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President Barack Obama, First Lady Michelle Obama, First Grandma Marian Robinson, daughters Malia,12 and Sasha,9, walk toward Air Force One at Andrews Air Force Base, Md., today(April 29, 2011).


In less than three months, the Hardricts will be welcoming their precious bundle of joy, a baby boy who is set to make his debut in July. It’s a beautiful reality for actors Tia Mowry and Cory Hardrict, who never thought they would have kids.  Tia writes on the DailyLove:

It all started with a diagnosis of Endometriosis. As a young woman, I always experienced crazy cramps and pains that often lead me wanting to be whisked away in an ambulance. Yes, that’s how bad and painful it had gotten.

After a few visits to the doctor’s office I was later diagnosed with endometriosis. Two surgeries later, I was convinced that I would never be able to carry a child. Fear and worry overcame me and when in these situations, I always look to God and my right hand man, my husband.

My husband, Cory Hardrict, lives an extremely holistic lifestyle. Throughout the years, he tried to influence his eating habits on me but I would kindly decline. Until NOW. Cory informed me that God wants us to treat our bodies as a temple. We go to church to feed the mind and spirit but many often ignore feeding the body (that was me)…. To make things clearer, Cory believed endometriosis was a result of my diet and unhealthy eating habits.Read More

Photo:Dimitry Loiseau


Film director Spike Lee and his son Jackson,13, watched the New York Knicks warm up before they played the Boston Celtics in Game 4 of their NBA Eastern Conference playoff basketball game in New York, April 24, 2011.


When do you talk about the Birds and the Bees with your kids?  Our oldest son is almost 4 years old and is very aware that girls and boys have different body parts.  Yesterday, while brushing his teeth with Daddy in the bathroom he asked, “Daddy, where do you come from?”  I paused from fixing the corner of the bed sheets and looked toward the bathroom door, my ears were burning from trying to hear the response.  Daddy responded, “from Grammy.”  Our oldest son, remembers when his younger brother was in “Mommy’s belly.”

I’m sure he also has flashbacks of the waiting room at Emory University Hospital, when I was pacing up and down the hallway, holding my back, and rocking back and forth from contractions.  There’s also a chance that he doesn’t remember.

I recall talking to my mom briefly about sex.  I was too embarrassed and politely brushed her off when she tried to engage me in the “Sex Talk.”  My mom pulled out the great colorful children’s book, written by Peter Mayle, Where Do I Come From? We even had the “African American edition.”  The pudgy couple looked like “Meet the Browns.”  The cartoon images of a man and woman were nicely illustrated on the various semi-glossy pages.  As children, we thought we were looking at a scandalous X-rated magazine, though it did do a good job describing what “goes down” when couples “get together.”

A recent survey by the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS), found that 93% of adults support sex education in high school and 84% support it in junior high school.  Come to think of it, I vaguely remember my twin and I taking a sex ed class, either in junior high or high school.  Sex education in schools is a hot topic that has Congress up in arms.  Personally, I’d prefer my sons learn about sex education at home and in school.  This would have a double impact on them.

In these times, you have to direct the conversation past the Birds and the Bees with children.  STDs and HIV/AIDS should be addressed at some point.  Surprisingly, you don’t hear too much about those topics in the mainstream media anymore.  The signs about the startling statistics of African Americans and AIDS around West End are gone or peeling away.  It’s like the four-letter word has been forgotten.  A study by the CDC found that Blacks/African Americans accounted for the majority of the estimated number of AIDS diagnoses made during 2007, followed by Whites and Hispanic/Latinos.  The South has the highest percentage of new HIV rates in the country.

If parents talk more openly about STDs and HIV/AIDS with their children, then they would further abstain from unprotected sex.  Granted, our boys are young, but I can imagine showing children images of what my mom called in her childhood, “VD.”  That would definitely keep their britches on tight.

I don’t know a good age to talk to kids about sex.  When do you bring it up?  Do you wait for them?  We know the consequences if you wait too late?  Try the show on MTV, “Teen Mom.”  I’m going to do my best to have an open dialogue about sex education with our kids.  It may be uncomfortable for both parties, but risk factors and safer sex behaviors should be openly discussed.

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Originally published in MyAtlantaMom.com.

Reference: CDC. HIV/AIDS Surveillance Supplemental Report: Cases of HIV Infection and AIDS in the United States and Dependent Areas, by Race/Ethnicity, 2003—2007. Volume 14, Number 2.


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