Being a mother can be one of the most fulfilling roles in a woman’s life, but it is not the only one. Many woman took time away from other aspirations so that they could focus on being a mother, but then when the time was right, jumped to get back in the game. For some women, that once missed opportunity was school. Although diving back into the books, lectures, and papers sounds exciting, it can also be overwhelming when you still have to maintain your life at home. Here are some helpful tips to balance being a mom and being a student:

1. Get everyone involved- Don’t feel like you’re in it alone. You may be the one that’s hitting the books, but you don’t have to be the only one that’s doing the laundry, the cooking, and cleaning. Enlist the entire family’s help.

2. Make a schedule- Planning out your day is going to be more important than ever. You are going to need to make sure that mommy and student roles don’t overlap where they don’t need to. If you have a study group at the same time that you need to pick up your son from practice, some things need to be rearranged before the last minute.

3. Set aside family time- Make sure that you have times when you are just mom and not a student. Take time to give your complete focus to your kids.

4. Be realistic- If you have group assignments or study groups that don’t meet your needs, make it known from the beginning. Many students have something they have to work around, whether it’s a job or kids or extracurricular activities. It’s ok to be honest.

5. Talk to guidance counselors- They have experience and training in dealing with each type of student. If you are struggling to maintain workload, seek assistance. They may be able to help you balance things or suggest you change your class schedule.

Weigh in. Have you had to juggle school and parenthood? If so, what are some things that worked for you?

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  1. I was still in college when I had my first child. It was very difficult ’cause I didn’t want to leave her in child care, but I only had a semester left before I could graduate. My daughter got sick and had fevers every week for almost two months ’cause of all the new germs at the centre. I had to leave school TWICE a week sometimes to go get her ’cause she had a fever of 102. When you look back at what it took to get you where you are now you wonder “how did I do that”? “that’s madness”, but it can be done, it just won’t be easy, AT ALL.

  2. I juggled being a single mother of a special needs child, full time employment & full time school load. It was very difficult. I worked an over night shift, attended school during the day & placed my son in after-school program so I can get 3hrs of sleep. I spent my evening with my son on my lap or next to me as I wrote papers and did homework. Was a difficult time, but I don’t regret it. It can be done. Just keep in mind it wont last forever.

    • Thank you Sherley. This was very helpful advice for me because with a second kid on the way and a 7 year old daughter plus a full-time job, I am not sure if I would ever make it back to school to finish my degree in Construction Management esp with the economy being the way it is and time does not seem to be on my side

      • Mz Independent, you can do it. Take your classes while your children are in school & day care. Take online classes, take a combination of both but you can do it. Limit the number of classes you take, it may take you longer to graduate, but you’ll reach your goal. Load up on vitamins & make sure to catch up on sleep when you can as stress can make you sick. It will be a difficult road, but with prayer & perseverance, you will make it. It will be worth it when you finish. Good luck! :)

        • I would agree, I am a mother of a six year old son and a full time student online. It is very hard for me. I have been trying to do my work while my son is in school but there is so much to be done at home. One of the things, I learned about in my orientation class is time management. I love school but I have flunked two classes while trying to juggle school, taking care of my family, and controlling my health issues and my son’s (he has asthma ). It is all worth it in the end.

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