The age between being sweet little kids and being angry adolescences can be the hardest years for both parents and kids. These are the years when parents not only have the hardest time understanding their kids, but kids seem to have a hard time understanding themselves. They are changing both physically and mentally and everyone is having a difficult time trying to make sense out of everything that’s going on. Here are 8 truths about “tweens” that may help you survive them and them survive themselves.
1. It’s hard for them to ask for help- Most of the time they probably want to figure things out on their own because they may be embarrassed to talk to you about the changes that they are going through, but it’s important that they know that you’re always available if they need you.
2. They do judge you- They think you’re out touch and they’re turning their little noses up at your sense of fashion, your musical taste and your hairstyle every day.
3. They think you’re clueless- In their minds, you can’t possibly understand what they’re going through because things were completely different when YOU were their age. (You felt the same about your mom).
4. They actually need you- When life gets too rough, they’ll choose you over their friends every single time. Deep down they know that you will protect them from the harms of the world.
5. You embarrass them- No matter how put together you feel, something you do or say will still embarrass them no matter what.
6. You give bad advice- You don’t understand boys. You don’t understand school. You just don’t. Don’t feel bad when they’d rather go to friends for words of wisdom. It’s important to just be there to lend a hand and be the voice of reason for important things.
7. They actually love you- Though they have a funny way of showing it, they actually love you just as much as they did when they are toddlers.
8.They’re still kids- Even though they’re caught in a strange Twilight Zone age, they are still kids that are trying to figure out how to get to the next stage in life. They are maturing and their bodies are starting to change. It’s a scary feeling when the most important thing in your world used to be your Barbies and Hot Wheels and some days still is and some days you stand any toy at all.
Weigh in. What are some other “tween” truths that have helped you survive your child?