A CELEBRITY BABY BLOG PARTY: “HAPPY FOURTH”
First daughter Malia Obama celebrates her 14th birthday today. Click over to wish the teenager a Happy Birthday!
Swizz Beats says his son is his favorite comedian[GG]
Heidi Klum is focused on family[Babbyrazzi]
5 ways you can help fund your child’s school without spending money[BMK]
Malia celebrates her 14th birthday[Huff]
Nia Long has never seen a marriage work[CBS]
Fun facts. What do you know about the Fourth Of July?[pnj]
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You can’t get any more patriotic than having your bornday be the 4th of July! happy belated, Princess Malia!
I love Malia!!! Can’t believe she’s 14 already!
I believe in Marriage and I think it’s because most of the people I’m surrounded by have not been divorced. My parents are 37 years strong and they’re my inspiration. When things got tough, they didn’t run. My mom told me to never make divorce an option UNLESS I’m being abused. I thank God that my boyfriend has the same values as me when it comes to marriage. His parents are also great examples and we’ve both grown up in a household where we see how hard it is but how rewarding it could be. I’m definitely getting married (God willing). I’m only 21 right now and I’ve been with my boyfriend since I was 16 so hopefully in a couple of years after I get my masters we take the next step.
HAPPY 14TH BIRTHDAY MALIA!!
Poor Nia! That is just SAD!! I agree with Oxford- ppl don’t put the effort into making a marriage work. It’s NOT easy by any degree. I’ve been married for 13 years but each year gets better and better. It’s like a second job because you have to keep that magic flowing. It’s worth it and very rewarding in the end. KUDOS to your parents Oxford…I LOVE their rules of not letting ppl get between them. That could SAVE alot of marriages!!
1. Malia’s so beautiful!
2. You would think seeing so many failed marriages would fuel people to try harder at giving marriage a go and working hard to maintain it, and choosing the right partner in the first place.
Marriage is a wonderful thing. Sometimes you think you have the right partner & it turns out you were wrong. My son’s father was the right partner, I thought, we were married for 5yrs before having my son. Well, he ran when my son was diagnosed disabled, started cheating & what not. I divorced him & he’s now married with another son, who is ‘normal’ & he’s still cheating & what not. His current wife says she’s not leaving as she’s the main one. Good for her, but I do not regret having made the decision to leave him & be an unwed mother. I’ve had other long relationships but have not gotten married, by choice. I always say, God’s going to have to come down & marry me himself if he wants me to get married.
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Just because she(nia) is in hollywood, does not mean the hollywood marriages are the ones she grew up around. She does have real life family and friends around her. And those could be her examples, not hollywood marriages. And who take hollywood marriages serious anyway. Oan: Happy bday malia, close to sweet 16. These children are getting old lol jkidding.
happy bday
I’m sad for Nia or anyone else in her position. Just because you’ve never seen a marriage “work” doesn’t mean you should be wary of it. There are many GOOD parents who were raised by BAD parents. Both of my parents, had bad mothers.
A good marriage is WORK, constant work. I’ve been blessed to be a product of such a union. My parents were friends before they were married and have been “working” on their marriage for 17 years. I’m also surrounded by good, strong marriages and long term monogamous relationships, from my BOTH sets of great-grandparents to my great-great uncle who has been with his lover for over 50 years to my brothers best female friend, an amazing MD for the WHO who’s been with her girlfriend since they were teenagers.
Many people, after marriage stop doing the work required to keep the union fruitful. Women and men are aware of their partners character flaws before marriage and think marriage is the cure, and many forgo the pre marital counseling that many religions and organizations offer because they think its a waste of time…it’s not.
My mum told me that two of the major issues that can strain a marriage (finances and children, the discipline of) is often not discussed until there’s an issue when it should have been before the marriage (see why pre marital counseling is important).
I think if my parents, and the major emotional and psychological baggage they both brought into their marriage, made it work, anyone who really wants their marriage to work can make it work. A good marriage is a CONSTANT WORK IN PROGRESS.
My parents don’t let anyone, not us kids, friends or relatives, get between them. I remember the one time I said something smart to my mum, my dad told me what would happen to me if I ever disrespected “his wife” again. She was his wife before she was mum, and she will still be his wife after we have left home. My parents do not argue in front of us, and there have been times when I have hated this but they will always back the other parent up.
While every marriage is different, my parents template is the one I would like to use for my own marriage in the future.
I am sitting over here ready to cry reading your response!! You sound so wise beyond your years…I TOTALLY AGREE with everything you said!!
Yes honey to that premarital counseling. I’m not married but I do know if I ever got that far into a relationship we’d be doing that counseling whether it’s with a preacher or a psychologist or another expert. There are some of the seemingly smallest things that actually turn out to be deal breakers in relationships and things that never even cross your mind until someone asks you about it. I know one thing that I never thought about but I heard was asked at a premarital counseling session before, were questions of how you were raised and how you handled conflict in your family. That’s such a big deal when you think about it because so many families handle it differently from talking things out to verbal abuse to physical abuse. And if you were abused as a child then I want to know because verbal and physical abuse can be something that is so easily patterned even if the person doesn’t mean to.
@ Victoria. THAT IS ABSOLUTELY TRUE!! If you were never taught to communicate as a child it rears BIG issues in a relationship because your partner will have to damn near drag the problem out instead of speaking on it openly. That is a GREAT point that you made!!
Reading your response is one of the reasons; in hindsight; that I am grateful that my parents always had each others back. When how to handle future conflicts and the discipline of children is not discussed before hand it can shake a marriage when one parent turns into a spanker or a screamer which then turns into “bad parent, good parent”. My mum hates having my dads Atl anesthesiologist over to our home, he tells his son he can have a coke but “don’t tell mommy”, I know it seems simple and stupid but its always small like that then the two of them starts going at it which turns into WW III.
A couple should also discuss finances eg. how to handle money. In my limited years on this planet I have seen so many of my dads colleagues marriages break up over money, and not because there was not enough of it but because one party was a spender while the other a savor, or money was just not discussed until the bill collectors start calling. And because my dad cannot afford to have doctors working for him whose credit was so bad they couldn’t adopt a dog he has had to let go good doctors. All because they couldn’t handle their finances.
I’m a good West Indian child and I see and don’t see, hear and don’t hear, but some of the things I’ve seen and heard adults do in the name of love would just astonish you but it will never sour me on marriage. Marriage can work if both parties want it to.
My parents were like that. Dad was the good “friend” parent and our mother was the bad parent and we played then against each other. As an adult I wish my parents had been like yours. My mother and I do not have a good relationship and its mostly my fault. After divorce my dad was a friend who barly paid any child support but still bought us things like the lastest clothes that my mother said was not needed. She needed money to pay for our needs and my dad was all about giving us what we wanted. Im 25 and still in college because I listened to my father not my mother.
@Oxford in the past I have responded to your posts negativly because it seemed to me that you look down on people with less than you. In reading this psot I was wrong, you obviously speak your mind because you were raised by stong parents. You are a strong girl.
I read where you are starting Oxford University this year, good luck. When I was your age I was barely making passing grades in 9th grade. I hope you know how fortunate you are to have a family like your.
Thank you @GNOSTIC for your kind words. I do know how blessed I am. It’s never too late to tell your mum how sorry you are. Just don’t only say the words, do the action. The words “I’m sorry” is supposed to mean while you are sorry for what you did, you will endeavor NOT to do it again. Good luck with your mum.
I see a lot of marriages work! Marriages don’t work in hollywierd because everyone is doing.open marriages but I see lots of marriages work. Black women always want to use that as an excuse for having kids out of wedlock, epic fail!
True true…lol. Not just black women, all women really. But in their defense, sometimes in a relationship the baby carriage comes before the marriage. Often times the marriage doesn’t happen when the relationship ends up failing. Most women I know with that situation don’t plan it that way, it just happens.
However Nia Long’s case is different. Quit playing and marry ole dude Nia! lol
Its kinda funny, its ma 14th birtday too at the same day. Happy birtday too Malia!
happy birthday Malia! she seems like such a great teenager. i wonder if she’ll get her braces off for her 14th bday. she’s had them on for about 2 years now.
Happy birthday Malia!!
I see Nia’s point. Of all the people I know, I only know of 3 marriages which have worked. Remaining marreid but beng miserable &/or cheating does not count. I’m referring to faithful people who love one another & work everyday at their marriage..only 3. My aunt, one of my best girlfriends & my exes’ brother.
Nice to be home, but it’s hotter than Haiti in NY. Happy fourth everyone!
Welcome back Ms. Sherley, hope you accomplished everything you wanted to in Haiti. You are right about one thing, it always seems EXTRA hot in Haiti. I’m a beach girl, but since my dad doesn’t want us going down to the main beach without this huge entourage I just live in the pool at our house in Pétion-Ville. I’d take the beach over the pool any day.
Did you learn any Creole? Good words, not the bad ones Ms. Sherley! When are you leaving for the Bahamas? Hope you and your son enjoy the rest of the summer. It will be over before you know it. BTW. I’m still TEAM GIRL hoping you’ll decide on adopting a girl than a boy
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Thanks Oxford. It’s back to normal on Monday for me. We are leaving for the Bahamas end of August, that is when my son’s long distance friends are meeting us in Atlantis for 10 days. I wanted to go to Hawaii but this is the last year for the friends to meet before college life begins.
I speak Creole & French Oxford, my step-father was Haitian.
How is your summer going so far sweetie? How did your parents marriage celebration turn out or is it this weekend?
Hey Ms. Sherley. My parents vow renewal was like two weeks ago, on a Saturday. Their first marriage was small, a Catholic ceremony but with only about 10 people in attendance including my maternal uncle (who my mum & dad adopted) and my two older brothers (who my mum adopted).
This time it was HUGE, 17 bridesmaids & groomsmen. The three oldest children (28,23,18,),plus my paternal uncles children and my parents two “grandchildren” (18, 18, 10, 2 & 1) were at the altar while the six youngest (14, 9, 6, 6, 2 & 2) walked in front of my mum.
Both of them love their wedding rings and couldn’t see changing them so my mum wears a replica of my dads band as her thumb ring and my dad wears as his thumb ring a replica of my mums band. I’m loving my mums ring so much that I’m thinking of using it as my avatar for a while.
No wedding gifts were allowed, only donations to the free medical clinics that my dad runs and Doctors Without Borders (Médecins Sans Frontières).
how i wish i was in haiti right now. *sigh*
HAPPY BIRTHFAY (FELLOW CANCER) MALIA!!!!
Happy birthday Malia!
Nia Long must not have been around alot of marriages. Hollywood doesn’t count lol