dresses for your son to wear at home isn’t appropriate in my opinion and i would like do this for my little boy or even for my little girl…it works both ways I wouldn’t buy my daughter clothes in the boys section just because she liked them better. I like your point about buying bright colours for a boy that likes the female clothing best.

      I think this is ridiculous and the book seems odd to me, but whatever helps their family deal with Dyson’s unique behaviour.

      • if he can’t dress how he feels most comfortably at home, why would it make sense for them to dress him that way for school & such?

        acceptance starts at home.

    • I totally agree with you (I dress my son in a pink polo or purples)!! Thats absurd…A DRESS…YEAH OK

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