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Spanking vs. time-out: Is one better than the other?


One of the hardest parts of parenthood can be figuring out how to discipline a child. Every parent wants to believe that their little angel will be perfect and never need to be corrected for misbehavior.

There are people that were raised by the “spare the rod, spoil the child” school of thought and others that believe that spanking can have negative repercussions such as a child that hits others. Some parents believe that time-out is a more appropriate form of discipline, as it gives the child a chance to calm down and takes them away from the fun that they were having.┬áThere are also different views on the issue depending on who’s asked the question.

No matter what position you take, there is one thing that is certain. Every child needs boundaries and needs some form of discipline. Children need to know that there are consequences for their actions, whether they be good or bad. Boundaries and consequences will help children become respectable adults.

The most important part of disciplining a child is to make sure that the child understands why they are being punished and that the negative behavior won’t be tolerated.

What do you think? Spank or time-out?


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  1. If my recollection is correct; I was the only one of my parents kids to actually get a spanking, and it was more of a swat on the behind. I guess the whole “you can’t put two female crabs in the same hole” has some truth to it. I did hear my dad threaten to beat the Black off of my brothers and cousins a few times (but in all honesty he did threaten to beat the Black off of their white friends too when they were cutting up and neither them nor their parents seemed to take offense).

    But different strokes for different folks and not all punishment works the same for all kids. What worked for me was my vanity. My brothers and I all have long hair and when the swat on the behind wasn’t getting through to me, my mum had a 1/2 ” trimmed off of my hair for each offence. At first it didn’t bother me, I was six or seven but the thought of having shorter hair than my brother’s did the trick.. When my hair reached waist length from being past my behind I stopped having the urge to have the last word in when it came to mum. Seeing my hair on the ground got through to me in a way that swats on the behind didn’t.

  2. I was spanked and sat in time out.I ddint perfer either but time out was sorst because the corner they perferred was down a dark hallway and they would often forget about me leaving down there for hours

  3. Both forms of punishment can be bad. Spanking can show that bad behavior warrants violence, and time out teaches ostracism to a child. Psychologically being ignored can do more damage to a child than being struck. I was spanked, and sat in time out. Neither forms of discipline yielded a preferred result over the other. I don’t like being hit or ignored. Neither do my children. I feel that parents should consider the end result, rather than just the justification of the means. Plus, every child responds differently. Overall, the punishment should be about a tool used to develop the child, not a justification for vengeance on that “little brat!” Parents should take misbehavior as more of a froth opportunity for the child, than a personal offense. Either way, spanking gets the attention quick, but over time has less an less effect. Time outs allow for reflection of bad behavior, but can have permanent social scarring, if prolonged or over used. Like I said, it should be more about the end result, not the means to some end.

  4. My mom spanked me when I was growing up also,and I turned out just fine.But that’s not the only effective method of discipline there is.Each child has a different temperament and personality,and you have to choose a punishment for them accordingly.Some children are more obedient and need less discipline. Timeouts are probably enough for children who fall into that category.But there are some children who are more difficult and stubborn,and they need more discipline.Those are the ones that you have to take more drastic measures with, and spanking may be necessary.That being said,I think the most effective punishment for today’s kids would be to take away their toys and electronics. Having their computers,iPods,iPads,cell phones,and video games taken away will get their attention and make them straighten up quickly.Regardless of what form of discipline you use for your child,you must be consistent with it.The consistency of the discipline is what will determine how your child turns out.

  5. I was raised on being spanked and I turned out damn good! The problem today is parents r scared of their children! A good spanking never hurt anybody especially if it’s not abuse!

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