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Will my child have ‘good’ hair? (please read before commenting)

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For many African American mothers, the joy of finding out that they are pregnant can be tainted by a thought that seems to haunt many of us, “Is my baby going to have ‘good’ hair?” The sigma of hair texture is one that has followed the black community for hundreds of years and can be traced back to slavery times when many slaves were given jobs according to complexion and hair texture. Blacks have been trained to believe that looser curls are more beautiful and easier to manage than tighter coils.

Unfortunately, curl pattern is still very important. For some women, to hide a child’s texture they may decide to use chemicals at an early age or add hair extensions to make the child’s hair more manageable.

Although hair style variations can be cute and fun, is it ok to disguise our children’s hair? Are looser curl patterns actually easier to manage or are we just uneducated on how to properly take care of our African-rooted locks? As mothers, it is important to teach our children that they are beautiful and so is their hair, no matter what the texture. Helping a child embrace every part of their body can help them later in life to be comfortable with themselves and give them a level of confidence that will help them become successful adults.

What do you think? Do you think ‘good’ hair exists?

Photo showcases a child with “good hair”.

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  9. What is good hair?No hair is better .The only problem is not accepting and loving yourself. Take care of yourself and thank god for giving you every minute of your life and be greatful.Just hug yourself,that is good hair.

  10. I have been tryin grow my hair out for the last 3 years. And was consistently getting breakage. I have black kinky hair. I also use a relaxer which I will NOT give up. Anywho, this past winter I had the most breakage in the crown area, so that if I pull my hair up it looks like a crown. Shallow in the center and long around the hairline. So I bought the Shielo VOLUME Collection out of desperation. And as one last go around before I get the clippers. But the VOLUME Shampoo and VOLUME Conditioner work! My hair less of my hair is falling out. And it just feels better after. Some of their products did not work so good on my hair, like the Shielo HYDRATE Mist. But the VOLUME regimen does work! Loyal customer here.

    • SARAH LONDON, I HAVE KINKY AFRICAN AMERICAN HAIR AND IT IS NATURAL AND ALL THE WAY DOWN MY BACK. I BELIEVE THAT I HAVE LONG HAIR BECAUSE IT IS NATURAL. WHEN I HAD A RELAXER I WOULD EXPERIENCE THE SAME KIND OF BREAKAGE THAT YOU SPEAK ABOUT. WHY ARE YOU AFRAID OF LETTING GO OF YOUR RELAXER? NATURAL HAIR IS VERY MANAGEABLE NO MATTER WHAT THE TEXTURE IS. PLUS, LOOK AT IT THIS WAY. YOUR HAIR IS NOT GROWING WITH A RELAXER SO WHY BOTHER. WOULD YOU RATHER YOUR HAIR LOOK STRINGY AND THIN JUST AS LONG AS IT IS STRAIGH?

  11. Let us be truthful as a people. When is the last time you saw a black female newscaster with an Afro? How many black actresses do you know where their natural textured hair?look at advertisement in black magazines…..are the women those with kinky hair? Look at black tv shows….how many shows depict characters with natural kinky hair texture? I argue that there are not many. This is not by accident.

    • JOI WYATT I AGREE WITH YOU BUT IT WILL NOT CHANGE UNLESS BLACK PEOPLE MAKE IT CHANGE. I WANT PEOPLE TO LOOK AT THE YOUNG WOMEN ON YOUTUBE LIKE HAIRCRUSH WHO IS FULLY BLACK WITH KINKY LONG HAIR. EVERYONE IS IN LOVE WITH HER HAIR EVEN THOUGH HER TEXTURE IS KINKY. I THINK WE HAVE TO BRING ON THE CHANGE!

    • commercials are full of natural hair black females & in white magazines with families there are many natural hair females

  12. All hair are good,each and every Race have there beauty. I am BLACK and PROUD i can relax my hair or go kinky.Go natral,if you have a low selfesteam then you have a problem.I don’t want you to bring down my race,because you will not be welcome anywhere els.

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  14. How sad to see a child so young with straightened hair. When are we as a people going to stop trying to live up to the European idea of what is beautiful!!!!! Embrace and love your natural hair.

  15. This is certainly noot what I would expect from such a positive baby blog. Unfortunately, we Hisapnics have the same problem with the notion of good hair versus bad hair. Where oftentimes your higher standing in society is based on skin texture and skin color.

  16. All hair is beautiful and the stigma behind tightly coiled hair is just not the case. thick hair is beautiful and can be “managed”. But I do think nowadayz when most people say “good” hair, its in reference to how much maintenance is required and how easy it is style vs the “look” of it. BIG HAIR or thick, coily hair does require more intention and attention. TRUST! (just spent my entire mid morning and afternoon all up in it). But so does raising your kids, eating right, working out etc. It’s a choice to invest and sacrifice is required. I think as more parents embrace kids natural hair and seek info on due care, the weaker the notion of “good hair” will become. Awesome thought provoking post!

  17. For those who are overly sensitive and overly PC, it shouldn’t be offensive to put a topic like this out there for discussion. The author didn’t say one hair type or another was right or wrong. It’s a topic we all deal with so why not be open? I appear very white but am of blended heritage. Interestingly, my hair is always considered good by black people and bad by whites. I was raised being told my hair was too dark, too coarse, too big, too nappy, etc for my face and skin (very fair) by my own mother. I spent too much time trying to highlight, straighten, etc to match my hair to my skin. I finally got old enough to realize I’m fine natural, even if my own parents don’t agree, and stopped lsitening to their requests to alter my hair. I just buy good black hair care products and am true to the way God made me, very natural. We should all be aware of how our own habits and words affect our kids!

  18. I’m blessed with a mother who managed to style our hair appropriately no matter what “texture” or “quality”.

  19. I think all hair is good hair. A picture of a little girl with a curly little bush would also showcase good hair. I must admit when I was pregnant with my daughter I wondered if she would have hair or if it would be silky and curly. It turns out she has very thick tightly coiled hair but I think its pretty just the same. To each her own but I don’t believe in perms and chemicals in little girls hair. It’s just not needed. I agree with the other comment..little girls should have ponytails/braids. My friend permed her 6 yr olds hair and now her edges are gone and her hair is breaking off. She did it because her daughter wanted long flowy hair like some of her classmates. We need to teach our daughters they are pretty just the way they are.

    • I totally agree with you! little girls should not have perms until they are teenagers. Besides all hair is beautiful you just have to take care of it. Each young girl should be taught that she is beautiful and everything about her is equally as beautiful. Self-esteem is so important why damage it with subjects like this.

    • The funny thing about this picture is, that girl is 14 now and has long natural kinky/curly hair. you can look her up on google (summer valentine)

  20. Listen if I see ur child and she has a perm, extentions or a weave and is younger than 13 I’m going to talk about u! Kids should wear ponytails, braids(their own hair), or their natural hair until they’re atleast teenagers! All hair is different but still manageable!

    • Why is this even a topic,I’m tired of this “Good Hair Bad Hair” conversation,I’ve been natural for 15 years, and I wish my Mom would have kept my hair chemical free. Back to the topic, why is this an issue, after 100′s of years, it seem as if its always one of us who keeps this pot simmering. Stop it, all hair is good, ask a cancer patient.

    • I think Madame C J Walker, America’s first Black millionairess, knew what she was doing when she invented hair products for African Americans. There was a demand and she filled it. One less reason for ex slave owners/other races to call us “nappy headed” or” pic-a-ninnies”.

      I’m just keeping it as real as my roots.

      • I was referencing the first American Black millionairess and her products that made her a part of American business history and history in general. I am impressed by Black people who invent important items that benefit human kind and enrich African Americans.

        I think I made it very clear what I was talking about in my comment. There are many prominent 21st Century African American women who enhance their public personas by using chemical straighteners, wigs and weaves, such as Oprah Winfrey, BeyonceMichelle Obama and her daughters and mother along with hundreds of other prominent African American celebrities…some even featured regularly on BCK.

        Madame CJ Walker’s contribution to hair products for African American has had a far reaching and enduring impression in America in general, specifically in the African American culture as indeed globally. Even Blacks in Africa straighten their hair with chemicals, believe it or not.

        People should not put down or belittle the contributions of a historically relevant African American female such as Madame CJ Walker simply because they don’t like straightening their own hair. To each her own but I give credit where it’s due as do thousands and millions other do whenever they, in the 21st century, continue to use weaves, relaxers, straightening combs, etc. as part of their daily beauty regimen.

  21. I think this is highly inappropriate for BCK. All hair is good hair. This seems like stirring the pot for some drama.

    • Clearly, you have misunderstood the article. They aren’t trying to say any type of hair is “good”. However, they are addressing the common conception that loosely curled hair is “good” by the Black community.

    • This is a highly relevant topic. Black people have an issue with hair and will do any and everything to change it if it “didn’t come out right”. Wigs, Weaves…ridiculous blonde hair. C’mon. And the amount of people finding everything but another black person to make their kids with…Everytime I see half-black and 1/4-black kids comes up I’m like, where are the real black kids at? It’s as if black people feel like they have to mix with someone else to make a “cute” baby. And that’s just not true. the “good hair” tragedy has to end. We need to start enbracing the original look of our sub-suharan African hair. Stop all this mixing with chinese, white, I-dont-care-what-as-long-as-the-hair-is-straight people. We really do need to wake up!

      • CONNIE, I think you need to read this article again as well as my comments. Please don’t misconstrue my comments or misquote me. You are entitled to your opinion as am I. Developing and patenting hair products for African Americans earned Madame CJ Walker her spot in the world history, American history and African American history. Many famous Black women in the 21st century wear straightened hair. Oprah, Michelle Obama, Susan Rice, Condolezza Rice……

        • Pisces get out of here with that ignorant simple minded comment. Perms ect has brought success to African American women, but it has also destroyed them internally. It has made it difficult for the women who want to go natural to do so because they fear they won’t fit in. The reason why women with permed hair feel pretty is because they look like something they are NOT! That is SELF HATE! Put them in their natural state and they will be miserable because they hate who they really are! Sounds to me like you would sell your soul to the devil! “OH DEVIL! I WILL GIVE YOU MY NATURAL LOOK IF YOU WOULD JUST GIVE ME FAME AND FORTUNE!” Lol.

        • How can you love being black when you hate your skin color and hair texture? What exactly do you love about yourself then?

        • Black people have been taught to hate themselves, but love everybody else. I would rather my daughter to love herself and hate everybody then for her to love everybody and hate herself.

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