Jada Pinkett-Smith is a parent, but she’s no dictator. The mother of two recently told PEOPLE magazine that she and husband Will Smith do not raise Willow,12, and Jaden,14, in the grand ole fashion of “I’m the parent, you’re the child. Know your place.” As Jada explains, “I think that old school style of ‘I’m your parent and I’m greater than you’ doesn’t work. What I establish with my children is a partnership. I’m not necessarily dictating what is happening in their lives.”

In not dictating every move, Will and Jada have opted to treat Jaden and Willow as young adults, discussing life in its rawest form. “We can’t control what our kids learn anymore,” says the actress. “We have to inform them and have real conversations … and [create] that foundation of them feeling assured in themselves.”

So, is the new parenting approach working for Jada? Yes. “I think for our children … they feel like we really care and they come to us and go, ‘Mommy, I’m having this problem. And it’s like, ‘Okay, let’s figure this out together.’ And it empowers them,” explains Smith.

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  2. In my opinion as parent of young adults Willow and Jaden’s age there should still be some type of dictating, or else there will be no boundaries on what your child will do or say. Come on now Jada they are still children.

  3. People said the same about my mother and she raised two highly educated girls (MIT, Columbia) who are not single parents or on the streets. My issue with commenters is that we can see privileged parents do the same as Jada Pinkett-Smith and their kids rule over ours in the world outside of the home. Their children are confident, self-assured and we might call them disrespectful but they are often successful in the world.

    Not being strictly disciplined as a child made me an independent thinker. I am much more resourceful than many of my peers.

  4. I, too, am highly educated and not a single parent but I did not need strict parenting. Every child is different.

  5. If Jada don’t get those cheek implants taken out. She looks like that puppet/dummy…(whatever it is/was) named Madam. Also that thing from SAW.

      • Yes, plz have a reduction! If you’re so “honest” then admit the mistake and have those things removed.

      • The concept is great when your kids have bodyguards and don’t attend public school, but our kids live in the real world and a certain measure of control is needed. And I’m sorry but if children were wise or mature enough to handle adult situations like an adult, they’d come here adults and with no parents.

      • Lol it’s more like the crypt keeper from tales from the crypt. shame she cant see how foolish she looks, she was sooo beautiful….why

    • Why o why is she forever talking about her parenting style? It seems as if she’s always entertaining that subject!!!

  6. i agree with most comments. i think Jada needs to start telling people to read her last response the next time they ask her about her parenting. I dont care because her kids are running her and she is not governing over her kids. Yes, they will do what they want but they are a precious gift from God and how you raise them has almost everything to do with how they will act in society……i pray the light comes on that her “ole school teaching” was good…..a child should stay in a child’s place.

  7. Sherley surely said it, haha. This is VERY REPETITIVE and is becoming REAL ANNOYING. No, I didn’t read the post, but I read the heading and HAD to say something.

    People need to STOP asking Jada about her parenting style…the answer will ALWAYS be the same. It would appear Jada may not have anything really exciting “going on” that they continue to bring this topic up. #GETOVERIT

  8. How many times do we have to hear her say the same thing? My goodness. She hasn’t changed her parenting style & doesn’t think there’s a need to. Her kids..do her. They will be fine.

    Anywho..happy 12th birthday Willow!

    • Hey Ms. Sherley, how is your neck of the woods doing? My cousin goes to Juilliard but he has a generator at his home so he never even lost power (you can someone out of the islands but you can’t take the islands out of them :-) ).

      I was in Houston just before the storm hit and it was like 50 degrees. I left the house in shorts and had to go back and get changed. You would think I would be immune to the cold by now.

      The Smith’s parenting philosophy works for them (or at least they think so, but I think since they “protest so much”, they have their owns doubts about the feasibility of their actions).

      I personally have no problem with my parents being “in charge” of me. As long as my parents are legally (and to some extent, morally) liable for my actions if my actions harm someone or damage their property then they deserve to be “in charge”.

      I’m not saying that we are drones, mindlessly obeying my parents. In fact I have more latitude and leeway in personal decisions than most my age, because I have proven over the past four years that my discretion is sound. My parents only ask that we remember that in their absence we are their de facto representative and the same way that unsound actions by them can bring embarrassment to us, the reverse is also true.

      So Ms. Smith…what works for your family…keep on doing it. Only history will tell if you we just blowing air.

      • Hey sweetie, God is being good to us, got power back last night. :). I’m not attacking the Smith’s parenting style, as I am in charge of my son & he has no say so till he’s at least 25 :). I’m simply saying it’s repetitive..we have heard it already.

      • i dont think they protest so much, rather, the interview questions are not changing. Its almost as if they keep asking the same thing so, readers will make a big deal out of it. This type of parenting is not new. I employed this method with my daughter, much to her dads dismay. He was of the ” do as I say, not as I do” & ” Do it because I said so” schools of parenting. THANK GOD I took over and he spent more time out the house, cuz, my baby would have been a very unhappy person now.

        An example of this is when I had the sex talk with her. Her dad wanted to wait till she turn 13, I had it with her in steps and degrees from the age of 10 till 14. I was brutally honest and raw at times. I never lied to her about sex or anything, children can call bulls*$t a mile away. I NEVER told her to wait to have sex, NEVER told her it was gross or unenjoyable. Quite the opposite. I told her it was great , felt great and what she have between her leg belong to her to do what she will, with it, whenever she felt she was ready. Her education as well, I allowed her to steer that course, she know herself, she know how much she can handle. She ahd her first bf when she thought she was ready and mature enough. THIS TYPE OF PARENTING WORKS you just tailor it for every child as they are all different. My daughter is turning 19 in December, and is just one semester short of her degree in Human Resource Management ABE.

        • Trust – the Smiths don’t only do what you described – anyone can do that – it’s called being honest while guiding. I trust your child could “do math” by 11, which Willow admitted publicly she could not do….and apparently, the Smiths are fine with her choice to barely attend to her academic studies, which you also didn’t seem to allow your child to guide herself into. Hey – maybe you informed and had real conversations with your child so that at 11 y/o your daughter refrained from wrapping her legs around a stripper pole & then tweeting it to the world? And perhaps you managed to create a partnership with your child so that the end result was a tween who neither fronted or actually got a tongue ring, and learned from your grand ole parenting skills that tweeting such pics of this might not be a good choice either at such a young age. Call it what you may, but PLENTY of people have managed to have honest discussions with their children, guided them in productive adulthoods, and still managed to maintain the stance of a parent. I’m one of them, and so is my 19 y/o daughter who benefitted greatly from the talks her old-school Dad had with her (they helped create the determined, self-assured, and sophisticated young woman she’s blossomed into who accepts NO sketchy situations. So, no, neither myself nor my husband has endorsed her giving the most precious part of her to a boyfriend when she’s ready, because adulthood is a journey through varying levels of maturity & sometimes you feel ready for something that you’re not, nor are you ready for the consequences of your actions. Condoms break, folks don’t put them on, and you KNOW men can change – and I would NEVER want my baby girl to deal with the “baby Daddy” situation or a disease. Rather, we strive to live lives that allow us to say do as we’re doing and have done, and we’re honest about the mistakes we’ve made along the way so our kids can do better. It is by no means easy, but it works for us.
          BTW – Congrats on your daughter’s accomplishments! Smile BIG!!!!!

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